Ok- tell me this…Are you having an easy time creating the kind of CONNECTION with a man that turns a few typical “dates” into the beginning of an amazing relationship?
Are you finding it more difficult than you think it should be to find a great man and go from him just feeling “casual” about dating you to WANTING and NEEDING YOU on both a physical and emotional level?
If so, then I’m going to show you 4 things that are “must-have’s” to win the right man’s heart.
These are also the things that men don’t talk about but that DRIVE MEN WILD when they recognize them and experience them in you.
If you learn these and put them to use in your love life, the right man is sure to see you as that unique and special woman he just has to have in his life forever.
Ready to discover these?
Great, let’s get started.
Here are 4 things that every good man wants in a woman.
But before we get started, I want to clear the air on something important.
There are Real Men… and then there are men who do NOT have their act together.
Real Men are mature and grounded on a physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual level.
They might not have everything they want in their life… but they are on a great path and open to growing on a deeply personal level.
The opposite of a Real Man is a Boy.
A Boy will become uncomfortable when he gets too close to his own emotions, or too close to a woman who truly sees him inside and out, for better and worse.
A Man knows who he is and will listen, learn and communicate even when he sees or senses that the woman in his life is unhappy or disapproving of something about him or his actions.
The things that will make a Real Man appreciate and admire a woman are often things that a “lesser” man would be annoyed, frustrated, or put off by.
Now that we’re clear on that, things should be a whole lot clearer here with what will draw a real man to you and make him want more.
To simplify things here, I’m going to share these 4 things that a man wants in a woman by showing you how Real Men think about each one.
And by also showing you how Boys think about them as well.
Here we go…
#1) A Real Man Wants A Woman Who Is Playful
There’s something that drives men wild and invites them into a deeper level of “connection” and bonding with a woman faster than plain old talk about feelings and experiences.
And that something is PLAY.
See… men love to be active and to play.
Men were raised to express themselves and connect with those around them through ACTION.
Unfortunately, too many women seem to forget this and want to TALK TALK TALK their way into a man’s heart.
The strange reality is that as you’re getting to know a man… MORE TALK will often get you LESS RESPONSE from a man on an emotional level.
Sure, talking is great to get the facts, and for you to share some things such as your VALUES, and what you do or don’t want in a relationship.
But the fact is that men don’t “feel it” for you because of what you SAY. (Just like you don’t meet a man and feel it for him because he has a great “pick-up line”!)
It’s not the words… it’s the experience.
And for men, the easiest and most straighforward way for a man to engage in his emotions with you is by DOING THINGS with him that DON’T require talking, but allow you to be PLAYFUL with him.
“Doing things” is pretty vague… so I’ll give you a couple examples of PLAYFUL activity you can do with a man that are sure to dial up the emotional intensity, and have him grow more ATTACHED to you:
-Sports: Not all men love sports or are great at them, and you might not like them either, but that’s not the point here.
The point here is to play a sport with a man because it involves aspects of a “game”. You against him competing.
Any sport will do. Ping pong is an easy favorite because no one is really “good”… and you can have all kinds of playful banter hitting the ball back and forth.
Pool is another good one since it’s easy to find when you’re out together- plus you can tease him him by placing your gorgeous self in front of where he’s aiming and distract him so he misses his shot.
Then, when you’re shooting, ask him to come over and help you so he puts his arms around you. Nice! What man wouldn’t love that invitation.
Then if you miss, blame it on him in a fun sarcastic way.
Bottom line, if a man is being active and engaging in a playful game with you while there is also some kind of TOUCHING involved… it’s a magic combination that’s sure to raise the ATTRACTION level up several notches.
-Teasing: For men, teasing is a universal way of bonding and communicating that is like an unspoken language that all men speak.
Every man I know at one time or another has told me a story about at least one exciting and attractive woman they once met.
Almost all of these stories involve one common theme- the women they were with started TEASING them.
