Here Are The Top Ten Reasons Why Women Keep Themselves From Living The Love Life Of Their Dreams— And How To Make Sure You Avoid Every One Of Them…
MISTAKE #1: Betting Your Love Life On His “Potential”
Do you know any women who want the man they’re dating to behave differently?
Of course you do.
And just like me, I’m sure you have friends who date guys who don’t have much going for them or who don’t treat them very well.
Somehow these women always have an excuse for the guy’s shortcomings.
What’s going on here?
It’s actually very simple.
Women (and men) don’t base their choices of men on how “nice” or “good” someone is to them day-to-day.
Women choose the men they do because they feel a powerful GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION for them.
And guess what?
Some women will continue to put up with a guy that doesn’t treat them very well.
Sometimes for months or years…
But why in the world would a woman do that!?
Well, to put it simply, they confuse the strong attraction they feel for the guy with a deeper “connection”.
Women who do this are doomed to end up in failed relationships with the “wrong” guys.
How do I know?
Because I’ve seen it at least a hundred times…
And because I’ve been this guy in the past myself.
Thinking back on past dating and relationships I’ve had, I was selfish and didn’t offer much.
I’m amazed the women put up with me.
But they did…all the while hoping that I would somehow change.
The women I dated hoped I’d change.
The only thing they saw in me that led them to want to keep me around was the “potential” they saw in me to share my feelings and communicate with them.
The potential for something better and the potential for me to change and be a better lover, boyfriend, companion or whatever…
The truth was, I was hopelessly bad at these things at the time.
And more importantly, I wasn’t even at a place in my life where I knew how to or was interested in developing a deep and committed relationship – with ANYONE.
But deep down these women believed that if they tried hard enough, that it would make up for what was lacking.
They believed that I could become someone else with them…. and that this would be easy for us both.
Talk about a losing battle.
It doesn’t make a lot of “logical” sense…
But until you accept that lots of women do this AND that YOU could be doing it on some level, you’ll NEVER have the success with men that you choose and want.
MISTAKE #2: Assuming You “Get” Men & Their Psychology Men are different from women.
You need to accept this fact, and deal with it.
When a woman sees a man, she can very quickly pick apart certain things about his style, body language, status and character that will tell her all kinds of things about him.
Lot’s of women don’t even consciously see that they do this because the process is so obvious and simple for them.
But does the same apply for men?
As you probably already know, men are generally more visual.
As a result, they often don’t understand non-verbal communication as well as women.
And men often lack what women have in emotional awareness and “intuition”.
Women don’t seem to remember this about men.
So do men feel sexually attracted to w0men based just on looks? Or is something else going on?
Well, after studying this topic for years now, and talking to thousands of men and women, I can tell you that men have their “attraction mechanisms” triggered by things OTHER than looks.
Especially when it comes to longer term relationships.
Looks just happen to be the most obvious way…
But looks are NOT the most powerful.
If you know how to use your body language AND communication correctly, you can make men feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you see that hot, great looking guy that you got to know.
But it’s not an accident.
You have to LEARN how to do this.
And ANY woman can learn how…
MISTAKE #3: Pretending To Be Something For A Man
In the desire to please a man, women are constantly doing things to get a man’s attention, to get him to like them or to make him more attracted or in love with them.
Another HORRIBLE idea.
Lots of women mistakenly think that doing unusual things to try and get a guys attention will make him magically see what a great catch they are and want to be with them.
Wrong.
Men YOU TRULY WANT are never attracted to the types of women who kiss up to them, make weak plays for affection or complain to get what they want… EVER.
Don’t get me wrong here. Things like being sexy for a man or encouraging him to share his feelings can be good, but it has to be genuine, unselfish, and most of all timely.
You don’t have to act like an “easy” woman for men to like you, and you certainly don’t have to play like he’s some gift to the Earth.
Doing these things actually works to subtly, at an subconscious level, lower your social status with a man, which has EVERYTHING to do with how he sees you as a woman.
