Has your man started acting distant or is keeping his feelings from you?
If you’re afraid that your relationship is “slipping away” there’s something I need you to know.
It’s in your power to turn things around.
If you know the secrets to keeping a man intensely “emotionally” ATTRACTED for the long-term, then almost any problem will be a small bump in the road to a great future together.
Don’t sit around worrying where your relationship is headed.
Learn how to trigger that gut-level of attraction and passion in him that will keep him wanting YOU and ONLY YOU by reading about my “Natural And Lasting Attraction” CD/DVD program right here:
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**Question From A Reader**
I have just read your latest email about mistakes and i have to admit I nearly wept. You are totally right! I recently started spending a lot of time with a guy I used to know. We had an instant connection and he was exactly as you said: affectionate at first, initiating plans etc, then I made not one mistake but ALL of those you mentioned in your email, and as you said…. he pulled away big time. The attractions gone for him now.
What I want to know is, is there any way I can reverse the damage I have caused? Can I get my friendship with him back on track? Is it possible he may learn to feel again what he once felt for me? Please help. Im at my wits end and I really do miss having him in my life. I would be grateful for any advice you could give me on this matter.
Let me get right to the point here about what you need to do…
First off, as you start to recognize new things about yourself and the mistakes you’ve been making with a man, it’s very easy to start thinking that things are EVEN WORSE than you thought they were, and for this to freak you out.
But don’t let this stop you from continuing to learn and grow.
There’a funny thing that happens to us in life…
It’s that any time you develop a new AWARENESS and you start seeing your behavior and interactions in a new light… at first you often feel like kicking yourself.
But getting down on yourself, feeling overly frustrated and hopeless, and letting the lack of CONTROL you have in your new situation doesn’t help.
Here’s the reality if you’ve recognized that you’ve been making some of the mistakes with men I talk about…
It’s NEVER TOO LATE.
The man you were dating liked you and was attracted to you for some reason.
And as much as it might seem like his feelings have changed forever towards you, there’s something you should realize-
A man’s FEELINGS can CHANGE VERY QUICKLY, whether you want them to or not.
And you know this from past experience.
Now… most women don’t handle this reality about men, dating, and relationships very well at all.
In fact, lots of women let this completely freak them out and take over their emotions and how they act and talk with a man.
What’s behind all this is FEAR.
Fear of loss.
Fear of rejection.
Fear of abandonment.
Fear of not being loved, or not being good enough to be loved.
And lots of women let these fears take over and run the show as their emotions get the best of them.
Of course, I get that it can be a frightening idea that all it takes is just a few wrong words or actions as a woman and “Wham!”… the man in your life that you’ve been sharing so much of yourself with is suddenly not feeling it for you anymore.
But here’s the thing…
The fact that a man’s feelings can change so quickly has TWO SIDES to it.
See, if a man’s feelings can quickly change from feeling interested and attracted to a woman, to feeling that “Ewwwww” feeling where he wants to get away from her…
It’s also true that a man can quickly change from feeling UNATTRACTED and uninterested in a woman… to feeling intensely ATTRACTED and wanting to spend time with her again.
In other words, men’s feelings and their reactions and responses to a woman can change quickly in EITHER DIRECTION – from good to bad, or from bad to good.
Of course, I’m not just telling you this because it sounds like it makes sense.
I KNOW all this first hand, and have watched and experienced it during the YEARS I’ve spent observing, studying, and coaching women with men, love, and relationships.
I can honestly say that I’ve helped thousands of women create what I’ll call instant “shifts” in their lives and relationships… and do this with men they thought they had driven away for good.
The pont is… you can either let the fact that a man’s feelings can change as a result of your behavior SCARE you and make you ANXIOUS and INSECURE… (which will only make things worse for you)
You can see that the fact that a man’s feelings can quickly change, can work to your advantage… and you can use this fact to have a man very quickly go from NOT FEELING IT for you… to feeling that gut-level ATTRACTION for you in a few short moments and interactions.
I’ve literally seen men go from feeling like they had to get away from a woman they were dating and telling all their friends that it was over…
To then suddenly remembering why it was that he was interested and attracted to that woman in the first place, and then start calling, making plans, and thinking about her all the time.
I’ll even have to admit that I’ve done this myself in the past.
Now, here’s what to do with all this…
Becoming more AWARE of what’s going on with men, dating, and relationships is just the first step.
Being able to simply IDENTIFY the PROBLEMS that are causing a man to suddenly lose interest is the battle most women struggle endlessly with and are NEVER able to come to understand.
So… it’s great when you start to really become CONSCIOUS of your own thinking, feelings, and behavior, and how they effect the man in your life
All the self-awareness in the world isn’t going to teach you and show you exactly what it is that you need to START DOING to go from pushing a man away to making him feel an INTENSE level of ATTRACTION when he’s around you.
Finding out what the PROBLEM is, is just half the answer that teaches you about what it is that you need to STOP DOING.
But you’ve still got to put the puzzle pieces together on what to START DOING.
Let me give you a quick pointer:
STOP TALKING to the man in your life about the mistakes you’ve made… or about what’s happening in your relationship.
And stop it RIGHT NOW!
Let me ask you…
What are men seeking more than anything in a woman?
Well, when it comes to a man finding a woman he wants to be with and STAY with… men are looking for a woman who is FUN, SEXY… and most important in terms of building a lasting long term relationship – EASY TO BE WITH.
This might sound too simple to be something that could change your life and relationship…
But the reality is that most women who are having problems with men losing interest in them because of their behavior are completely misunderstanding what’s going on inside a man’s mind.