Teasing is easier than you might think. The one catch is to do it all with a sense of humor and fun… and don’t get too serious.
The best way to tease a man playfully is to be SARCASTIC with him.
If he asks “Do you have the time?” and you have a watch on…
Look at him straight in the eyes and say “Yes”, smile, and then turn away from him without telling him the time and stop paying attention to him
He’ll realize that you’re being funny and see that he only asked you is you KNEW the time, not to tell him.
Then he’ll either ask you directly what the time is, or he’ll start immediately being playful back at you.
And away you go playing together.
This kind of thing is subtle, but builds a growing level of ATTRACTION inside a man for you.
Again, what’s not important is the WORDS you’re saying.
What’s important is that you’re intentionally either misleading him with your words to mess with him, or you’re playfully making fun of him.
Some women feel uncomfortable with teasing or making fun of a man. But for men, it’s again another way they connect socially.
The funny part is, the more you can tease a man and have him laughing and wanting you to be serious for a minute… the more he’s going to be wanting to get close to you and know you better.
It’s funny how men and human nature works.
Try it. You’ll love how a man responds!
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#2) A Real Man Wants A Woman Who Is Independent
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Now, back to it…
There’s something funny that goes on for some women because of their experiences in relationships with THE WRONG MEN.
Lots of women mistakenly believe that men are looking for a “weaker” woman who will make them feel like they are stronger, smarter, more powerful, etc.
Nothing could be farther from the truth when it comes to a good man. (the kind of man you can actually have a great relationship with)
REAL MEN who have their own lives, who aren’t looking to a woman to validate their lives and their significance DO NOT want a woman who they can “overpower” so that they feel better about themselves.
REAL MEN want a woman who INSPIRES them because she has great things going on her own life.
REAL MEN want a woman who MOTIVATES them because she is thinking and doing great things, and her energy and attitude is contagious.
REAL MEN want a woman who has her own PURPOSE that inspires her and gives her fulfillment and a reason for living and breathing OTHER THAN just being in a relationship.
Here’s the catch…
A lot of women who ARE busy, successful, inspiring, and who have their own purpose seem to all have a common complaint-
That men are INTIMIDATED by them and their success, and that they have their own lives.
This is NOT why men aren’t responding well to them when it comes to more than just a “fling”.
The reality is, Real Men don’t mind if a woman has a great career, or if she makes more money than he does.
What DOES MATTER is that the woman still has SPACE IN HER LIFE for a great relationship, and that she isn’t OVERWHELMED by her work and her career to the detriment of a potential relationship.
Of course, the same goes for a man.
If a man is CONSUMED by his work, feels burnt out all the time, and doesn’t leave space or energy for a woman or a real close and intimate relationship… then he’s not going to do well at keeping a great woman around who knows what she wants and deserves. (A man who’s loving and PRESENT)
Bottom line, it’s HARD to be grounded and PRESENT with your partner when you have 438 million things going on… and you’re feeling stressed.
Is your stress level getting in the way of you simply unwinding and being FULLY PRESENT when you’re with a man?
Are you carrying so much stress and worry and “masculine energy” with you that you’re not even in touch with your own SENSUALITY and SEXUALITY?
What unfortunately happens for a lot of busy energetic and highly functioning women is that they get burned out and STOP simply feeling like the WOMAN that they are.
A Real Man can love and appreciate a woman who has a great career and life of her own, and the independence that comes from that makes a woman even MORE DESIRABLE to a Real Man.
Whereas a Boy is threatened by a woman doing too much of her own thing.
When a Real Man sees you doing your own thing and focused on your own life, he will WANT YOU EVEN MORE and do things to get your attention and create intimate situations between you.
But if you’ve tuned out from your own sensuality and you’re stressed and anxious because you feel like you have to do so much for yourself… then you often aren’t in that place where a man will feel INSPIRED by you and DRAWN TO YOU on a physical and emotional level.
