In this email, I want to share some quick and easy things you can do to make sure that when you meet a man- you guys really connect and turn it into something more.
If you’ve already read my eBook, then you already know about the “attitude” carried by women who are naturally attractive to men and who inspire them to want to give a relationship a chance.
I call the attitude “Playful & Independent.”
I’ll explain how this “attitude” works, and why men find is so attractive in a woman by starting here-
I want you to imagine for a second what it’s like to be a single, successful, attractive man who is your own age.
Pick a man you might already know… or just make one up in your head. But get a clear picture of this man in your mind.
Now that you’ve got this single attractive man in your mind, I want you to imagine what life is like for him as a SINGLE MAN.
He has a great life, lots of friends, and enjoys many aspects of his life from travel to work to sports.
He even has a lot of fun “dating”, getting to know great women, and sharing and connecting in new and different ways with the women he meets.
All in all, this man really has his life together, and he doesn’t often feel like he’s “missing” anything.
He enjoys the intimate times that he has spent with women, and he hasn’t yet had a woman who has made him feel like he HAD TO have a serious and committed relationship yet.
Now, with this picture in mind…
What do you guess it’s like to be a man who’s a great “catch,” and then going out with women and try to get to know them?
Picture this now…
What is it like for this single attractive man when he goes out and meets women?
What are the women like who he comes across, meets, and goes on dates with?
What do most of these women have in common?
What do they say and do with him once they see how great he is?
And how do they act as a result of recognizing this great man and wanting him all to themselves?
Are they all fun, laid back, easy-going, and as carefree as he is?
Or are they different than they were with him at first?
I think you know where I’m going with this.
For the rare single attractive man out there…finding and meeting a great women who also has her act together on every level is NOT EASY.
In fact, for lots of men, they feel frustrated the same way lots of women do-
They feel like there’s just no “normal” women out there.
And this frustration is only made worse when a single man finally thinks he’s met a woman who he thinks is great….
Because after a few dates, something strange and uncomfortable often happens-
The woman he met who SEEMED mature, healthy, and who had a full life of her own suddenly starts acting different.
Instead of enjoying the PROCESS of getting to know one another and seeing where things are going…
Her attitude and her behavior change.
Suddenly she’s tense.
Suddenly she’s anxious and uncertain.
And suddenly she is asking for answers from the man about what’s going on, when he just feels like he’s barely getting to know her.
And this is where the man feels a complete “disconnect” both physically and emotionally, and sees that this must not be the right woman for him.
He’s thinking-
“If she’s acting this way within the first few weeks… imagine what’s down the road!?”
What’s going on here?
To make a long story short, in these situations a man’s response is all too common-
He WITHDRAWS.
That means he STOPS CALLING, he stops asking the woman out, and he’s no longer interested in getting to know her.
Which of course is the worst possible thing a man could do to make a woman who’s already wondering what’s going on with him… and it makes her feel even more freaked out.
And it’s here where things can go from bad to worse for some women.
Instead of seeing that their desire to know what a man is feeling or wanting has pushed him away early on…
They actually start trying harder to get him to open up to them and give them answers.
(As though the man is the one who’s in control!)
They call, they email, and they sound totally freaked out or upset when they finally do talk to the man- which only makes things worse.
The situation I told doesn’t paint a very pretty picture of what happens for some women when they start dating a man.
The strange truth is, I’ve seen very smart and amazing women who are usually calm, loving, and “centered” turn into freaked out,”needy”, and panic-stricken women.
It’s not because they aren’t great women. It’s just that they let their NEGATIVE FEARS and EMOTIONS take over and get in their way.
Now…
If any of the above sounds familiar, or you’ve experienced any of the following below, then knowing more about how men see “dating” and why and when they will want a relationship could really help you:
- A man doesn’t call back and you have NO IDEA why
- You go on 2 or 3 great dates and get physical with a man, then you have what feels like a “strange” talk and he stops calling
- A man suddenly goes from seeing you as a fun and fantastic woman to seeing you as more of a friend he isn’t interested in
- You say something about where your “dating” is headed and he closes off and never opens up again
Any of these sound familiar to you?
Then I want you to stop right now.
Odds are, you’re a great women but you’re making mistakes with men that you aren’t even AWARE OF.
