So what does it mean if you and a man share something special together but then he either:
A) Keeps dating other women and avoids the topic of a relationship
B) He tells you you’re great but that he’s just not ready for a relationship right now
I want to take this frustrating and unfortunately common situation millions of women experience and show you how simple it can be to create the kind of love life you really want for yourself from it.
Too many women spend hours, days or weeks filling their mind with 2 million and one ideas, theories and conspiracies about what might be going on in the mind of their man.
You know women who do this.
And you know how it works against them.
If you were honest with yourself, could it be that you’re doing some of this too?
Doing this not only drives you crazy as a woman, as your mind races and comes up with every possible scenario and angle…
But it also ends up making you seem weird, desperate, or “clingy” when you’re around this man whether you mean for it to or not.
I’ve never met a woman in my life who meant to come off as “needy” with a man.
But it’s the thoughts going on inside your own mind that accidentally have a man confuse you for a needy or desperate woman.
Whether you know it or not, the right kind of man who has his act together has a LOT of women wanting his time and attention.
One of the most common things a man who has his act together is used to seeing (and watches out for) is a woman who doesn’t quite have things handled for herself when it comes to her own emotions.
Yes, men could stand to be more open to experiencing the beauty of the natural emotional ups and downs, and back and forth that most women seem at home with.
Men seem to want to keep things fixed on one level.
But part of this difference is at the heart of what makes a great man.
The truth is, good men who have their life together end up at one time or another having women act a little “crazy” with them. As in major extremes of uncontrollable up and down, back and forth.
If you know any great single men who are friends and you see what happens out in the dating world with other women, then you know what I’m talking about.
The point is, because of this, the more “together” and desirable a man might be, the more likely it is that he’s VERY tuned in to how a woman handles herself emotionally.
A man who has is act together is looking for a woman who truly has her act together.
And therefore, he’s constantly looking for signs that a woman either takes responsibility for her ownlife and her own feelings… or not.
Long story short, if you allow your mind to get sidetracked and distracted with all kinds of negative or worrisome thoughts and fears of “what if”… a man who has his act together is going to quickly sense this.
And when he does, he’s going to instantly “disqualify” you from being the woman he wants to open up to more and become deeply involved physically and emotionally with.
Here’s the real secret to why-
A man wants to be with a woman who he believes is going to make life BETTER and EASIER for him. (Yes, on one level it really is that simple with men)
If you show a man that to be with you is for him to have an even more fun, exciting, and easy life… then he’s going to be wild with excitement when it comes to your future together.
But on the other hand…
If you show a man that to be with you is for him to constantly be experiencing intense emotional swings up and down… there’s nothing that will set off the alarm in his mind to RUN faster than this.
I don’t want you to accidentally come off as the kind of woman a man thinks is just plain difficult to be with… when inside you there’s an amazing and beautiful woman who’s full of love and joy who you could show him instead.
The question is… which woman is showing through from inside you to the men or man in your life?
The woman a man sees you as comes down to 2 parts:
The first part is a choice you have-
You can choose to focus on the things that will both fill you with positive thoughts and feelings, while also naturally radiating more of the you who is fun and ATTRACTIVE to a man.
Or you can choose the path of fear, worry, and anxiety… thinking that at least you’ll do better to protect yourself.
The choice is yours.
The other part, aside from choosing what to do with all the things that are UNKNOWN and UNCERTAIN about the man in your life… comes down to knowing what you actually DO and SAY with a man.
By the way… if you find you’re having a tough time simply keeping your own feelings and emotions from not only rocking the boat, but sinking it altogether, it’s time you stopped trying to find ways to avoid what’s at THE ROOT of the things that are holding you back from finding the love you deserve.
Are you finding it hard for a man to see and recognize the amazing woman you are inside?
And, if you’re honest with yourself, could it be that you’re contributing to men seeing you as someone less than your best… simply because you’re letting some of your fears and patterns from the past stay a part of your life?
If this is any way the case for you right now, then I strongly recommend you read what’s at this link below and take it to heart:
Ok, back to it.
Let me tell you it to you straight when it comes to men and how they think and act with women, and show you a great way to address both your own choice of what to focus on, and what to do and say with a man-
If you’ve ever dated a man and he told you he didn’t know if he was ready for a relationship…
Or you’ve ever shared a great connection with a man and thought it could really turn into a great relationship… but he told you that he still wanted to “date other people“, guess what?
There were really only 2 possible things going on in his mind.
THE TWO REASONS A MAN WON’T COMMIT
#1) He really wasn’t in the right place for a real relationship at that moment in time, and nothing could change the fact that the timing wasn’t right
#2) He plain and simple wasn’t “feeling it” for you, and therefore he was never going to want a more serious relationship with you as long as he kept feeling the same way about you. Now, I know there can be thousands of details that make your particular situation different and have it’s own unique story…
But the reality is that if you and a man share a great connection but he doesn’t want more, these are the only two possible reasons.
But lots of women make the mistake I mentioned earlier of letting their negative and worried mind carry them away.
Which brings us back to your choice-
What are you choosing to do when things are UNCERTAIN with a man? And what are the things you feel as a result of your own thinking and worrying showing him- even when you’re not saying a word?
