Do you ever wonder why some women seem to have an uncanny knack for attracting a guy and keeping him hooked?
You know that it can’t just be about physical beauty, or how intelligent or “nice” they are, because that’s not always the case.
They just have a secret that makes them totally addictive to the man they’re with.
These are the women men refer to as “cool girls”, or “cool women.”
When men are talking and they want to let their friend know about the great woman in their life they say, “she’s a really cool woman.”
This is the universal male shorthand for a woman who just GETS IT when it comes to being incredible and irresistible to be around.
These are the women men crave being with and staying with, as they know how to create and share that intense attraction, and keep their man endlessly fascinated and wondering about them.
While some women can’t seem to buy a man’s true love and loyalty, the “cool woman” literally has her man BEGGING for more of her time and attention.
I’ve spent years researching and observing exactly what this is in women, and how it all works, and I’ve put everything I’ve discovered about what it is that will drive a man wild for you, to where he’ll be wanting more and more from you and your relationship.
Some women have a hard time getting a man to want to ever truly commit- even after years of an amazing life shared together.
While other women have their man literally down on bended knee begging to spend the rest of their lives together.
What’s the difference?
The big difference in how a man is with you comes down to the level of ATTRACTION he feels for you.
Either he feels it for you, or he doesn’t.
And when things aren’t working, and you can tell a man has lost that feeling for you, you can bet that he’s no longer feeling that magic emotion of ATTRACTION, which is what brought you together in the first place.
The good news is that you don’t have to be a woman who was born knowing exactly what it is that creates this kind of deep and lasting attraction in your man.
In fact, triggering the kind of intense attraction in your man is actually easy, once you know how.
And what’s really easy is getting to sit back and watch as your relationship gives you more love, confidence and support than you ever imagined, all because your man is feeling so excited to stay connected to you – because of the attraction he has burning inside him when he’s around you.
I want you to have this feeling, and enjoy the kind of lasting and secure relationship that can only take place when you and your man are both feeling this way with each other.
I reveal the secrets to not only being this “cool woman” in my “Natural & Lasting Attraction” program, but I show you the 6 Keys For Lasting Attraction.
You can find our what these 6 Keys are, and find out more about this amazing program that will have your man feeling that intense attraction for you again right here:
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So then, what is the secret to being irresistible to a man?
Let me give you some quick tips and then tell you exactly what you need to do in order to be the kind of woman a man can’t live without, no matter WHAT is going on in his life.
Let’s say there’s a man in your life you find incredibly attractive and interesting. You’ve gotten to know him a little bit and you think he finds you attractive, too.
You think about him all the time. You miss talking to him and seeing him when you’re not with him. You wonder what it would be like to have something real and committed with him.
As for him, he acts like he likes you too…sometimes.
But in the back of your mind, you’re not completely sure he’s really that “into you.” Maybe he doesn’t call as often as you want him to, or he acts a little distant when you’re together.
What do you do in this situation?
You might do what so many women do in the same situation. They KILL their chance with the guy by doing some very UN-attractive things.
Here are some do’s and don’t’s when it comes to being irresistible to a man:
WRONG WAY: Keep moving towards him and fill in any and all empty space that you sense between you. Tell him how much you like him and share all the thoughts and feelings that are racing through your mind.
BETTER WAY: Take time to enjoy the connection that you’re sharing, and don’t try and rush ahead. Do things that engage him and capture his interest, and then sit back and let him come to you a bit too. Give him time and space in your interactions to come to you with his feelings.
WRONG WAY: Kill him with kindness by complimenting him every chance you get, calling him all the time, doing favors for him without him even asking… and generally doing whatever you can to be a special “friend” and companion to him.
BETTER WAY: Think “playful” instead of just nice, as you don’t want to be his friend. Instead, be unpredictable and intriguing. Create tension and interest by not always doing or saying the “obvious” thing. This will keep him thinking and wondering about you, and get him doing things to get more of your time and attention.
WRONG WAY: Sleep with him in the hopes that by being close and intimate he’ll realize how much he likes you, how amazing you both are together, and want a relationship. Act and talk to him like you’re already in a serious and committed relationship, even though you’ve never talked about it. Get upset when you don’t see that he wants a relationship after you’re physical with him.