Don’t let this happen to you, when it can be just a few simple and easy tips that will help a man see you for the great woman you are inside.
For my very best essentials on what makes a man interested in a woman for more than just fun, the very best place to start is with my eBook.
You can download my eBook “Catch Him & Keep Him” and be reading it in just a minute.
If you don’t already have it, get it here now:
If you’ve already got my eBook, and you want to keep growing and learning, then turn to page 138 and read the section about what a man casually calls among his friends as a “Cool Woman.”
There I give a great simple list of the specific things men look for in a woman.
And I also share what men are looking to avoid in women, and how to make sure you don’t accidentally have a man see you as the wrong kind of woman for him.
THE FOOL-PROOF WAY TO HAVE A GREAT GUY WANTING MORE AFTER THE FIRST FEW DATES
I’m going to get to the point here on this one.
What is the quick and easy way to have a man wanting more with you once you’ve met and been on a few dates?
Well, as I’ve said, from the start on just the first few dates… a man is silently making a whole lot of subtle and UNCONSCIOUS DECISIONS about you and who he thinks you are.
If you make some of the obvious mistakes that throw off his wrong woman “radar”… then a man is going to quickly stop wanting to see you and stop calling.
Avoiding the mistakes too many other women make that ruin the start of what could be a great relationship is the first thing to keep in mind.
But let’s talk more about things to do and say with a man.
If you’ve met a man, and you’re unsure about where things are going, then there’s really only one thing to keep in mind if you like this guy-
ATTRACTION.
Now, there’s been a whole lot of talk about attraction in the world lately.
So I want to give a quick definition of what I mean when I say “attraction.”
Attraction is that magic emotion that we feel when someone enters our heart and mind in a way we can’t really explain with words.
Attraction for a man is something that reaches deep inside him and stirs up emotions he doesn’t understand and didn’t know he could feel.
And when a man FEELS ATTRACTION for a woman, he no longer uses his “logical” mind to decide what he wants when it comes to love and relationships.
Attraction takes over a man’s mind and causes him to start acting and making decisions with his HEART instead of his MIND.
Starting to get a better sense of what attraction really is?
Good.
Now, how do you CREATE ATTRACTION inside a man so that he starts to use less of his MIND and more of his HEART with you?
Good question.
The first key to ATTRACTION is to have an element of UNPREDICTABILITY to you and the time you spend with a man.
See… most men, especially older ones, have seen and done a lot of things with women.
And, unfortunately, as a result lots of men have started to assume that most women are the same when it comes to love and relationships.
When you show up and a man can’t fit you neatly into his categories of women he knows and does or doesn’t like… you very quickly have a man’s ATTENTION.
But getting a man’s attention is just the first step.
The second step is to turn his attention into INTEREST.
To do this, I’ve found that most women who men feel comfortable with and see as “relationship material” and fall for are women who have a certain attitude in common.
I call this attitude “Playful & Independent.”
If a man is going to even start to consider a woman for a relationship… then there HAS TO BE a playful element to the way you are together.
In short, without this a man won’t feel that being in a relationship with you would simply be and stay FUN.
And us men, being the simple creatures we are, have to believe that the things we commit to more of in the future will be FUN for us.
Of course, the other element of this female attitude men are naturally attracted to for relationships is Independence.
In short, when a woman communicates that she has a great life of her own, it is VERY ATTRACTIVE to a man.
Reason being, a man would feel comfortable getting into a real committed relationship with a woman who is Independent because he doesn’t have to worry about becoming “everything” to her and become the one person in the world who has to try and make her happy.
Think of it this way…
When a man senses that a woman is unhappy but wants a relationship to try and become more happy, how does he respond?
Exactly.
He RUNS from the relationship as fast as he can.
But here’s THE STRANGEST PART–
When a man finally feels like he’s found that right woman who has a great life he can share in and enjoy…
Then a man will want nothing more than to try and make this woman happy.
So how do you communicate that you’re this kind of fun, playful and independent woman who doesn’t NEED a man to take care of her… but who wants to share a great life?
The short answer is that you don’t just come out and say “I’m independent and playful.”
You SHOW a man that you’re this way with your ACTIONS.
