Is finding REAL and LASTING LOVE important to you?
Good, then keep reading…
I’m about to share a few secrets on how some women find it… and why others don’t.
A while back I was thinking about why some single women are never able to find true love and make it work – while love seems to just find and work for other women.
I know, not the most fun subject, right? Well, I started going over research, ideas, interviews I’ve done, life experiences, and observations… anything I could get my hands on that might tell me something more about how it could be that a woman who wanted true love and was willing to give it herself would have trouble finding it.
Here’s one of the amazing things I found…
The women in loving long term relationships have several emotional and behavioral traits in common.
No shocker there, right?
Right. But, what is FASCINATING is what these traits are, and the “understandings” and positive and attractive behaviors that they naturally lead women to.
So, let me start explaining what these common “love traits” are by first asking you a question- What’s the difference between single women who can’t seem to find a relationship with a man and make it work versus women in great relationships who experience love and joy almost everyday?
Is it just “dumb luck” that the right guy finally comes along for the latter group?
Well, after talking with thousands of women and studying human behavior and psychology for years,
I’ve realized something…
Lots of women hold an UNCONSCIOUS BELIEF about men, relationships and love.
And, this belief actually makes their love lives more difficult, more painful and more frustrating.
It’s completely COUNTERPRODUCTIVE.
So, what is it?
The belief is that they would have their PERFECT LOVE LIFE if they could just find THE RIGHT MAN.
And that once the right man comes along who is open, loving and mature enough to make it work, everything will fall into place.
Then love will just flow, effortlessly.
Hey, it even sounds true and makes sense, right?
Unfortunately, this isn’t how it works for 95.4% of the women who DO meet that great guy.
There’s an old saying:
“Wherever you go, there you are…”
The challenges and issues in our lives have a way of finding us, no matter where we go or who we’re with – EVEN if we don’t think they’re our own issues.
So, where am I going with this?
What does this mean to YOU and your love life?
It means that you have a choice to make…
You could wait for that 4.6% chance that the perfect guy will come along and make EVERYTHING easy and effortless. And then you both can live happily ever after and you won’t have to worry about all these annoying issues with men and relationships that other women deal with.
You can choose to learn what’s actually going on with men 95.4% of the time…and start to make dating, relationships and love work for you NO MATTER WHAT comes up with a man.
But, do me a favor- if you’re hoping and waiting for the 4.6%, or your irritated that I’m even asking YOU to LEARN and GROW when men are the ones with all the lessons to learn, then go ahead and stop reading right now.
Because you’re not going to get much out of this.
Ok, glad you’re still with me.
COMMON MALE BEHAVIORS THAT GET IN THE WAY OF A DEEP CONNECTION AND LASTING LOVE
Here’s something interesting to think about…
Have you, or any women you know, had lots of dating and relationship horror stories?
And, do some of the same negative and limiting situations keep coming up with different men?
Like when you think a few dates with a man has gone great, and you’ve even been “physical”, but then he suddenly stops calling.
Or when you get physically and emotionally “close” to a man, but the closer you get the more he gets scared and finally he pulls away all together.
Or when the connection starts to fade shortly in to a relationship and somehow the chemistry just disappears – along with the man.
How come these same kinds of situations pop up for some women again and again with different men?
Do some women just attract these kinds of men into their lives?
But the reality is that these are simply VERY COMMON situations with men.
If they’re so common, why don’t these situations happen to the women who end up in greatrelationships?
Why do they have it so much easier with the guy they’re with?
Is it that the men they date and end up with are just better, smarter, more “ready” and more emotionally mature?
The answer is surprising…
Most of the time the answer is NO, these men aren’t very different from other men.
Sure, there are extreme examples like players, emotionally unhealthy or abusive men, etc. that point out that some men are clearly better “relationship material” than others.
I’m talking about the “good guys” that you meet and you quickly know they’re quality people.