So if you think that making him more attracted to you means “playing to the man’s fantasies” from the start, think again.
You’ll never succeed by looking for a man’s approval, finding your way into his heart through sex and not being yourself.
MISTAKE #4: Sharing How You “Feel” Too Early With Him
Another huge and unfortunate mistake that most women make with men is sharing how they “feel” too early on.
Listen…
Attractive, single, successful men are rare.
They get a LOT of attention from women.
Most women don’t realize this, but attractive men are being approached in one way or another all the time by women.
And guess what?
Attractive wen have usually dated a lot of women.
That’s right. They have EXPERIENCE.
They know what to expect.
And one thing that turns an attractive men off and sends him running away faster than just about anything…
It’s a woman who starts saying “You know, I really, REALLY like you” after one or two dates.
This signals to the man that you’re just like one of those “clingy” stereotype women who want to rush into a relationship and can’t control yourself from wanting a man to fulfill them and complete their lives.
This does NOT spell ATTRACTION for a man.
Don’t do it. Lean back. Relax.
There’s a much better way…
MISTAKE #5: Misreading The Important “Signals” That Men Send
Men are constantly communicating how they feel about a woman and giving away big secrets about themselves.
Most women don’t pay attention to these signals or recognize them for what they really are.
The signals men send have 4 main levels:
- Social: Where the man is at in his own life – stability, confidence, direction
- Emotional: Whether or not he’s “emotionally available”
- Physical: If he’s attracted to you… and for what reasons
- Love State: If he’s open to building and growing a relationship in the future
The funny thing is that men send signals in these areas completely on accident.
That’s great news to women…
Men can’t help it!
You need to learn to recognize these signals to get anywhere serious with a man.
MISTAKE #6: Relying On Your Natural Ability To Judge A Man’s Character
People aren’t easy to figure out.
Especially men.
The last several years of my life I’ve spent hundreds of hours learning to understand people.
I’ve studied peoples behavior, “inner psychology” and more specifically how they think and act when they’re dating.
From what I’ve seen, both men and women have their own secret ways of saying things.
But you can only see these secret communications if you know what to look for.
Women communicate with hints, body language, sarcasm, and flirting when they’re first getting to know a man.
They can either directly or indirectly let men know if they’re open to something more serious.
Men are different.
Men generally communicate with sarcasm, humor, cockyness and other “indirect” displays of status.
VERY RARELY will a man be able to honestly communicate to a woman whether or not he’s ready or capable of developing a meaningful relationship.
Aside from their sexual interests, men send very indirect signals about where they’re at.
If you don’t know how to read through the signals men send, then you’ll get the wrong message.
Getting the wrong messages from men causes women more pain and heartache than any other issue around.
You can avoid this pain if you learn to indentify a good man from a bad one.
MISTAKE #7: Expecting A Relationship To Make You Happy
A mistake I’ve seen women make is thinking a guy will change her life and make her happy and fulfilled.
And sure, there are situations and relationships where this happens.
But those are the exceptions, not the rule.
Nothing says “Run!” to a man faster than hearing or sensing that a woman immediately wants him to take care of her.
And the men who ARE looking for this kind of situation aren’t exactly the most healthy, loving, nurturing people out there.
Think, “controlling, macho, or serious Mom Issues!”
So let me be clear…
I think it’s important that people help fulfill each other in their lives, whether it’s dating, a relationship, whatever.
But if a woman communicates that she’s looking for a guy to take care of her, complete her, make her whole, and all that kind of stuff – it has a VERY negative effect on what the man will think of her.
It doesn’t have to be spoken by the woman either…
If a woman thinks or feels this way, the man will see it and pick up on it, regardless.
This is arguably the worst thing a woman can do early on when dating a man.
So what can you do as a woman?
You can get the man interested and involved in your life in a more “natural” way, where he’ll be motivated to make you care about your happiness and fulfillment on his own.
This is the only way it really works for people – male or female.