With men, ACTIONS are the simplest and easiest way to connect and start sharing a meaningful relationship.
For instance…
Let’s say a man doesn’t call for a day or two and you’re wondering what’s going on.
You might do the following:
A) Call him and ask him why he hasn’t called, and let him know that it hurt your feelings
Or…
B) Wait for him to call you and then act weird and try to pretend nothing is wrong
Of course, if you’ve done either of these you know that they will get you nowhere fast with a man, and mess things up bad.
What else could you do?
Well…
Instead of calling, or waiting for him to call and showing him that you were waiting and worrying…
Here’s an opportunity to show through your ACTIONS that you have a great life of your own and that great Playful & Independent attitude-
You could either:
A) Call him and invite him to do something fun and exciting that he wouldn’t expect
Or….
B) Wait for him to call and then be genuinely happy and excited to hear from him
Now, you might not understand the difference in these two… and feel like there is an element of “game” playing, or being someone you’re not involved.
To that I would say this-
If I had a CHOICE in my life, which I do…
I would choose to do things that EXCITE and INSPIRE OTHERS.
If you have a CHOICE in your life, which you do…
You would do well to do things that EXCITE and INSPIRE MEN. (e.g.- creating attraction)
Now, there is a catch here…
To be a woman who CHOOSES to be PLayful & Independent… you actually have to have these be parts of your life.
You actually have to have PLAY and PLAYFULNESS as part of your own life.
And…
You actually have to be Independent and sure of yourself enough to not need a man to call for you to have a great time in your life.
You’re starting to see the difference here.
Once you are living the life you want that is also the kind of fun and exciting life that a man would be drawn to and want to be a part of, then a few things will happen:
1) You will start becoming more “Playful & Independent” without even thinking about it
2) You will stop doing the things you used to do that turned men off to the idea of a relationship with you
3) You will make a great man feel that intense gut-level ATTRACTION for you because you will be doing UNPREDICTABLE things that make you stand out as different from any other woman he’s met
Would all this be something you’re interested in having in your life right now?
Does making it easy for yourself to draw that special man to you sound good?
Then I want to help, in 2 easy ways.
The 1st Way) From The Inside Out
You might have recognized some things that you are doing that end up sabotaging your relationships.
That might be losing your composure with men on an emotional level…
Or it might be simply not feeling comfortable and confident enough to put yourself out there and let a man see you for who you really are on the inside.
If you’re struggling and fighting against yourself and your own thoughts and feelings…
And you’d like to quickly move past all this and free yourself from the kinds of unhealthy relationships you’ve been having in the past…
Then I’d suggest starting your path towards more playfulness and independence in your life by taking things from the INSIDE OUT.
Once you take care of what’s going on inside, the outside will take care of itself for you.
To clear out the mental and emotional blocks that have kept you in bad relationships, and get back in touch with that loving, open and irresistible woman inside you who the right man will naturally be drawn to…
I STRONGLY SUGGEST you check out my “Ready For Love” program.
It’s the quickest way I know to clear out all the negative thoughts and beliefs that are holding you back from the kind of incredible love and relationship that is possible in your life.
Go here now to create the change inside yourself that will ripple out and draw the right man to you without all the work and effort:
The 2nd Way) From The Outside In
You might be in a great place in your life, but you’re just not finding that you’re drawing the right man to you for a lasting relationship.
This isn’t an uncommmon situation for women these days.
Even for great, successful, beautiful women who have amazing lives of their own and lots to offer a man.
Here’s the thing…
You can be the most amazing woman in the world, but if you don’t know how to catch a man’s interest for the right reasons… and help him connect to you on a deeper level, then it’s going to be almost impossible to find the relationship you really want.
Don’t keep wasting your precious time waiting for a man to recognize all the beauty that’s inside you-
When it’s easier than you might think to make a man take notice and open up his heart just by saying a few of the “right things” that tug on his heart-strings.
I touched on the first way to do this with a man- to be more UNPREDICTABLE with him.
This is just ONE of the SIX KEYS to creating what I call “Emotional Attraction” with a man.
To find out the other 5 KEYS, and to know what attracts a man on a deeper more EMOTIONAL LEVEL that goes BEYOND JUST PHYSICAL DESIRE… then you need to check out the program I put together to show you *how attraction works for a man.