Which is part of the reason it can be so shocking and upsetting when guys like this start acting out some of these common negative male behaviors.
It just doesn’t match up.
Well, the truth is that these negative situations and behaviors do come up for most women… even women you think of as having close and loving relationships with great guys.
In other words, there’s no “immunity” from the common male issues and situations.
But, lots of women still end up in great relationships with men IN SPITE of all the male behaviors that tear other couples apart.
So, what’s the difference then?
The difference is how these women RESPOND.
Following me here?
But wait a minute!
Maybe I’m some sort of evil guy conspiring to plot against all women to help all men be bad lazy partners and get away with it?
Aren’t I saying that a woman should just accept all kinds of negative behavior from a man just because I said so… and now men are excused from responsibility?
I’m saying that smart, mature women KNOW HOW TO DEAL with the common tests, challenges and issues that men 95.4% of men put in front of them.
While other women get completely distracted and overwhelmed by these same things, setting off a whole cycle of emotional turmoil that often signals the beginning of the end.
“RELATIONSHIP SECRETS” OF WOMEN IN LOVING AND LASTING RELATIONSHIPS
So, let’s cut to the chase.
What are the things that women who are “smart” in love do that help them find and create loving and lasting relationships?
I’ll get right to the point. Here’s a short list to get you started…
1) “Love Smart” Women Understand The Danger Of A Connection With A Man
How many women do you know who have dated “bad boys”? Lots I bet. Maybe you have too.
What’s with that?
After it’s over, it’s soooooooo obvious that things would have never worked with a bad boy, right?
The thing is, bad boys often create an intense level of attraction with a woman, almost by accident.
The crazy, wild, unpredictable things that they do, that might even be selfish or negative, can actually make a woman feel attraction. Nod if you know what I’m talking about and you’ve ever been attracted to a bad boy or to a guy in a way that just didn’t make any “sense”.
When attraction strikes, logic and reason often goes right out the window.
After years of study, I’ve recognized that attraction works at a much more unconscious and subtle level than most of us like to think it does.
When it comes to feeling attraction, our minds don’t just say to us,
“Hey, this guy just did something really sweet or has this great quality – I think I’m going to FEEL ATTRACTED to him.”
It’s nice to think that way, but that’s not how it works most of the time.
Lots of women say that they “just felt something” when they met a man they were attracted to.
In fact, sometimes the guy isn’t very nice or sweet at all, but she still “feels it” for him.
The difference is, “love smart” women understand that just because a man can make them FEEL attracted, it doesn’t mean ANYTHING else about him.
Like if he’s loving, mature, open and ready for a relationship, loyal, a good listener, etc.
A connection and attraction can be dangerous this way…
They make us FEEL things intensely for someone and fill in all kinds of blanks about them before we even find out what their true qualities are.
“Love smart” women know that there’s WAY MORE to find out about a man besides how he makes them FEEL if they’re going to get emotionally involved.
And they know how to go about finding these things out in a way that creates MORE ATTRACTION and interest from the man, drawing him in closer.
2) “Love Smart” Women Know That Being “Selective” With A Man Can Actually Make Him Feel MORE ATTRACTED And Not Just Scare Him Off
One of my favorite ideas is that what often works in life when it comes to other people are things that are COUNTERINTUITIVE. I’ve learned that the choices and behaviors that people respond to in dating and relationship situations are no exception.
One of the most powerful and counterintuitive things that I’ve seen that women can do with men that both builds ATTRACTION and set things up for a better long term situation is being SELECTIVE.
Let me explain…
Lots of women who are looking to find deeper and lasting relationships think that if they’re up front about what they want with a man when they’re dating, and if they’re “picky” about what kind of man they want to be with, that a man will somehow be scared or even turned off by this.
They’re right and wrong at the same time.