BETTER WAY: Don’t make the mistake of hoping that sex will bring him closer to you and set up your relationship. Communicate to a man that you’re SELECTIVE, and that you respect yourself more than you need a relationship.
Slow things down and be selective for your own sake, as well as for the sake of the “real” relationship you want to create.
Create not just physical but emotional experiences with him that will connect you both. He wants and needs to feel not just Physical Attraction with you, but what I call Emotional Attraction as well.
If you’ve had a tough time with dating and relationships because the man seems to lose interest, fade away, get distant, stop calling or tell you he’s not into anything “serious,” then it probably means one thing:
You haven’t created the kind of intense emotional attraction inside him that keeps him wanting to be with you, and only you, no matter what.
If that’s the case, then you should do yourself a BIG favor and save yourself any more wasted time and energy trying to guess what works with your man, and check out my “Natural & Lasting Attraction” program.
You can learn exactly how to create the kind of powerful and lasting attraction that makes you truly irresistible to a man by doing and saying all the things you’ll learn in the program.
Learn everything you need to know about creating not just physical attraction, but a deeper and more lasting emotional level of attraction here:
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In my Natural & Lasting Attraction program, I explain the 4 common failing “approaches” or strategies women take on when they like a man and they want him to feel something more for them.
You’ll learn what these 4 mistakes are, and how to avoid them (since they are sure to make a man pull away and stop “feeling it” for you).
You’ll discover how to make a man feel much, much more than just a physical attraction for you…
Go here now to watch some sample video clips from this program all about creating attraction with a man… and find out exactly how it can take your love life from disconnected and uncertain to passionate and engaging in no time at all.
If you’re ready to change your love life and the way men respond to you on a physical and emotional level… then now’s the time.
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I really enjoy reading your articles about love and relationships. My situation is somewhat a little different. I’ve been friends with this guy for ten months and we see each other on the daily basis. We have a wonderful time when we are together. We never been intimate as of yet. We both believe in being friends before lovers and i’m starting to want more. We sometimes flirt with each other but we are just friends. I need advice on my situation. I’m fallen for my friend and deep down inside i feel that he is fallen for me. He knows that i care about him and want more but he just say that we will only be friends. Please help me.I don’t want to lose his friendship by bringing it up all the time. What should i do?
10 months is a long time to be with a guy and if he doesn’t make the move to the next level to be more than ‘just friends’…he is not that really into you. He enjoys your company but that doesn’t mean he will fall for you unless otherwise…you prove to him that you’re worth pursuing. Flirting is no sure way to prove that a guy wants to commit to you. it just shows he’s a male human being being intrigued by a female. I understand how it feels to fall for someone who may not feel that same level of attraction for you…but hey! THERE IS A CHANCE THAT HE MAY FALL FOR YOU…don’t spoil that by being clingy, desperate and saddenned all the time…live your life happily, enjoy yourself with or without him…be yourself and keep your options open…there a more than 4 billion men out there who may want to carry you off into the sunset and here you are crying over this one guy who may not give you the love that you need…
I have read your advise and wish i had done things differently. I am surviving a broken relationship. i got together with this guy about a year after he broke up with his serious girlfriend. He was still leaving with the girl at his home but was not intimate. Its about a year plus now he just broke up with me and went back to the serious girlfriend before.He said we should just be friends.we used to have sex, plant a garden together, we use to spend time together in the first year, but i was always the one to call him or ask him to come home. Sometimes he says he will come and never show up. i have asked him to do certain things for me , he says yes and never shows up. About two weeks ago i ask him if he truly loves me he said yes. I was suppose to give him a massage the same week, he said he will come for it in the week but never should up, should i have called him to come for it. He was suppose to buy me some cooking gas, said yes he would but never came to do it. i spend about three days not calling him but commucating online. on saturday when communicating online with him, i am telling himm he does not spend time with me. He is then asking me don’t you think we should be just friends. So ask him why, he said that how he sees it should be. He said he loves me and do not want to hurt me but he is not stable and not the one for me. I deserve someone better. I ask him if he is seeing someone, he said his ex but they only talking. He said he is sorry. Can you advice me cause i am really feeling dowm now. what did i do wrong.