*Attraction works different for a man than it does for a woman.
My very best tips and ideas for creating an INTENSE level of ATTRACTION in a man’s HEART, MIND and BODY are in my best-selling program “Natural & Lasting Attraction.”
Find out more about what makes a man feel attraction right here:
And by the way…
If you haven’t taken the time to try any of my materials the way thousands of other women have tried… then it’s time to get started with your new lovelife today.
There’s no better time than right now.
The easy and fast way to get started and grow in your lovelife today is to download my eBook now and start reading it right away.
Download your copy of my eBook, and find out more details about it, right here now:
I’ll talk to you again soon, and best of luck in Life and Love.
Your Friend,
Christian Carter
I told a guy I like I was attracted to him. A few months after we started having regular drinks. He said he likedtalking to me as I can keep up and am interested in world events and am also very funny. He had always complimented me about my appearance and I made damn sure I never said anythin g heavy. It’s not my style anyway. He’s been asking me if there’s anyone I’m interested in and has once asked what am I thinking? He’s alway emailed back right away letting me know when we can next get together. The day after I didn’t say what I was thinking I wrote back thnaking for seeing me as s omeone he can have a discussion with. I then suggested we get together and try a new bar, one where I might have to go to as part of my job. He said we could discuss it inperson when we next got together. I worte back saying, since oyu keep asking, there is someone but he keep sleading me on and then running away. I meant him. He hasn’t emailed back but in monosyllables. When a former boyfriend played that one on me before I really believed he meant somene else! Could this be the case? I really wanted to tell him what was on my mind, sex was on my mind! I’m not a ‘relationship’ kind of girl. I like him so much! Why is he not responding to me this time? I’m very afraid to be forward after I already did it once! I know he’s too shy to make a move! I need an interpreter. My last email just asked him for a drink whenever because I know he’s busy. I know he take human error into account. So, is there a death in the family? We haven’t even talked about my wanting him sexually. Do guys play cruel jokes on girls they know like them? Is it attention he wants? He’s a Libra born in the year of the sheep if this helps any….I’m not a game player, I was jsut afraid of….yes, rejection! Can you put a spin on this please!???
Hi Teri,
There is a chance the guy got “scared away” when you told him you were seeing someone else. How would he know you meant him?
If all that you want from him is sex, then you don’t have to bother about attracting him like what Christian teaches.
Just ask him out directly and tell him you want to show him something cool or important. And when you are alone, initiate intimacy. Most guys can’t resist advances by women.
Good luck!
hi am tyana am 20 and cuite and am sweet careing nice and i love walks on the bech and i love sports and out eating shooping and swimmeing.
i love make a guy happy .ass long ass he keeps me happy ever thing fun .we can have fun2 gather ever day all day
Hi.I wanted to know more about texting a guy.I need some guidances to make him falling in love with me so I wont appeared as needy and clingy girl ever..can someone help me with this?Thanks.
To Ivy, what do you want to know about texting? It is pretty simple really. They text and you always want to wait a while before you text back. That way it doesn’t seem like you are waiting around for the call/text in this case. Just be a little flirty, but not over the top. It really depends on the type of person you are, how well you know the guy, and what kind of doors you want to open. Chances are if he is texting you, he is interested. Also, if you text something that you are unsure of, it helps to throw in a hahaha or lol so it isn’t taken so seriously.
Hello!!
Thanks for JJ’s advice.Well,I got this experience and I would like to share it.Lst Christmas,I’ve known a guy who was interested to know me.Then,he asked for my num and I gave him.Soon after that,he called.Then,I thought he was definitely interested me but after the third day,there was no more calling and texting from him.So,I get confused.Did I make something wrong?Did he sense somethin wrong about me?What type of text messages guys usually attracted to it??I need some helps here.Thanks.
Is it true to not initiate any texting to a guy???
ya iv just started seeing this guy… wev recently only been out on our third date everything went perfect… he told me he was mad about me and arranged the next date. But whats really annoying me is from the start he barely text me and I suppose I started to get used to it maybe but he hasn text me at all sice our last date and its been four days??? for example I text him yesterday 5pm and he still hasn text bk today and its lik nearly one!!!!! I’m sooo confused!!! Like maybe hes no credit but lik theres web text!!!
