What makes a man want to stay single?
And what makes a man want to stay single and not have a relationship even when he’s dating an amazing woman?
Keep reading to find out.
Here’s something you should know…
Did you know that most men make up their minds about whether they’d “get serious” and try out a relationship within the first few minutes of having met a woman?
If you don’t know what to say or do early on to get a man’s interest for the RIGHT REASONS…then the first “exchanges” between you and a man could keep him from ever wanting to explore a relationship with you.
I see it happen all the time…
A woman meets a fantastic guy and they hit it off.
The chemistry is amazing. They laugh, talk, and have tons of things in common.
It just feels right.
They go out several times and end up getting “physical” early on.
And since all the basic elements are there to start a great relationship, and this guy seems like he could be “the one”, the women starts to really open up.
But just as she’s becoming more and more EMOTIONALLY INVOLVED, the truth comes out…
The man has ABSOLUTELY NO INTEREST in having a real relationship.
He says something like:
“It’s not you… it’s me.”
“I’m just not interested in a relationship right now.”
“You’re great, but if we went out I know we’d get serious really quickly and I’m not ready for all that. I don’t want to hurt you.”
Give me a nod here if you know what I’m talking about.
If you’ve experienced this kind of thing before, then you know that men will come up with every excuse in the book to try and AVOID a relationship.
Sometimes it seems like men’s minds’ are simply searching for every possible excuse or way out.
That way they don’t have to deal with the fact that there’s an amazing woman right in front of them who could be the love of their lives.
So let me ask you…
Why is finding the right person such a bad thing to men?
And what can YOU do as a woman to avoid all these “traps” that other women constantly walk into and trigger with men that keep them from ever finding and starting the relationship that they really want?
After years and years of thinking about all this, of talking to men and women, and spending years observing and studying what’s really going on at a deeper level… I’ve discovered something that TONS of women are doing when meeting and dating men that INSTANTLY pushes that WITHDRAWAL button where a man will not only not want to get any closer to a woman…
But he’ll want to get away from her altogether.
Don’t be one of the many women who keep on making this mistake without even knowing it.
It’s one thing when you’re dating a man and he tells you he doesn’t want a relationship, and that he isn’t ready.
But here’s where it gets even more bizarre and PREDICTABLE when it comes to men and how they think about dating and new relationships…
After a man dates you and says he’s NOT READY for a relationship, unless you’re the unlucky kind of woman who likes to torture herself by trying to CONVINCE a man that he should want a relationship with you… you listen and move on.
You try and respect the fact that, for whatever reason, he’s not in a place where he’s capable of having a real relationship.
But for lots of women, this is when the unthinkable happens…
A few weeks or months later you can’t believe what you hear-
This same man who was dead-set on staying single and not having a relationship is suddenly IN LOVE with ANOTHER WOMAN.
And to add insult to injury… things are getting very “serious” and moving very, very quickly for him with this other woman.
What’s going on here?
For most women, it’s in these moments that a few “truths” become clear to you:
1) Men don’t know what they want…
How many times have you had a man say one thing, or show you that he felt or thought one thing… but then he did something that was completely the opposite?
Why does a man do this?
Is he lying?
Did he mean to deceive you and hurt you?
Or did he do this for another reason?
What if I told you that when a man likes you and is interested… he’ll often say things about the way he feels about you just to get your interested and attention?
And what if I told you that these things that he thought and felt could change VERY, VERY QUICKLY as you’re getting to know each other and “dating”?
Would that change the way you think about men and how they don’t know what they want?
2) You can’t trust what a man tells you…
If you’re a woman who’s been hurt before in a relationship, then odds are you’re finding it hard to believe a man or trust him much further than you could throw him.
But did you know that if you’ve been hurt from a past relationship and you carry some doubt and fear about men in general…
Then no matter how you try and come across to him… a man will sense this inside you when you go out with him – even if you don’t say anything about it or mention it.
Your inability to trust a man won’t allow you to “connect” with him on a deeper level.
And without that CONNECTION where a man feels like you really “get” him… he’ll never get past that superficial level of conversation and start becoming EMOTIONALLY INVOLVED and drawn to you.
In other words… the fear that you have that he’ll turn out like other men that you’ve known will “leak” out in subtle ways. And it will not only keep you both from growing closer… but it will give him the intuitive feeling that something is off, and he’ll leave.
If you’re talking to a new man in your life or dating and you have the bad experiences of the past in your mind… you’re practically guaranteeing failure for yourself and for the relationship you’re trying to get started.
Men don’t like women and don’t feel comfortable or ATTRACTED when a woman is full of doubt and fear from her past relationships.
It’s a HUGE turn off.
3) Men don’t make any sense to you…
There’s something that keeps coming up over and over in my life that’s I find absolutely fascinating…
It’s that everywhere I go I meet smart women who are what a friend of mine calls “Man Stupid”.
Raise your hand if you’re guilty of this yourself.
It’s amazing to me how many brilliant, smart, sweet, caring, wise and loving women I’ve met who have failure after failure when it comes to men, dating, and relationships.
And for these smart women, since they’re so capable and successful in every other area of their life… they can’t believe that they wouldn’t be able to make things work with a man in a relationship.
But here’s the fatal mistake they make…
They think that the fact that they are smart, educated, capable, successful, etc. in other areas of life should somehow “translate” into knowing what to do when it comes to men and their love life.
But nothing could be farther from the truth.
In fact, the belief that you know how things work with men and dating just because you’re a woman and you think about these things all the time and you really want love to work out in your life actually works against you.
Why does this work against you?
Simply put – because it keeps you from ever accepting the fact that you don’t know what you need to know about how men think, and how things work when it comes to a real and lasting relationship with a man.
There’s a kind of subtle shame that I’ve learned some women carry because they think that they were born not knowing something that every other woman was born knowing.
Not knowing how men think, and how men really are different when it comes to dating and what catches a his attention and interest isn’t a sign of a “dumb” or incapable woman.
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Why do this man I’ve knew for over two years cannt stop contacting me after he have said to me in many different ways he doesnt want a serious relationship. We have had sex in the past, but I’ve refused to have sex with this man for over 4 months now, and I alway refuse to go out on a date with him..but he still kepts texting me asking how I’m doing
A guy and I met and spent some time together, yet still ended up getting physical fairly early. One day he asked me what I thought I saw before me in regards to him. I didn’t quite know my answer at that moment, but later that week, I thought about it more and let him know via text. He replied back a couple hours later that he needed to be brutally honest with me and that he was not trying to get close/attached to me. He gave many excuses about being hurt/disappointed before and that this was the cause of his hesitancy.
The next day I basically sent him an email alligning with the scenario you presented above, by letting him know that I wasn’t interested in a situation where intimacy and emotions were to be absent due the unfortunate past experiences he had with other women. I gave an ultimatum of either us moving on seperately or moving on towards a different kind of experience with one another.
He then proposes that we discontinue having sex so that we “could get to know eachother better” and so that “sex didnt complicate/confuse things” for him like that had in the past. At this point, I’m entirely unsure if there is a genuine purpose behind this, or is this a way to keep us emotionally detached? (basically alligning with his original request to not end up being “close/attached”.)
What do you think? Should I continue dating him?