Self-motivation is much stronger than external motivation.
But you have to know how to create this situation with a man… and it rarely happens by accident.
MISTAKE #8: Trying To “Convince” Him To Like You Or Love You
What do most women do when they meet a man that they REALLY like… but he’s just not that interested or isn’t as serious?
Right! They try to “convince” the man to feel differently.
Well, I have news for you…
YOU WILL NEVER CHANGE HOW A MAN “FEELS” WHEN IT COMES TO ATTRACTION!
Never, ever, ever.
You cannot convince a man to feel differently about you with “logic and reasoning”.
Think about it.
If a man doesn’t “feel it” for you, how in the world do you expect to change that by being “reasonable” with him?
But we all do it.
Men are the worst at this by the way.
They’re always complimenting women who don’t like them and buying them gifts.
Women like the behavior sometimes, but it NEVER makes the woman like the man.
She might enjoy what she gets out of it, but it doesn’t change the way she FEELS about him.
When a man just isn’t interested, women will try and chase, compliment, convince and do their best to change his mind with logical and rational approaches.
Bad idea. Another one that will never work.
MISTAKE #9: Not Knowing What To Do In Each Type Of Situation
A man has a clear idea of what he wants from a woman…
And I don’t mean just sex.
I know, it might be hard to believe, but if you’re out on a date with a man, he already has an idea of what he wants from you.
And if you don’t know HOW to find this out, and you just sit there looking at him and flirting, or trying things you think will make him want you, he won’t help!
If you don’t know what to do in each situation, you’ll probably screw it up… and LOSE EVERYTHING.
MISTAKE #10: Not Getting Help
This is the biggest mistake of all.
This mistake keeps women from EVER having the kind of success and finding the kind of man and relationship that they truly want.
I know, you don’t like to make yourself look weak or helpless. We don’t like to ask for help.
Hey, I’ve been there myself.
Let me tell you a little about me.
Over the last few years it’s been hard to watch the women around me (even those I dated) struggle to understand the men they were attracted to or dating.
It frustrated the hell out of me and I made the decision to do whatever it took to help the women I knew learn how to be successful with men and dating.
Well, after a lot of hard work and doing all kinds of crazy things to learn the real-world truth about men and women, I finally figured things out for myself.
I’ve read hundreds of books on psychology, human behavior, dating/relationship advice for men and women, love, attraction, communication, and more. The list goes on.
I can now approach just about any situation with dating and feel confident and understand everything that’s going on in an interaction.
Best of all, I’ve been able to share my knowledge and help women become more successful with men and dating.
It’s been a very rewarding experience, and it’s how I became fascinated with the female perspective in the dating world.
I’ve helped women get rid of that sick, insecure feeling… the one you get when you’re lonely, you’ve been hurt or lied to, or when a man you have feelings for says “he’s not ready”.
You don’t have to be afraid you might wind up being lied to, cheated on or that you’ll end up alone.
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I wanted to design and create a book that ANY woman could easily understand.
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I want to help you create an amazing relationship with the right man… without having to deal with all the wrong men, be “manipulated” or experience the pain and loss I’ve helped other women avoid.
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Your Friend,
Christian Carter
OMG!DuDE dis is so TRUE im going to let all my friends read dis it’s good to get dis frm a man’s point of view dat man r not just assholes dat only think of them selves but actually care.dis answered some of my relationship question’s thanks alot!!!!!!….=p
im not sure what to think, you have said some things that are true and some that im not so sure about. im in a relationship and i love him i know that bacause i le him walk all over me, iv tryed to change for him to be everything he wants but it hasnt worked. hes cheated on me twice and i dont know were to go or who to ask for help. maybe i just have to do it on my own im not sure but it sounds like you know what your goin on about.
Hi Nikki,
You are welcome and thanks for spreading the word.
Hi.
My man of 12 months has just asked me to marry him. I said yes ‘cos we’re madly in love with each other.