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There’s a place that’s IN BETWEEN too “needy” and too INDEPENDENT that men find irresistible in a woman.
Funny thing, this place also happens to be the state of mind where you as a woman are at your happiest and most fulfilled inside.
Do you find yourself either:
1) Acting a little too “needy” to where you can tell it rubs a man the wrong way?
2) Acting a bit too “fiercely independent” to where you don’t even want to let a man in or RECEIVE what he wants to give you?
If so, then it’s going to be tough for a man to both feel deeply CONNECTED to you, and for him to feel intensely ATTRACTED to you.
#3) A Real Man Wants A Woman Who Is “Emotionally Mature”A single, successful, attractive man who has lots of OPTIONS has seen a lot of different things from women in his life.
He’s seen how women flirt.
He’s seen his share of how things can go wrong with women in relationships.
He’s seen women throw themselves at him.
He’s seen how women bring beauty and wisdom into his life in a way he couldn’t have seen on his own.
And he’s also seen women act incredibly needy and unsettled, to where they lose it completely on an emotional level and fall apart right in front of him.
The question is…
Knowing what you know about how some other women can be…
What do you think are the biggest WARNING SIGNS a man has learned to look for in a woman?
And what do you think might be the biggest INDICATOR of a healthy and happy woman?
I’ll give you a second to think about it.
Now, knowing how most men think, and hearing over my lifetime how men talk about women and relationships, and where most of the misunderstandings come from… I’ll give you a hint.
Both the “red flags” and the greatest positive indicators have to do with the same thing in men’s minds.
Do you know what it is?
I’ll tell you-
It’s a woman’s EMOTIONS.
The way a woman feels, reacts to, and communicates her own feelings and emotions is the greatest “Make or Break” place in a man’s mind.
If a man feels attracted to a woman, enjoys being with her, and they’re spending a lot of amazing time together… eventually there’s going to be a situation that comes up where you and a man will see something differently and misunderstand each other.
There might also be a time where a man does something that hurts your feelings, or shows that he isn’t thinking about you and your feelings.
How will you respond to this?
And how will you share your feelings?
Will you share with him in a way that will inspire and encourage him to open up to the fact that he might have done something wrong?
Or will you share in a way that he’ll receive as BLAME or CRITICISM? (both of which will encourage a man to either feel ANGRY or WITHDRAW)
The difference in these 2 choices of how you as a woman respond has everything to do with how YOU deal with and handle the EMOTIONS you have inside yourself.
Do you have the patience and maturity to take the time to get in touch with your own feelings as you’re feeling them, and communicate from a place of positive intention?
Or do you feel overwhelmed by your emotions, to where THEY CONTROL YOU… and you do and say things that aren’t coming from a place of love or positive intention… but from a place of your own hurt ego?
You as a woman are NOT supposed to be more like a man, and seek to “detach” from your emotions as you feel them.
Your feelings are a gift that brings richness to your life and experience.
But how do you SHARE your feelings with the man in your life?
Whether you recognize it right now, the thing Real Men want most from the woman they’re with is to see them simply happy and smiling because of who he is and the good things he does.
Knowing this, what do you think happens when a Real Man who would want more than anything for you to feel happy, loved, and delighted by him and his ACTIONS with you hears that something he might not have even known would upset you made you feel awful?
That’s right. He’ll feel frustrated as well, and often take it personally.
He’ll feel like he can’t do things right with you, even though he tries.
This isn’t a great feeling for a man to feel in his relationship- and it can eventually drive a man to STOP LISTENING or TRYING if a woman gets upset by him for too many things he can’t understand.
If you want a man to know that your relationship is something he wants to last and keep going, then he should feel like it’s EASY to know how to:
A) Make you happy
B) NOT upset you accidentally to the point where you lose your cool emotionally and he feels like you “turn on him”
A woman who has the maturity to not BLAME or CRITICIZE a man for what she’s feeling, but to share her feelings in an honest and authentic way that helps a man BETTER UNDERSTAND HER… will have a man who is more open than she could imagine a man being with her.
