I want to share something important with you here…
Have you ever had a man tell you he’s not happy and wants to end your relationship?
And the more you tried to figure out why he was unhappy and “fix” things… the further he pushed you away.
You couldn’t understand why in the world he stopped loving and caring for you the way he used to… and it made no sense at all.
And to add further frustration to the pain, there really was no clear REASON WHY he stopped feeling it for you and decided he wanted to leave.
There was no single moment that you knew changed things for him.
So it drove you crazy trying to figure out what it really was that had changed the way he felt about you.
Now… if you’re like most women, this situation has happened to you at least once or twice in your life.
Or it may even be happening to you right now.
Point is, you know how devastating it can feel.
Well, the good news is that there is a whole lot of LEARNING and GROWTH that can take place in these moments. (whether you believe it or not right now)
And these are also often the moments that start the process of CHANGE and TRANSFORMATION towards a better life.
To help you get the most from these moments in your life, and make sure you take away the lessons you were to learn… consider for a minute how you’ve dealt with situations like this in the past.
You may have done some or all of the following with a man when your relationship was falling apart and he said he wanted to leave:
- You tried to “rationalize” the situation and tell him how good you think your relationship is, and how he’s wrong for not wanting it or seeing all the amazing things about it. But this NEVER helped.
- You were sweeter and more affectionate, hoping he¡d reciprocate and open back up to you… but all this did was annoy him.
- The more hurt you felt, and the more he saw this, the LESS he seemed to pay attention to you and your feelings, or care. As a matter of fact, he may have become colder and MORE distant the more he saw that you were hurt.
- You spent countless hours trying to TALK about what you were both feeling and “work” on things. But that only pushed him further away, no matter how much reasoning or understanding you did when it came to him, his feelings, and how to help him be happy.
Recognize any of these responses in your past?
If so, then believe it or not I have GOOD NEWS for you.
Let me explain why this is good news…
You may have noticed a kind of “trend” going on with all the common responses I listed above.
This “trend” goes something like this-
The HARDER you try with a man, and the more you attempt to TALK things out with him… the LESS RESPONSIVE and “emotionally available” he becomes with you.
If you’re paying attention here, than you should have some light bulbs going off inside your head at this point.
Hopefully you’re starting to recognize a kind of PATTERN that has played out between you and the man in your life in your past.
This is your first step – to discover this PATTERN of your own… and keep CONSCIOUS of it and how it’s working AGAINST YOU with men.
Of course, when you start seeing these patterns in your life more clearly, some questions will quickly come up for you.
So here’s one of those important questions-
In those times that you’ve TRIED HARDER to make things work with a man and put MORE LOVE and ENERGY into a man and a relationship when he’s pulled away… is the reason that it hasn’t worked for you because you’re not SAYING the right things?
Or could it be that what you were saying didn’t really matter, because he had his mind already made up?
Here’s the truth…
If you’ve been close to a man, shared an amazing level of love and connection… and you know what you’ve shared is “real”, then
the reality is that when a man pulls away from you and tells you he’s unhappy and unsure of wanting to be with you…
On a “logical” level he has decided that he would like to try and move on.
But on a deeper EMOTIONAL LEVEL, a man has rarely made up his mind about not wanting to leave if you’re still close and he’s at all conflicted about things with you.
Deep down he still has that same place in his heart that wants to connect with you and share what you used to share – and would want to do so again if things were “different” than they’ve become.
After all, he felt strongly before and had decided he wanted to be with you in the first place since you’ve been together.
Now, some women sense this kind of thing where a man STILL HAS FEELINGS for them but is saying that he wants to leave… because they can sense it inside a man INTUITIVELY, which is great.
But here is the problem with this…
Instead of using this intuition to their benefit… they actually end up SHOOTING THEMSELVES IN THE FOOT with it by trying to CONVINCE the man of what they can see INSIDE HIM… and try and SHOW HIM how to get back in touch with that place inside where he still love and cares for them.
If you know much about how human behavior works… or more importantly, about how men respond and LISTEN, then you know that trying to tell a man all the things YOU can see that he CAN’T isn’t a great way to approach things.
If you’re like lots of other women who have tried to “save” your relationship unsuccessfully – then some or all of the 4 common responses I described above ring true for you and didn’t work out well for you.
You “went with your gut” and your intuition, and tried to get a man to see all the things YOU KNEW to be true about him and your relationship.
But these weren’t the things that HE was able to hear or understand about you, about himself, or about your relationship.
To make a long story short… it’s important to remember that even though you see the “truth” of your situation and try to share it with a man… this is YOUR TRUTH, and NOT HIS.
He has an entirely different perspective all together.
Which is why, trying to be the one to fix your relationship by CONVINCING a man of what YOUR INTUITION tells you doesn’t often “resonate” the same way for him the way it does for you when you talk about what you’re seeing and feeling.
In fact, sharing your own intuition about him and your relationship only makes him RESIST YOU even more… and want to get farther away from you and your old relationship.