This will be my second marriage. My first one lasted 12 yrs and was fabulous 98% of the time and we stay friends to this day.
I dont claim to know all about relationships thats way i looked at your site.
But, i stil have lots to learn and want this marriage to last. More importantly i have a 7yr old daughter and he has a 12 yr old son, they get on soo well and we have a lovely family.
I will take any help i can get ‘cos these people mean the world to me. Thanks M.x
I’ve been dating this guy for two months. The first day we met I believe we connected in away neither of us had ever expierenced before. He and I both were in a long relationship. He was in his for nine years and I was married for 13. We began dating and weeks later he told me that he feel as though he love me. I didnt know how to respond, although I felt like I loved him. Since then, he tells me he loves me everyday and shows me in more ways then I can count. Is this to good to be true, or should I not worry about it and let God’s will be done, if it is God’s will? I feel a very special bond with this man. What should I do? Also, there is no sex invovled at this time.
I was with my husband12 years and hes left me for the third time. He said hes thinking about me all the time, thinking about coming back to me but hes applying for a house 50mile away beside his family. He says he still loves me but he doesnt think hell want to be with me in a couple of months also he hasnt moved on and he doesnt want me to but i have to sit and wait to see if he wants to come back or not because he doesnt know. what can i do to push him my way
To Krista,
Any woman who puts up with a man cheating on her even once is simply
weak , weak, weak. Leave the bum. There are a lot better men out there.
The same applies to men whose women cheat on them. But everything I usually
read and see seems to prove that women are weaker than men. Women keep staying
with these bums that cheat on them. Men generally have no problems walking
away in a heartbeat. Even killing them, cutting off their vital organs, etc to
deal with the issue. Look at history.
Precisely why Hillary Clinton would have been a bad president. Any woman or
man that is too weak to leave a man or woman like that is not strong enough
to rule a country. That is for sure. In fact Adultery is really the only reason besides
unbeliever that the Bible okays Divorce for.
Thank you so much for this powerful,wonderful information. I feel like i’m healed spiritualy and physicaly. I would love to receive one of your books, and now i’ll be careful of men and be aware.Thanks a lot God bless you
Just because this is the internet, does not make it okay to misspell words and not use punctuation. If you are trying to communicate, using those are the basic tools will help you to be understood.
Instead of worrying about your relationships with men, maybe some time spent reading a book and learning to write would be well worth it.
Thank you so much for posting this, it really helped me out with all of my relationship questions. My boyfriend and I have been dating for over three months and we dated for a few months back in August. The point is, he used to treat me like crap, and now he’s great to me. Now that we’re dating again i’m being a horrible girlfriend and i’m confused with my feelings and how to act. This helped, thank you.
Oh, and amen sistah to you, Amy Jane!
Christian My husband of thirty years has been threatening me by packing his bags and telling me he’s going to punish me by leaving me. On our anniversary he did not buy me a gift he took me out to dinner and informed me he did not have any money because he purchased a boat and a mother’s day gift for his mother. So I packed his bags took them to his mother’s and changed the locks to our home. I do admit I miss him so, but I will not be treated in this manner. In your opinion, did I go overboard?
There have been other issues as well . He has informed me that his personal life is his own business and he has been neglecting our home and our grandchildren for over a year. I feel deep in my soul that there is a younger woman involved in this picture. I believe she is about twenty-eight or thirty, we are fifty years old. Thanks for listening.