How does the man in your life think about you and how you share your more “difficult” feelings?
Does he know and trust that you love him, andthat where you communicate from is a place of LOVE and positive intention?
Or does he RECEIVE what you say and feel like you are BLAMING for him being “wrong” or for being thoughtless or uncaring?
A man, even a great listener who loves you and is patient… will have a tough time remaining open and caring when he feels “attacked” by your hurt feelings.
#4) A Real Man Wants A Woman Who Makes Him Feel Intense ATTRACTIONMen know, as well as women do, that it’s EASY to find someone who makes you WILD with desire at first…
And hard to find someone who makes you feel this way loooooooong into your relationship.
Here’s something you might not know about men.
Men aren’t as scared of COMMITMENT and RELATIONSHIPS as they are scared of being in a relationship with a woman where there is no PASSION and ATTRACTION.
Have you ever had a situation with a man where the passion or the attraction seemed to fizzle out, but you didn’t know what to do about it?
Do you know how to start off conversations with a man and build the ATTRACTION that a man is feeling to the level at which he’ll be BEGGING YOU for more time and attention?
Do you know how to KEEP THE ATTRACTION GOING STRONG inside your relationship, and what makes a man stay intensely attracted to a woman well into the relationship and past the “honeymoon stage”?
A common way women accidentally KILL the ATTRACTION men might be feeling is by either TRYING TOO HARD to get him to like you, or by acting like the relationship is too serious too soon.
Here’s a tip as a single woman…
When dating, a great way to do create attraction with a man is instead of trying to get so serious by talking about what he does for a living, where he grew up, etc. (even though these can be important things)…
Make sure you do and say things that interject FUN and HUMOR into your relationship from the very start.
There’s nothing more appealing to a man than a great woman who knows how to relax and have fun.
And the universal way that men relax, have fun and BOND is through playful TEASING.
Flirting almost always involves some form of humor and sarcasm- as in instead of answering a man directly when he asks you what you do for a living… you look at him and think of the most ridiculous thing you could imagine getting him to believe and say that instead.
It’s not that WHAT you say starts off an amazing chain of events that leads down the road to building a deep level of attraction.
It’s the fact that instead of being so caught up in your mind, you’re joking, having fun, and inviting a man into playfulness with you.
Men instantly understand what’s going on when there’s a connection with a woman and she starts being playful this way- and respond by opening up and becoming more engaged and attached with you on an EMOTIONAL level without even knowing it.
Of course, the fun and playfulness of being UNPREDICTABLE holds true when you’re in a relationship as well.
Most couples get very used to each other, and how their partner will act and respond day in and day out.
Part of this is a natural progression to a relationship that provides a healthy level of PREDICTABILITY to things.
And if you can be the woman who also mixes this with fun, exciting and playful UNPREDICTABLE things… suddenly a man doesn’t know quite what to expect.
Suddenly he’s reminded that he hasn’t quite seen everything that there is to you.
And suddenly you’re having fun teasing him and engaging in a playful back-and-forth that has the PASSION and ATTRACTION level rising all the while.
Of course, if you don’t do this with a genuinely playful attitude and a little flirtatious smile on your face… it won’t go over the same way, and he’ll be wondering what’s wrong with you.
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I’ll talk to you again soon, and best of luck in Life and Love.Your Friend,
What do you do if you are, as a woman, going through turmoil in your life and your man says something teasingly, but the remark is crude and attacks a matter that is very sensitive to you? You let him know how you feel – yet he does not apologize.
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this is great, and so true. my significant other and i are going through serious problems at the moment and theses are things he cites as reasons he
belives we cannot continue a relationship. this is what he was looking for out of a partner and wife. this is why his attention is towards another “friend” at the moment because she embodies the things that men desire. great article.
great article, thanks.
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