Let me give you a few hands-on tips to use when it comes to what to SAY and DO with a man.
If you’re with a man, and he’s “dating” other women… then if you at any time in the future want the possibility of having a real and committed relationship with this man, then you have to let him know that you won’t EVER be with a man who is with another woman.
Of course, do not say this in the tone of voice and context lots of other women do this with-
I’m talking about the fearful or “needy” tone of voice… and saying this in the context of trying to subtly CONVINCE a man to want to be with you and only you.
Not only will doing this not make a man want to stop seeing other women and be with you…
It will turn him off to you altogether.
There’s a better way.
The tone of voice and the context for talking to a man about a real relationship, when it goes well and works for women, goes like this:
Her: We’ve spent some time together, and I really enjoy being with you. We have a great time together.
Him: Me too.
Her: I don’t know about you, but I think there could be something great here for us, if we wanted it. But I need to be honest- I don’t date men who date other women. It’s just not something I do.
Him: Hmmm. Ok.
Her: So that means that if you want to keep seeing me, you will have to decide what you want. If you want to date other women, then you can’t be with me.
And that’s it.
Say nothing more.
Do NOT fill in the several moments of silence that will often follow from a man when you say this.
This is your time to do something that will show you more about the man in your life than anything else will…
Saying something and simply waiting and LISTENING.
Do not interrupt him here.
Do not disagree with him if he says something you don’t like or want to hear.
And do not jump into trying to convince or plead with him to want or feel any other way than what he tells you and shows you.
This is the biggest mistake you can make with a man.
The amazing part is, if you can have these kinds of conversations with a man and tell him who YOU are, what YOU WANT, and do it in a way that doesn’t communicate that you NEED him to fulfill all of these things or else you’ll be completely at a loss… then something incredible will happen-
A man will feel free and have the space to move even closer to you. (It’s amazing what can happen when you stop moving towards a man, and sit back and create the space for him to start coming to you- which is what you want to begin with and feels great)
Of course, there’s another “level” to what’s going on here when you talk to a man this way-
If you can communicate with a man in this way, he will find it very rare and unique about you… and he will feel that magic emotion we call ATTRACTION for you.
And the very best CONTEXT for talking to a man about anything to do with your relationship is to do it in a way that sparks attraction for you inside him while it’s happening.
Here’s another secret for you-
If a man feels an intense level of ATTRACTION for you… there’s almost nothing he won’t be willing to do with you or for you.
When a man experiences that deep level of Attraction for a woman, it literally changes and shifts his decision making process and his thinking.
A man who used to be certain he wouldn’t settle down for years, if ever… can suddenly find a woman he feels deeply attracted to( more than just a Physical Attraction) and within a few weeks or months start thinking how great it would be to have a family and get married.
A man who used to think he had to be making more money, and needed a bigger house and a better job to finally settle down… can suddenly want it all just because of the way he FEELS about a woman.
My point is… for a man, wanting to be with a woman and move into a real and lasting relationship isn’t an entirely “logical” or conscious process like most men would like to think it is.
Whether men like it or not, it’s their FEELINGS that determine what they want when they’re with a woman they are deeply attracted to.
If you’d like an easy and natural authentic way to start speaking the language of attraction with a man… to where he can’t help but feel that gut level feeling inside where he’s literally addicted to being with you both Physically and Emotionally,
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When a man feels this, he won’t be able to keep himself from wanting to open up to you and know and share his deeper feelings.
Wouldn’t it be amazing to have the man in your life literally inspired into becoming the kind of lover, friend, and partner you’ve always wanted, simply by the way you make him feel when he’s around you?
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I’ll talk to you again soon, and best of luck In Life and Love.
P.S. Did you know that men have a secret language When it comes to women, dating and relationships?
You might think of as “guy code”.
One of the most interesting things men talk about and say to each other in this shorthand is about whether or not he and his friends see a woman as good “Relationship Material“.
The shorthand for a woman who would make a great girlfriend in “guy code” is a “Cool Woman.”
As in, “Yeah, she’s a really cool woman.”
Do you know what makes a man see you as a “Cool Woman”?
In my eBook I show you the 11 things you can do that will make sure a man recognizes you as the cool girl and “relationship material” that you are.
*Hint- sometimes it’s hard for men to RECOGNIZE the fun, loving, amazing woman who’s inside you who would make all his relationship fears simply disappear because you’re different.
Starting on page 139 of my eBook “Catch Him & Keep Him” I share exactly WHAT TO DO so that a man sees that you’re a Cool Girl, or Cool Woman…
Once he does, you can be sure that he’ll stop playing it cool and casual, and start pursuing you for a deeper and more committed relationship.
In my eBook I also show you the 5 things you must NEVER DO with a man when you’re getting to know each other, or else a man won’t ever see you as “relationship material” and he’ll feel like getting closer to you is a trap for him.
To make it easy for the right man to recognize that you’re the right woman for him, it only takes a few of the smallest things in your words and actions.
Stop wondering exactly what these things are that drive men wild and have them chomping at the bit for more of your time, attention and love.
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