I was with a man I met online, after talking for a few days, he wanted to meet, so he drove 300 miles to see me. when we met it felt as if we had known each other for a long time, conversation was easy, and I felt so at ease to be myself. This man was so giving, he would come every other weekend to visit, he cared my needs before his when we made love, catered to me in so many ways, I began to feel guilty for accepting all this attention and tried to compensate by possibly loving him too much. anyhow at the 5th month we were together he got extremely upset when i left his side, and continued to be verbally hostile in a sarcastic way, after he returned to go home everything was as usual he called daily and I thought he had gotten over that episode, so we planned to go on a trip that week but I couldn’t make it. there were to be 6 of us going but since I couldn’t go supposedly only 5 were to go. Come to find out 6 went, some how this other woman ended up taking my place, and when he got back he told me he had a change of heart, and cheated on me, so I said goodbye, that was hard, but what amazes me is all that attention, and emotion he was putting out there to show how much he loved me only to turn around and not even consider me when i wasnt available, such a betrayal, why do men change their feelings so quickly, and trade someone’s heart for a moment of pleasure? It seems to me that men choose sex over love in the majority of situations, since he only met this woman slept with her and now they are together.
this is patrick. My man of five years will finall ylove me. being a guy i thought i knew guys but i guess i was wrong. oh thisis absolutley fabulous. thnks so much to all the gurls who put effort into love! this is what we all need. OH frankie and i should be hapy now. thanks so much girls!
xoxoxo!! pat <3
Greetings to the reader…
I would like to share with you readers my experiance.
Man and Woman have lost the plot, there is no true feelings left in this world.
People are like Sodom and Gomorah,just hoping one another,man know what woman like so they tell them what they want to hear and not the truth, LIES LIES and more LIES.
Some woman are the same as it happened to one of my friends.
People you have lost the true meaning of LOVE.
I know my self i will NEVER NEVER trust another man again.
I would like to share with you readers my experiance.
Man and Woman have lost the plot, there is no true feelings left in this world.
People are like Sodom and Gomorah,just hoping one another,man know what woman like so they tell them what they want to hear and not the truth, LIES LIES and more LIES.
Some woman are the same as it happened to one of my friends.
People you have lost the true meaning of LOVE.
I know my self i will NEVER NEVER trust another man again.
OMG I AGREE WITH YOU… SOO TRUE… I WILL NEVER TRUST ANOTHER MAN AGAIN.. IM 23 YEARS OLD AND ALL THE TIME GUYS ONLY PLAY ME AND HURT MY FEELING.. IM VERY PRETTY I GUESS GOOD PERSON, WITH AMAZING FEELINGS. AND I ALWAYS HAVE TO END CRYING, IM REALLY DONE WITH GUYS.. AND LIKE U SAY THERE IS NO TRUE FEELINGS IN THIS WORLD.. THANKS
hi readers
its true that most of the people has lost the true meaning of LOVE,bt to get to the meaning u have to compromise so that u love, without that most of us more especially women we are going to die young because we want to chase what we call love,geniune love never runs away it has hope in hard times,never boost,patient and lastly humble.lastly true love never have communication break down,friends talk.
I met this guy and we went on three dates, on the third date we got a bit carried away in his car we didn’t sleep together but things did get heated.
I instantly felt that this was a big mistake although things could have been worse. Now I get the impression that he has lost interest in me. I just wish i could have second chance. Is there anyway I can make things go back to how they were? or should I just forget about it and move on? I was so excited about what the future could hold for us…
Dear Christian,
I’ve been receiving and reading your emails for about 1 1/2 years, about as long as I’m in my present relationship. If you can help me work this one out, I’ll make ALL my friends buy your book…and I have hundreds of friends!