Immature men who aren’t relationship material will get scared off… and it’s a good thing, Immature men, players, or emotionally unavailable men know that if a woman is clear about what she wants and she’s being selective about the men she spends her time with, it’s going to be harder and “costlier” for them to get what they often want – casual sex.
But mature men and emotionally available men who are the kind of men that a woman would actually want to continue talking to often become more interested in a woman when they see that she’s being SELECTIVE.
It’s a signal that a woman values herself, her life, her time, etc.
And, it also tells a man at a deep unconscious level that the woman is EMOTIONALLY IN CONTROL of her life – which is a strong direct signal that a man will pick up on from a woman.
Being SELECTIVE helps women “naturally” remain in a positive state of emotional control and identify good guys who are “relationship material” from all the rest… AND does it in a way that happens to AMPLIFY the ATTRACTION a man feels.
But, a woman has to know how to communicate her SELECTIVITY without pushing shy or less assertive men away, or being seen as the stereotypical “bossy” woman that lots of men talk bad about.
3) “Love Smart” Women Know How To Create The More Long Term Attraction With A Man – “Intellectual Attraction”
Men can and do fall quickly for some women.
And, often times it’s a short-lived thing that ends as quickly as it began.
So, what are the things that make the difference when a man wants to stay with a woman in the long term?
What makes a man want to truly connect his life with a woman?
If you’ve ever even dated a man, than you know that it takes a whole lot more than just physical attraction for this to happen.
For a man, there’s an elusive and more long term kind of feeling that a man has to experience for this kind of deeper connection to happen.
I call this deeper attraction “Intellectual Attraction” and it’s something that I’ve spent years studying.
Here’s the GOOD NEWS-
I’ve put together some of my VERY BEST IDEAS on what ACTUALLY WORKS to create a deep level of lasting attraction with a man that can build a kind of “unbreakable connection”.
All of these specific ideas, actionable concepts, and “love smart strategies” are inside my ebook.
It’s called “Catch Him And Keep Him” and it’s the only book on dating and relationships out there that I know of that explains the actual inner-workings of how attraction with a man can lead to real and lasting love – and EXACTLY what to do about it.
Of course, I’ve already shared with you a small part of one of the strategies that works to create “Intellectual Attraction”- SELECTIVITY.
There’s an entire section of my ebook devoted to the topic of creating a connection with a man that he’ll find almost “addictive”, along with the lasting attraction that goes along with it.
I also cover, in detail, what to do about those common frustrating situations with men while you’re dating or in relationships. Because, as we all know, there’s no such thing as a completely issue free relationship- especially when it comes to some of us clueless men.
The women who make great relationships work and last know how to deal with these situations with men when they come up, and don’t waste all the precious time, love and energy that they’ve put in.
I bet you already know some of the situations I’m talking about that can quickly set your love life back.
Like when a man quickly withdraws and becomes “emotionally disconnected” or distant.
Or what to do when you find yourself with a “Player” type or a “bad boy” and you don’t know whether you should try and “tame him” or set him free,
Or how to have “the talk” with a man who doesn’t seem to want to or know how to move things ahead and grow closer with you – and it feels like things are slowly slipping away.
The scary truth is, if you don’t know what to do and how to communicate with a man in these critical and unfortunately common situations, then odds are you won’t find or create the loving and connected relationship you’re looking for.
But, hold on – am I saying that if you read my book that you’ll learn everything you’ll ever need to know about men, dating and relationships.
Of course not.
We both know that’s impossible.
But, you will learn the specific psychology, communication and behavior that has led woman after woman to happier, healthier and more love- filled relationships with men.
So, what are you waiting for?
Waiting for a man to figure it all out?
That would be nice, but at this stage I think you’ve grown enough to realize that it’s almost certainly not going to happen that way.
But, I do have several communication “secrets” inside my ebook that will help you LEAD a man to start figuring things out ALSO. That way, you won’t have to do all the heavy lifting yourself when it comes to love.
So, go check out my ebook RIGHT NOW.
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