Hi, I’d read your articles and its great… Ive started dating a man last month… We dated 3x and he told me he likes me and I am a good girl. After our third date he asked me for another date but I am busy that time so I did not come.Then he called me again in the morning but Im with my friends so I cant talked to him… After that he did not call and I thought we are Having a date on Valentines . I waited his call but he did not call me. I text him that I Missed him but I got no reply. Can You tell me what Im gonna do??? Thanks.
to aoife, hi girl we have the same situation! i dated this guy 3 times at first hes always txting me but now he doesnt text. so i texts him yesterday i he still hasnt reply! im also confused with this guy. i like him a lot. i gave up easiyl i guess! maybe he’s no longer interested in me coz he already got what he wants! u know what i mean.
Some weeks ago I went out on a date with a guy. The first date was great, he showed he had interest, he was being really genuine and gentleman and said he would like to see me again, after a couple of days he e-mailed me saying that it had been really nice meeting me. One day later I answered him by e-mail, that I had a good time and he was fun to be around and asked him that it could be nice if we arranged plans again. Maybe this was my mistake and appeared too anxious or too interested too soon. After some days he called me and said sorry he didn’t answer my e-mail because he was very busy at work and invited me on a second date for the weekend when he was coming back from a business trip.
More than a week passed and he didn’t call me, so I called him just to see how he was doing and he didn’t answer the phone or or even called back. It’s been more than a week since that. Now I don’t know what to think, the guy lost interest because I appeared anxious and definetely no more a challenge to him, is he dating someone else maybe and doesn’t want to say anything not to hurt me? What can I do? Should I write him an e-mail telling him that I had no intention of bothering him if that was the impression I gave him with the call?
What I thought of doing was to write him a friendly mail wishing him good luck in his next business trip he has now and therefore show him I’m not mad at him, I want to keep contact with him and want him to see that I don’t have any hard feelings. If this guy has lost interest I would like to get him interested again, what can I do?
If I don’t say or do anything he might think I’m mad because he did’t call back and I moved on.
I wouldn’t want to loose this guy and therefore see if I can have a chance with him again. I have no hurry in that. Please give me some advice.
Hi Alex,
Your experience sounds too familiar to me… I just recently been in the similiar situation.
After doing a lot of thinking/researching, I’d say the best advice anyone can give you or me right now is NOT TO CALL/EMAIL/TEXT, etc. AT ALL! really…
That’s the best you can do to help the situation. Still, it may not change his perception or what he intendes to do (be it continue or discontinue seeing you), but that’s the best course of action.. which is NO action.
Just think about the last time when you felt neutral towards a guy who’s interested in you… he’d communicate with you eagerly… Just when he’d stopped contacting you for… a few days/weeks/etc… that’s when you finally took notice of this guy. Where’s he been? why hasn’t he called, etc.
Your not calling him may have the same impact on him. I hope it does for you!
Best luck to you!
Be strong! Don’t call!
To la vie en rose – thanks for your advice!
Now I have a little doubt that came to my mind after someone else gave me their opinion.
The guy (I went out with and contacted me after a few days after the first date) said that “it was really nice meeting me!” , then he went on talking about something else regarding work, he was being friendly and humorous in the e-mail. According to this person, this might have been a red flag and he was just being polite by saying “it was really nice meeting me”, but actually meant that I was a nice person, and he just wasn’t interested in a romantic relationship. Could that be the case?
If that is the case, then I don’t quite understand why after some days he called me and said sorry he didn’t answer my e-mail in response to his, because he was very busy at work and invited me on a second date for the weekend when he was coming back from a business trip. If he wasn’t interested perhaps, why would he be calling again? He could have just dropped it with the e-mail before. What do you think?