I met a widower on line and started dating him although he wasn’t really my “type.” He was very kind and a good father to his six kids (ages 10-25), raising them alone for about 5 years. He immediately tried to get physical with me. I held him off as long as I could but gave in eventually. He insisted that I could not meet his kids right away because they had been hurt in his two previous relationships and became easily attached to sitters, etc. So I waited. Often I would go to his house at night and did meet two of his sons. He, in the mean time, became friendly with my kids and did things to win them over. After three very intense months of physical involvement, he stopped communicating with me. I was very hurt, but would not pursue him in any way. I knew I could not make him feel anything for me that wasn’t in his heart. Shortly afterwards however, he returned, saying he had been home alone depressed, and I let him back in my life. He still did not want me to meet his other children yet. He just kept telling me to “be patient.” He left again after three months of spending weekends here and fixing things around the house for me (his little ones go to grandmas every weekend). Then, after six months apart, he returned again recently, and we picked up where we left off. Now it is Christmas, and I feel him pulling away again. I know he is sad around the holidays and shuts himself away with his kids who are home from college. I want so badly to be strong enough to ignore his texts and make him go away for good. I realize that this could drag on for years and never become anything solid. I’ve been very blunt with him and said that I feel very much for him. I said if he didn’t feel that way too, he should go away for good, yet he keeps asking to come back. He knows I have never slept around with other men and I am devoted to him. I did, however, start dating when we were apart this summer. He asked about it and said that soon he wanted to make a commitment between us. I have never pressured or tried to make him say or feel anything he didn’t have in his heart. I think that he wants me, but that he gets fearful and runs off. I am always surprised that he returns. I know that he’s not dating around, when he eventually misses me too much, he comes back. It is very sad, I don’t want to allow him to hurt me. I want to leave him for good, but when we are together, it is so wonderful. Not just great sex and a lot of affection, but he really opens up to me, and we talk and encourage each other. We have very much the same values and goals. He is always very ready and eager to repair anything I need done in my home. He is good to my kids. I think he is a good man, maybe just not healed up yet from a very bad breakup. What can I do to get him to either get lost or stick around for good? This middle-of-the-road stuff stinks. I know he feels something for me because I never try to get him back or cry or beg or anything, but he always comes back. Still, I feel if he was really crazy for me, he wouldn’t leave. Can a man’s financial and other problems really make him put sexlife and his lovelife on hold? That’s basically what it is. Having those struggles has been a great blow to his male ego, and it is difficult for him to not be able to conquer that. (You should know that he has NEVER asked to borrow or borrowed money from me.) I don’t want to be mean and fight with him. We have never argued or spoken unkindly to one another. But at the same time, I can’t let him just keep coming and going. This could go on for years, and I will possibly have forfeited some other better opportunity.
