I’m sure you know that you shouldn’t have to “try” to make a man love you, or be someone you’re not.
A man should simply love you for who you are, the real woman inside.
And if that’s not enough for him, then it’s his problem. Not yours.
I get it.
Here’s the thing…
Every so often I get a few emails from women in response to my newsletters that say the following:
“I’m tired of hearing and feeling like I have to be something I’m not to try and find love.”
“Why should I do all this work? It’s time men did their part.”
“I’m tired of the games. I just want to have true love in my life.”
Ever thought or felt this way?
Ever have any female friends who feel or talk this way?
What if, for some reason, you’re NOT attracting that kind of love and devotion you want and know you deserve from a man? Even though you’re a really great person?
Does that mean that men just aren’t capable of seeing you for who you are?
And that men are unable to truly love the real you?
Something I hear all the time from women who keep making a few of the same mistakes that keep their relationships working is that men just don’t want “real women”.
They couldn’t be more wrong.
Despite any beliefs you may have, men can and do love REAL WOMEN.
Ironically, most of the great single men I know are simply trying to find that one real woman who they can share a great life with.
Of course, most of these men are also making their own mistakes along the way.
And if you want to stay open to the kind of deep and lasting love that is possible… then becoming certain that things are likely to NOT WORK OUT from the start is a quick way to ruin things before they even get started for you.
Don’t make this mistake of becoming “negative” and pessimistic about men and their ability (or their inability) to have real relationships.
Why, you ask?
Because men can sense it when a woman has even the slightest negative in her mouth about past or future relationships.
And it’s an INSTANT TURN OFF for a man.
When a man senses that a woman has had several bad relationships with men…
And he can feel the “negative energy” or the fear or pain that she’s still holding onto…
It doesn’t make a man feel like nurturing or caring more for a woman he’s just getting to know better. (It would be nice if it worked this way, but in reality it doesn’t.)
Instead, it makes a man see her as the kind of woman he needs to STAY AWAY FROM.
Translation – he’ll shut off to the idea of a real relationship with any woman he senses is feeling this way inside.
Now, let me get right to the point here since I’m probably telling you a few things you likely aren’t enjoying.
When a woman has the “I shouldn’t have to do anything for a man to love me” attitude…
This is one of the VERY WORST ATTITUDES a man can see or sense in a woman.
Because in a man’s mind, it leads him to believe that getting close to this woman would lead to a very DIFFICULT and FRUSTRATING relationship.
One filled with struggle, fights, and challenges that most men simply don’t know how to handle… or simply don’t want to.
Now, let me share a tip with you.
It’s a secret that might sound simple to you at first… but is VERY powerful.
Here it is-
If you are dating a man, or in a relationship, then whether you see it or not… a man wants nothing more than to PLEASE YOU.
Every man wants a woman who is easy to please.
And, in fact, men have a kind of universal understanding of what makes a “good partner” and a “bad partner”.
And at the very top of every man’s universal list of what makes a “bad partner” in a woman is a woman who is HARD TO PLEASE.
Part of you already knows this from experience.
A man will completely shut down if he senses that you are HARD TO PLEASE.
For a man to want a relationship with a woman, he has to feel like he’s both:
Great at PLEASING YOU.
That you’re also EASY TO PLEASE.
Still following me here?
Now, what happens when a man can tell that a woman has kind of “given up” and just wants a “comfortable” and loving relationship where everything is “easy”.
As in “I just want to be loved.”
In a man’s mind, when he doesn’t know a woman or isn’t close to her yet, this is both a HUGE TURN OFF to a man… and it tells him that when she feels anything less than perfect in the relationship she is going to become what a man would think of as very “EMOTIONALLY UNSTABLE“.
Now again, in an IDEAL WORLD, a man would become MORE UNDERSTANDING and SUPPORTIVE when he sees his woman becoming emotionally frustrated.
But the truth is that men DON’T respond this way.
Actually, most men respond in a way that is the exact OPPOSITE.
Most men WITHDRAW from situations with women where they sense that a woman is feeling intensely emotional and frustrated.
Here’s the point to tie this all together…
I’ve learned there are 2 basic ways of living in the world, whether you’re a man or a woman-
The First Way:
You can live your life with the expectation that the world should give you what you want, just because you are you
“A man should love me just for me”
The Second Way:
You can life your life with the understanding that you have the power to create what you want- by ALIGNING with the world around you
The choice is yours.
If you’re waiting for everyone else in the world (Men) to finally wake up and “get you”… but no one else seems to get you at all…
Then I imagine you could be waiting a long time.
But if you’d like to enjoy the confidence and fulfillment that comes from not just wanting to BE LOVED… but from INSPIRING the right man to share love with you…
Then I have 2 tips to share with you.
Think of these things as a couple of “shortcuts” I’ve put together for you after literally YEARS of time spent helping women create better love lives for themselves-
Tip #1: How To Attract Love From Within Yourself
If you’d like to become more centered in your “inner world” of your THOUGHTS and EMOTIONS…
That way the real woman inside you will naturally and authentically inspire love and appreciation from the man in your life…
Then I highly recommend you check out how tons of other women have turned their love life around by discovering what’s in my “Ready For Love” program right here:
Tip #2: Attracting Love In Your Everyday Actions
If you’d like to learn what the simple and easy things are that create that INTENSE ATTRACTION inside a man…
And you’d like to have the man in your life quickly start seeing you as the one special and rare woman who he never wants to let go of…
Then you need to go now and check out the tips and secrets inside my “Natural & Lasting Attraction” program right here:
I’ll talk to you again soon, and best of luck in Life and Love.