I’ve known this guy for some years, and I was told by my best freind that he showed interest with me. So him and I talked over the phone and then bumped into each other at a friends house and me and my other freind was a little tipsey, to make a long story short we kissed. A couple of days later he saw my freind and asked her what i thought about him and if i liked him and playfully she said no and he said that isn’t what i hear. This guy that i am talking about happens to be good freinds with her husband. So a few days later I went to there house and he was there, he and i talked and he kept saying that him and i would have a lot of fun together and when can we get together and we were just trying to figure out our schedule and we didnt come up with nothing at the time, so he said that he was going to call me i gave him my phone number and that was a basically that. Later that same day I saw him, my best freinds husband, my ex-boyfriend from a 20 years ago having a discussion about me, and how my best freinds husband didn’t think that it was a good thing for him and I to date, because he didn’t want to be in the middle of any problem, which i can understand. So my best friends husband basically said that keep any problems we have to ourselves because it puts him in a awkward positon etc.. So i received a miss call from him that night which was on a thursday and my best friend said that he asked on the phone if i was at there at there house Saturday morning and she said no. What I am getting at that it is Sunday 3 days later and he still hasn’t called me. Whats up with that.
After meeting a guy around valentine day this year,we went out had a fun date,the second date we had fun,I thought he was a great guy but after about four more dates ,that went well, all of a sudden he played then no calling or texting act.always sweet when he called me or text. I was feeling him much after awhile.then bang, I have not called him or text him any more after I realize what was going on, because I donot want to talk to him any more than he want to talk to me at this point,but I am so confused at this time, but all the above apply to what he can do. See you, later etc .I am happily going on to the next who ever.
I going out with the Guy 9 yrs younger than
Me. Just for fun but but I’m starting to feel something for him. I liked him a lot ! Is this wrong. Should I stop seeing him or should I keep hoping someday he will want a relationships with me. Cuz he wants to sees 2 x a week just for fun ! It hurt I want more than a fuck buddy . I need advice!
My best friend is a bartender and wanted to get together for girls night. She was running late from her other job so she told me to meet her at the bar she worked at and she would be there ASAP. Well while I was waiting with my other girlfriends the DJ at the bar starting talking to me. I didn’t know he worked there and wasn’t really into him but the convo was great so I continued talking. My girl texted me and told me to go on without her and she would meet me at the club. So I said my goodbyes and left. Well all night the girls that worked with this DJ kept asking me what was going on with me and the DJ? I was like IDK didn’t even think about it. Well of course because they put this thought in my head I started thinking about him. My girl called and told me he was interested and so I took my best guy friend and headed up to my girls work. He asked me for my number and called me the next day but I had to get off the phone because I was out to dinner with my girl the bartender but I told him I was coming up to the bar again because It was my last night of vacation before I had to head back to work. When I was at the bar I saw him a few times and then we kissed just a peck and the sparks were flying.. The following day he texted me and I texted him back but between each text it takes him like over an hour to respond and its really irratating lol. So I texted him again and said “I want more kisses” He texted back shortly with something cute and then I texted back after that nothing all night. I called him in the evening to invite him to a concert but didn’t leave a message and still no responce. HOW DO I GET THIS GUY TO FIND ME IRRISISTABLE WHERE HE CAN’T GET ENOUGH WITHOUT SEEMING NEEDY. I haven’t found anyone I was remotely interested in until now and I don’t want to mess this up.. Any advice?
Hi please help, I recently got in touch with a boyfriend from many many years ago he invited me to visit & went to see him for four days.. we both had the best time.. I totally fell back in love with him.. when I got home he called me & said he was missing me and would come to see me soon ( we live out of state from each other) anyway I did email him some mushy emails telling him how I felt I now he hasn’t called in a week nothing I have been heartbroken beyond belief.. remember I am a grown women & this Man was the love of my life many years ago… I keep analogizing everything & don’t know what to do. I will not call him..but in my heart can not let him go. I am heartbroken. Please help.
You are right Christen, I started dating a guy for two months that suddely wanted to see me durning the week and disappeared on weekends. I was becoming weekday girl and he would call me at the last minute to see me. I don’t mind seeing a guy durning the week but its nice to spend weekends with them too. I know not every weekend you need space. I figured it out dating a guy that you haven’t spent any more weekends with and I would not hear from him for 4 days. I decided to a make a plan and it took retraint but it worked. I want to take things slow and get to know him. I do not tell him any thing about committment or where things are going. I have done the right thing by not calling or texting him, and not being available especially durning the week to see if he asks me out on a weekend for once. I starting say no durning the week that I was busy. When he texts or calls I’m being challenging and playful too with flirting. He started telling me he missed me and will wait for me. I don’t know if he means it, I will keep doing what I am doing. He finally has been calling and texting me everyday and made plans for Saturday night. Christen your plan works.