When a woman feels hurt, scared, or uncertain with a man… often times she will act out on her feelings in indirect ways to try and get the man to see what she’s feeling and relate to her and start talking about it.
She wants for a man to recognize and pay attention to her feelings… and to UNDERSTAND her.
But this is NOT how men react and respond when it comes to pain, fear, and uncertainty.
Men seek to avoid or break through all these things… and their minds are constantly working to figure out how to get rid of these things all together.
Of course, love and life and relationships don’t work this way. But it doesn’t keep men from trying, or from wanting the world around them to work this way.
Point being, when a woman shows up and acts overly emotional, upset, insecure… and does things that are UNATTRACTIVE to a man, it’s bad enough.
But then when a woman sees the damage that her behavior has done to her relationship with a man… and she starts to FEEL BAD about that too… things quickly go from bad to worse.
Each time she calls a man and he hears her voice, he instantly knows she’s still in that place of fear, worry, and emotional uncertainty.
And this will keep pushing the man further and further away.
The answer isn’t to try and talk through all your uncertain feelings with a man – if you’re goal is to connect with him and keep building his interest and attraction for you.
The answer is to do the things that create attraction in HIM.
Translation – stop talking and thinking about the PROBLEMS you’re feeling between you… and start being the woman a man naturally feels excited and joyful with when he’s around.
THEN… when you’re in a close and connected place, talking to a man and getting him to share and understand, and even initiate conversations with you about your feelings and your relationship, will be easier than you ever thought possible.
So stop doing the things that you’re learning PUSH MEN AWAY… and START doing the things that tons of other women have learned naturally build more interest and ATTRACTION inside a man.
Now, for lots of women it can be a long and frustrating process trying to figure out what it is that makes a man experience that magic FEELING of ATTRACTION when he’s with a woman…and to feel it so strongly that he literally can’t keep himself from wanting to be with you.
Some women spend their entire lives doing all the WRONG THINGS with the RIGHT MEN in their relationships… only to finally figure out too late all the things they were doing pretty much guaranteed that a man would stop feeling attraction for them as time went on.
And some women, even after they’ve “done the work” and gotten rid of all the negative patterns in their life that kept them from drawing a man to them for lasting love, still can’t clue into the ‘hard-to-identify’ but simple things that make a man keep “feeling it” for them.
Luckily, I’ve done all the “homework” for you in this area to help you learn and understand what it is that a man will respond to on a deep emotional level.
A man needs a woman to trigger something inside him that goes much much deeper than the common Physical Attraction that men can and do experience for many women… if he’s going to feel and know that a woman is not just any woman, but the ONE WOMAN he wants to be with.
If you’d like the most complete guide to understanding how to create the FEELING of ATTRACTION inside a man… and how you can keep it alive and well so that you’re relationship keeps growing and a man will want to STAY with you, then it’s a MUST that you go and check my “Natural & Lasting Attraction” program HERE:
Natural and Lasting Attraction
And be sure to let me know what you think.
I’ll talk to you again soon, and best of luck in Life and Love.
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2) Tell me what’s working for you before you ask your question. I appreciate all of the “Your stuff is great” and “I don’t need to tell you how well your program works” comments, but the fact is that I DO need to hear all of the specifics… because this helps other women to see what’s working in different situations.
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Shola B says
Am a fan of christian carter and am resident in Nigeria.
Am interested in your book Catch him and Keep Him, i’ve been to several book stores but couldn’t find it. Are there no hardcopies outside your location for sale? And must it be purchased online?.
you are doing a good job. you put smiles on sad faces and give hope to the hopless.
you are just too muchhhhhhhhhhhh
Unfortunately, only the online version is available.
Miss L says
Hi Christian, cant believe i’m sitting here writing this but i’m sick of been single. I’m sure you get so many emails back from us girls saying how impressed we were with your emails. I’ve learned so much with all i’ve read i now take myself more seriously when it comes to men. I am 23 and never had a serious relationship. After so many flings to kill the time i now realised i was jumping into bed with these men almost straight away. Every weekend it’s on the pull with the girls which i’m just sick of. I would really like to get into a proper relationship. There’s a guy i’ve had a soft spot for years. Everytime i see him i melt. We’ve been together a few times but because i liked him so much i thought by sleeping with him it would make us closer. All the times i’ve been with him he was the one who made the first move. I could never aproach him first because i just get weak when i see him. He put his number in my phone but when i text he said before this goes any further i’ve a girlfrind. So i just said you could of said that before this and just left it- feeling a bit stupid for texting in the first place. He is now single and i’m still interested in him. Do you think it would be possible to start things over again and forget we’ve slept together. I’m a disater when it comes to knowing what to say or do when i see him. I have not purchased any of your programmes yet. Could you advise me on a programme that would suit me.
Christian, need advise please…meet a wonderful man on line and had an instant match.
Had dated and had me out to his weekend get away in the wine country. called me-e mailed me had good conversation things in common and when to dinner and I gave him a gift of photo fames for graduation photo of his son and daughter.
He had mentioned he hates to shop for those kind of things, as an interior designer I love things like that so just do it naturally. He seemed pleased!! He said he was going to check his schedule and we could plan going to a concert or theather, he assured me he would call – That was the last I have heard!!!
I have your cd-and e- book but still don’t know what went wrong. I called and was very casual and friendly. I sent an e-mail wishing him a nice weekend- He
wished me a nice weekend too but did not refer to me in his pet name he gave me. I have not called or e-mailed him and have not heard a thing!! What do I
do??? I really though we had a fit-( his word)