Help me, Christian!!!! What is this guy thinking? He even begged me for months to get a job where he works. He actually made me go on line and apply. I told him I didn’t think it would be a good idea. He kept insisting, and I recently got a job there. There are over 20,000 employees, so we will never see each other there, but I still feel bad, knowing that he is there, and we are apart.
I wish I had never agreed to meet him, but I did. Now what do I do with him? A lot of the advice I’ve read from you has been very helpful, and I think you might have some valuable insights. I’m desperate. It would be easy to just drop him and move on. I know there are plenty of guys out there. I’m not at a loss for opportunities. But what if he is the right one, and I’m just not handling this correctly? Please Please Please Help !!!
Heyy Im Jayde :) I really like this guy he is 16 i am 15 and i dont no if he likes me! he says he does but i just think he mite wnt to get with me for sex! i mean the 2nd time we saw each other we had sex! we didnt mean to but it was so beutiful! it really was but i have to walk 3 miles to see him coz he will never come see me :/ and i dont no what to do beacuse we talk on fb and msn all the time and everything but does he really like me?? i dont no! i no i am only 15 but i really do like him :) But cood he just be using me ?? i dont no :/
MY SAPOSED DEAD LOVE OF MY LIFE, MY TWIN, AS WE WE’RE EA OTHER’S BESTEST’S FRIENDS,LOVERS OUT OF ALL MY LIFE THAT I’VE COME ACROSSED ON A PHONE DATELINE AFTER 30 YR’S NOT KNOWING WHO I WAS TALKING 2 TIL HE DESCRIBED HIS TATOO’S INCLUDING THE ONES FROM THE MILITARY WELL AS HE DISCRIBED THIS ONE THAT 1 IN PITICULAR THAT’S WHEN I’D SEEN A GHOST I WAS SHAKING LIKE A LEAF IN HIGH WINDS & I BELIEVE HE WAS THEN SHOCKED OF COMING 2 KNOW OF WHO I WAS & HE’S BEEN NICE BUT MADE UP EXCUSES AS 2 NOT GETTING TOGETHER W/ME SUCH AS HAVING 2 WORK & TEMPORARY JOB TRANSFER & STATED WHEN HE FLEW IN & WHEN WE’D GET TOGETHER WE’D TALK ABOUT A LTR WELL HE PROLONGED ME 4 ABOUT A YR BEFORE BEFORE WE WERE EVEN TALKING ABOUT GETTING TOGETHER WELL HE’ SAID THAT HE WAS LIVING W/ A GUY & HIS WIFE FROM WORK & THEY DID’T WANT HIM GIVIN OUT THE PHONE # & EVEN HIS KID’S I’V TALKED 2 HAD TOLD ME THEY HAD’NT EVEN TALKED 2 HIM & HIS SISTER WAS THE ONLY 1 THAT HAD A ADDRESS 4 HIM & THAT SHE WAS’NT ABLE 2 GIVE IT 2 THEM ANYWAY AS I’M REMMEMBERING & I DID SEND IN THE MAIL LETTER’S I’V WRITTEN & GIFT’S FOR EVERY HOLIDAY INCLUDING 1’S 4 THE KIDS I HAD SENT HIS REGERSTERED MAIL WHEN I GOT THE SIGNITRUE BACK I SAID HUH! HE STILL WRITES THE SAME AS HE DID BACK THEN WELL WHEN I HAD TALK 2 THE OLDEST BOY HE SAID HE SIGNED 4 IT & I SAID I DON’T KNOW ABOUT THAT CUZZ AS I KNEW U HAD 2 SHOW ID & PROVE THAT IT’S U BEFORE THEY EVEN GIVE IT 2 U &N HE SAY’S MY DAD & I HAVE THE SAME SIGNITURE I SENT THE OLDEST ONE HIS GIFT THE SAME WAY AS 2 I COULD MATCH UP SIGNITURES THEY DID’NT MATCH OF COURSE! HE’S BEEN SUCH A PISTOL & 1/2 I DID GO DOWN THERE FROM NORTH MICHIGAN 2 SOUTHERN OHIO MORE OR LESS ACROSS 2 STATES BETWEN X-MAS & NEW YEARS IT TOOK ME 15-16 