so i dated this guy when i was 17 and he was 21 literally love at first sight for me but he didnt feel the same way after a few months i told him i loved him and. he instantly stopped talking to me. then he contacted me like 2 years later wanting to hangout as friends blah blah blah and i said no like 1000 times and finally gave in and now were “together” again. sometimes he wont call me for like a day or so and act like theres nothing wrong and says hes busy at work. is that normal? it bothers me cause ill give in and call him cause i like to talk to him at least once a day but he can go a day or two without talking. what should i do? is this normal? i find it hurtful
i met this guy over the weekend, he asked for my number and i gave it to him. i am wildly attracted to him but he still hasnt called. should i call him first or is that still tabboo…
fantastic article btw
Hello… I met this guy at a club for my birthday. he asks for my number and he sends me a text the next day after. Our first date we had an amazing night, took me out for dinner and then we went out for a walk at the park near his house. He kissed me and we continue kissing until we figure out the time was late. After that we would continue talking and texting. then he again asks me on a second date, the 2nd date we had dinner and drinks he took me to the beach and we sort of started making out, then he drove me home and we continue making out. By our fourth date, we went for drinks and we started making out in his car, I asked him what did he thought of me? He saids to me that he enjoy talking to me and he thought that I was a person with very good feelings, I didnt say anything else and we continue making out until he then sugested to go to a motel, so we did, and yes we had sex… After all that he puts his pants on and sat on the chair for a while, all of the sudden he saids to me that he wants to live, I said “Are you serious?” He saids “yes”. So I got up, I have to admit I was upset, and he asks me if I was upset, I said “no, of course not” I got dressed and we left. On the way to my house He was trying to make conversation with me and I tried to smile or laugh at what he was saying. He dropped me off , gave me a kiss and said he will call me tomorrow, I said of course. And He did text me, we exchange some texts. The next day I had to live out of state to pick up my kids, I text him saying that I was thinking of him and that I will miss him, he texted back saying for me to have a nice trip and drive safe.
I thanked… On saturday I texted him just said Hello and I called but no returned call or text from him. Monday came, I called him again saying how are you? give me a call when you get a chance… He then texted me back until Wednesday stating that he is sorry he was away for the weekend and forgot his charger at home and if he could call me later, I texted him back saying , Ok ..that’s cool. Didnt hear back from him that day, so the next day my fears started kicking in and I texted him saying ” Alright …my bad… I can take a hint.” The next day went to bank near where he works and for some reason I was hoping to see him, his first question was “What was that text you sent me all about”” . I apologize, I was a little upset with everything that was going on and that I was really sorry, that is not what I’m all about. He then said its okey, he offered me coffee I said yes, he brought to me and I said I was sorry again. He stated that it was okey not to worry and that he was going to call me to disscussed it later because he had to go to work. I said okey thats fine and as he was living I ask him for a kiss or hug, he kept repeating I’ll call you later okey… He never called me back that day, so 2 days later I called him but he didnt answer, I left him a friendly message, but now is been 3 days and has not returned my call. Now I am dying to call him, and I was thinking by stopping by the bank again around the same time I saw him last and prettend nothings wrong…. Please help me, I really like this guy. How do I fix it?
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I went out with a man for 4 years about 15 years ago. We broke up mutually. Last July he called me after 11 years. He moved to another state but was planning on moving back to New York where he previously lived. He wanted to take me out to dinner when he got to N.Y. in a few months . We spoke at length a few times a week. He sent me airline tickets to see him but I didn’t go because my father was gravely ill. I received flowers fro him on Valentines Day and other occasions. The last time I spoke with him was 6/25/11 the day my mother died. What is his problem ???
God I can’t stand your writing style. Learn how to write a continuous paragraph with more than two sentences. I swear, your article is waaay too long to have each sentence its own paragraph…I can’t make it past the first few lines. It just sucks so bad. Your content seems like it’d be interesting, but I don’t want to read what you have to say because I can’t stand the way you say it. Learn how to write!