Why Trying To “Talk” Things Through With Him Isn’t The Answer…
OK, so let’s back up a bit, as I want to show you something else critical that’s going on here for you with men…
Think back to the day you first had “the talk” with a man where he admitted how he wasn’t into your relationship anymore:
“It’s just not working.”
“I love you. But I’m just not IN LOVE with you anymore.”
“I’m not happy.”
“I need my space.”
When a man said this… your first reaction was probably-
“Let’s talk about it. Let¡s make it better.”
You probably had some “heavy” talks with him, trying to figure out what went wrong and what you could do to get the love back again.
The talks made you upset, and even angry at times.
But you persisted because maybe you felt if you could talk things through and make him SEE how much you still cared for and loved him…then he would of course realize that you were “the one” for him.
Because at one time you had both shared such a great connection that you were sure that you could get it back with “better communication”, and by figuring out what went wrong.
Or maybe you even suggested counseling ¢ for yourself or for both of you.
You laid yourself out on the line… willing to DO and BE just about ANYTHING in order to make things right again, the way they USED to be, but better.
But he didn’t want any part in any of this.
Your friends and family probably told you that you were doing the right things, and that relationship take “work”…
And that if he wasn’t listening, opening up, and “getting it”… then HE was the one to blame.
That he was the one being selfish and immature.
Some of these other reasons made you feel a little bit better… but only for a moment.
It still didn’t explain why, despite everything you were doing to improve yourself and your relationship… he was still getting MORE and MORE distant and certain that he wanted to end things with you.
Until finally he broke it off for good.
A BETTER WAY
What if I were to suggest to you there was a way to STOP your man from leaving… and to actually REVERSE the break up and re-ignite his passion and feelings toward you that brought you together in the first place?
And what if you could do this quickly and easily… with a whole lot LESS EFFORT and frustration?
The thing is… for all your thinking, analyzing, worrying, and trying to do the right thing for your relationship… most women never recognize that they have been making a CRITICAL MISTAKE all along in this “save the relationship” process from the moment that bad “talk” took place.
And they never figure out that this one mistake that they keep making is the thing that is what actually pushing the man in their life FURTHER AWAY… instead of bringing him closer to you.
Now, I don’t expect you to believe that all this could be true about your life just because I’m telling you.
But let me ask you…
If there was even a small bit of truth that you could learn from and change your love life and your “luck” in love FOREVER… would you be willing to at least take a look at this?
Here the cold hard reality…
The key to figuring out what works in “reviving” your relationship has nothing to do with how hard you try or how much or how little love and affection you have for a man.
That¡s because most people have never considered the DEEPER, HIDDEN reasons why men lose interest in a relationship and seek a new lover – even if their old relationship wasn’t “bad”.
When you understand better the hidden TRIGGERS inside a man¡s mind, you¡ll know exactly what to do to maintain and RE-CREATE the affection and attraction in your relationship.
And how to deal with it when he comes to you as he undoubtedly will at some point and says, “I’m not feeling what I used to feel anymore.”
What if you had this kind of KNOWLEDGE and UNDERSTANDING when it came to a man and your relationship?
Would you feel more CONFIDENT, relaxed and SECURE?
I know you would.
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Remember, the “old ways” have to do with talking, cajoling, threatening, pleading and convincing a man that he should be more romantic and passionate and that you ARE the one for him.
That stuff just doesn’t work. As a matter of fact, it’ll backfire on you.
Not only that, but you will start seeing how keeping a man’s attraction for you is a lot more than what you say and do.
Attraction works very differently for a man than it does for a woman.
Because of this, many women automatically assume that what creates attraction for them should work the same way for a man.
That the things that make you want to be with a man and stay in a relationship must be the same things for him.
100% not true.
But most women keep on acting as though things work the same for men anyways.
The things inside a man’s mind that trigger attraction are often “counterintuitive” to what most women THINK would make a man wild for you.
Seriously, how many times have you been completely hot for a man and done all kinds of amazing and incredible thoughtful things for him… only to have him tell you that he just “doesn’t feel the same way” for you?
That he¡s only interested in being friends with you?
You wonder what¡s wrong with him. Why doesn’t he feel the same way about you that you feel about him?
There must be something wrong with him.
He must not be very open or “emotionally available”.
You KNOW you have all the qualities a man could want in a woman, so why doesn’t HE want you?
You probably drove yourself crazy trying to figure this out, or tried harder to be sexier, prettier, funnier and generally nicer than any women you know in order to win him over.
But no matter what you did, that spark just wasn’t there for him.
It’s time to stop worrying, and start doing what works with men.
If you do this, it’s going to save you a whole lot of wasted time, effort, and tears.
You don¡t have to beat yourself up about why things AREN’T WORKING.
Learn once and for all how ATTRACTION works for a man… what he’s really thinking and feeling, and what makes you IRRESISTIBLE inside his mind.
Once you know this, you’ll never have to waste weeks or months pining after a man who will never feel the same way about you.
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I’ll talk to you again soon and best of luck in Life and Love,
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