HR’S DRIVIN STRAIGHT THRU & COULD’NT FIND IT & HE KNEW WAY AHEAD OF TIME THAT I HAD DRECTIONS 2 HIS HOUSE & I DID CALL AHEAD OF TIME THAT I WAS COMING SUCH AS THE SONG TNT BY AC/DC HIM BEING BIG TNT & I’M LITTLE TNT BIG THINGS COME IN SM PKGS IT GOES BACK 4 WHEN WE WERE TOGETHER & I SHOWED UP AFTER WELL I DID’NT HAVE VERY MUCH SLEEP @ ALL! I GOT THERE ABOUT 3:30AM & LANDED IN A HOTEL THAT THE HEAT WAS NOT ON HAVIN 2 WAIT 4 IT 2 WARM UP & DID’NT! I DID’NT GET ANY SLEEP SO HAD 2 PAY 4 ANOTHER NIGHT SO I SET OUT THAT DAY TRING 2 FIND IT AGAIN I DID YET NO CAR I DRIVE SO I DID’NT STOP AS 2 HIS OLDEST SON HAD TOLD ME HE WAS WORKING FROM 3PM-3AM SO IFIGURED WHEN A CAR WAS IN THE DRIVE I’D STOP BY W/X-MAS GIFTS 4 THE KID’S & TALKW/HIM & LEAVE THE NXT DAY WELL WHEN I GOT THERE @ 12:30-12:45PM FIGURED BESTIME HE’D B AWAKE WELL IT TOOK ME ABOUT 45MIN BEFORE SOMEONE ANSWERED THE DOOR & I WAS’NT LEAVIN TIL I WAS ABLE 2 TALK 2 SOMEONE I DID’NT TRAVEL ACROSS 2 STATES 4 NOTHING & LOW& BEHOLD IT WAS HIM & THE 1ST THING I SAID WAS 2 CONFIRM IT WAS HIM& STATE THAT I KNOW U DON’T LIKE ANYONE DROPPING ON U’R DOORSTEP & I DID CALL AHEAD OF TIME & I’V HAD A TERRIBLY LONG DRIVE & I DID’NT GET HARDLY ANY SLEEP & TOLD HIM WHAT HAPPEN HOTEL ETC..ETC.. SO I ASKED HIM AS 2 HIS SON TOLD ME PRIOR THAT HIS SISTER TOLD HIM THAT HIS DAD GOT MARRIED IN AZ & I HAD TOLD HIM IF IT WAS HIM & I THAT I WOULD’VE MADE HIM WAIT AS 2 THEY SHOULD BE A PART OF THAT WELL I ASKED HIM IF HE’D GOTTEN MARRIED & HE SAID NO &N WHO TOLD ME THAT & I TOLD HIM HIS SON & I KNOW HIS SON HAD GOTTEN REAMED 4 THAT POOR KID! ANYWAY I ASKED IF HE WAS SEEING SOMEONE HE SAID NO SO MI COVERED ALL AREA’S JUST IN CASE & THEN I ASKED HIM IF I COULD STAKE MY CLAIM HE AGREED & WE HUGGED & THEN HE CAUGHT ME OFF GUARD & STOLED A KISS I WAS TOTALLY NOT PREPARED 4 YET I GUESS HE THOUGHT IT BE ROMANTIC??? ANYWAY HE ALSO STATED RE:”HOUSE NOT BEING TIDY- UP I TOLD HIM I DID’NT CARE ABOUT THE HOUSE & I LOOKED @IT THIS WAY HE DID’NT NEED 2 IMPRESS ME CUZZ I ALREADY KNEW WHO HE WAS & THAT WAS THE ONLY THING THAT IMPRESSED ME GUESS IT DID’NT REGISTED W/HIM! ANYWAY HE ASKED IF I WAS GOING 2 BE UP WHEN HE GOT HM. I SAID I’LL TRY OR I’LL B CRASHED & I’D CLEAN-UP THE HOUSE DON’T WORRY ABOUT THAT! I KNOW I MUST’VE LOOKED LIKE HELL DUE 2 NO SLEEP FOR 2-1/2-3DAYS I CLEANED-UP THE WHOLE HOUSE YET I DIDN’T MOVE OR CHANGE AROUND ANY OF HIS STUFF HAD HIS REMOTES BY HIS CHAIR & SET HIM UP SOME READING MATERIAL ON THAT END TABLE MY STUFF CARD’S LETTERS A PLAQUE ABOUT FRIENDSHIP “FRIENDS” A SINGLE ROSE IN A VASE W/THE NEWS ARTICAL ROLLED UP W/IT STICKING OUT ABOUT POW/MIA FAMILY’S WANTING ANSWERS 2 KNOW WHAT HAPPENED & THE SINGLE PLACE SETTING W/A VASE WELL BY THE NEXT DAY I ASKED HIM IF HE KNEW WHAT THE VASE & THE SINGLE ROSE MEANT HE SAID NO & I WAS SUPRISED HE DID’NT KNOW I GOTTA GO NOW DUE 2 SHUT DOWN I’D APPRECIATE ANY & ALL HELP & ANYONE THAT’S ABLE 2 PULL THIS MIRRICAL OFF I”D BE ETERNALLY GRATFULL THX 4 YOUR CONSISDERATION RE: THIS RARE CASE THX FOREVERMORE! ANGEL
Hi,i guess u can help mi out i met this atracting man his is really cute he tried hard to get ma contacts and finally he got it we went out on few dates then he invited me over to his place staffs happened and we started kissing ever since he lost intrest he nolonger kols me like before his really ignorering me what should ido?