Christie, it’s clear you love this guy and are feeling bad. It sounds like you’re doing ALL the work in the relationship and he’s not doing anything, and that you want him but honey he’s just not that into you. At least, he’s telling you that he only wants to be friends and not more serious so he’s not leading you on. He’s been telling you AND showing you with his actions ( not calling you, not showing up, etc) that he’s not interested! WAKE UP! LISTEN to him and move on to a new guy (and there are plenty out there and you will love again!!) who loves you and wants to be in a relationship with you. I know you don’t want to let go and move on but the sooner you do, the sooner you will find love – ’cause there’s no love for you here! So lick your wounds for a while, then get out there and enjoy your life. And one last thing, STOP doing all the work. Let the next guy call you, ask you to do things, offer to do things for you, etc. You can give him positive attention but let him do the work and honey, a man is happy to do that when he thinks your’re the one. There’s being kind and then there’s being stupid. Good luck.
I met a man and dated for about a month. We had a great connection, however, I smothered him with my enthusiasm. It was mutual at first. He fell off the planet. We text on again, off again and laugh a lot. He adores my humor. I recently told him (via text) that I appreciated his humor and how much we laugh and would like to continue dating…I think he fell off the planet. I waited a few days and sent him a funny email about the good experience I had, playfully complimented him, and wished him well. I cannot sell or convince someone to date or have a friendship. We are both single parents (I’m 35 and he’s 41) with a hectic life. I am dating and moving forward, however he’s someone I’d like to turn things around with.
When I meet my now husband, we just let us going with flow, we had a very nice experiences moving around but I don’t think we had the foundation of the attraction, we just was enjoying our time and we enjoyed very much the company of each other. But right now, I’m having a very hard time with my husband, we have been together for almost 5 years, but our relation start with the most important part, ”truly love and confidence”, the emotional part. I’m not so wonderful beautiful and my body is not the best at all. I just realize, that he doesn’t feel attractive to me AT ALL, all this time ago, and I know too, that he wish if I can be the same ”beautiful” person, but with another body, just because he told me. Now, I do know that we have a incredible relation, and he says that he love to make love to me, but he doesn’t feel just attractive like for having sex just for fun because he doesn’t like my body. He is very handsome, he is that kind of guy that can have any kind of woman…. But I’m not attractive at all to him.
Parved L. says
Coming from a guy:
All guys are different. The article’s advice is decent, but may not work for an individual man. It’s good to find out what he likes.
But I do have one piece of solid advice – ladies persist waaay to long with a man who says he doesn’t want commitment. If a guy doesn’t say what’s bothering him, it’s because he’s embarrassed or chicken to say it. If he said, you might be very angry and hurt. But at the end of the day, he can’t be changed no matter how bad his reasons are. There are a zillion single guys dying to date you – move on and be very very quick!
In general, try to avoid ‘chase’ and ‘challenge’ and all that overrated silliness. Happy relationships are very straightforward – two people just treat eachother sweetly and that’s that.
ive been dating this guy going on two years now. sounds weird but we actually met through our parents. they were togeather. for jst a bit, never married jst were 2geather a while. well their relationship didnt last it was always hectic. i was not feeling the fact that things we the way they were but somehow i caught feelings then it became deeper. but i only went through with it bc our parents ecepted it. but their not togeather anymore which makes the situation way better for Us. thats when things got sexually. physical. sometimes i wonder would things be better if we met under different circumstance. befor me, he was with his babymother 3 years prior. honestly he broke up with her to be with me. everything seemed to be everything in the beg. tho, sometimes we would argue bc i knew he didnt completly end his relationship with her. to make a long story short, i moved out of state, but we continued to a long-distance relationship. we were away from each other 6 months. i moved back. our time togeather was precious we have that spark, but at the same time sometimes iwonder if now am i the only one who feels that way. were taking things slow right now. its clear were both single, i want my options open bc i know he has his open. i dont kno were this could go bc im always the one calling, texting or just checking up on him. he barely does. he always has an excuse. but for the past 2 weeks hes been talking like it could go somewere but im gonna let him have his freedom now, if he wants me iknow hell come to me. but i want to know the chances of him really being committed, this time?