Do you know what a healthy and mature man looks and acts like?
And are you clear on whether the upsetting or frustrating things men have done to you in your past are true signs that something are wrong with these men?
I find that when I help women understand men better,they often have an amazing realization that many of the things they were upset at their man for weren’t such horrible things after all.
It was simply not understanding what’s going on that’s the real source of conflict.
Don’t let this keep happening to you and your relationship.
Don’t let this keep pushing you and your man apart.
One of the most common areas where great women misunderstand men is with COMMITMENT.
Do you know how commitment works for a man, and why he either believes his life will be better off as a result of committing to a woman, or worse?
For my very best secrets and insights on what makes a man feel like committing to a woman for a deep and loving partnership, and the reasons men become fearful and resistant with you, go read this:
Let’s talk about how to recognize and know if a man really has his act together and is a good bet for your time and attetion.
Here are 3 signs of a healthy and mature man-
Sign #1: He Can Stay “Calm In The Storm”
Mature men aren’t easily rattled to where they act out, become defensive or blame others.
Mature men remain calm even when things are at their most intense and uncertain.
This “groundedness” is something most women love and appreciate about their man when push comes to shove.
Immature men, on the other hand, can’t handle a woman’s real feelings and fall apart when even the smallest hint of conflict or tension comes up.
Here’s something you should know…
Mature men can handle your most intense feelings and remain honest and thoughtful when you share them (although they won’t always agree with you, or give you what you want).
Immature men become unsettled and react negatively when a woman is the least bit honest and concerned about anything that isn’t great in their relationship.
Immature men will act as though a woman should have never talked about or brought up anything about the relationship that’s on her mind that isn’t fun, complimentary, or about sex.
Here’s one reason why less mature men act this way-
They often take what a woman is feeling not to be a show of care and concern for the relationship…
Instead, they take it as a CRITICISM about themselves as men.
This comes from the false belief many immature or less experienced men hold that a woman should simply be happy because they are together.
And that everything else is “drama” or unnecessary worry or details.
*Hint- men want nothing as much as to make the woman they’re interested in or with feel happy.
More mature men aren’t afraid of a woman’s feelings, and won’t let things go off the deep end emotionally just because a problem or less-than-great feeling has been shared.
They understand that if a woman is bothered, upset, or concerned with something in their relationship… that it doesn’t mean that she’s UNHAPPY.
It just means there’s something she’s seeing or feeling that she needs to share and address.
The IDEAL way for a man to be with a woman is to stay in that strong and centered place where no matter what his woman brings to him- he’ll listen to her feelings and keep loving and supporting her.
That means that a man will be at his MOST SUPPORTIVE when a woman has intense feelings to share that are about him, their relationship, or how she’s feeling.
Healthy and mature men have an easier time listening and communicating in a calm and loving way when his woman is at her most intense with him.
Choosing a man who already has this quality of remaining “calm in the storm” can and will make everything in your relationship much easier.
Being conscious about HOW YOU COMMUNICATE your feelings with your man, and taking care to not accidentally make him feel CRITICIZED, is the sign of a healthy and mature woman.
*For my best tips and secrets on communicating with a man in your relationship, read this:
Sign #2: He Has Other Healthy Relationships
This is an obvious sign you might already know about.
I’m not telling you about it because it’s obvious.
I’m telling you about it because it’s obvious and most women still IGNORE the plain and simple facts that are presented when they look at the other relationships a man has, or has had in his life.
It’s important to know WHY too many do this.
They do it because they aren’t looking at their relationship, and the man they already feel emotionally attached to, through the lens of “how is he in relationships.”
They’re looking at him through the lens of the ATTRACTION and CHEMISTRY they feel for him.
Chemistry is great.
But if you want a real lasting and loving relationship, picking a man you know has the necessary qualities and “skills” to have a great relationship with you is just as important.
There’s a great saying out there I keep hearing lately that’s true for men and woman-
“How you do anything is how you do everything.”
Think about it…
The way in which we handle anything we come across- whether it’s a stressful situation at work, or a small fender-bender accident we get in- it says a lot about who we are and how we handle all the other areas of our life.
Knowing this, guess what’s a great indicator of how a man is or will be in a close and intimate relationship?
The other relationships he already has in his life.
If you meet a new man in your life, pay attention to how he handles conflict or issues that come up in his other relationships (family, friends, ex’s, etc.).
If he handles these with patience, compassion, understanding, and a positive attitude that has the goal of a positive and loving outcome in mind, it’s a good bet to assume this is how he’ll handle things that might come up with you.
If, on the other hand, he takes offense whenever anyone sees him as less than perfect…
Or he instantly defends himself or redirects any problems or complaints people have with him back to the person who had them and tries to blame them back…
You can also bet that he likely WON’T handle things well with you and stay open and listen when real things come up in your relationship.
*Tip- one of the best things you can do inside your relationship with a man to keep him open isn’t what most women do, which is to try and TALK to him more.
The quickest and easiest way to have a man feel and act smitten with you and WANT TO KNOW all about you and what he can do to keep your relationship happy and on track is simple-
Make sure he’s still experiencing that intense emotion called ATTRACTION with you.
Unfortunately, lots of us in relationships either lose sight of, or don’t know how to keep alive the attraction and the passion that brought us together in the first place.
If you want to use the easy methods that go past a man’s relationship hang-ups and go right to his heart and mind to inspire his excitement for you and your relationship again… you need to go here for my very best tips on making a man feel intense ATTRACTION for you:
Sign #3: A Purpose That’s Greater Than Himself
I’m about to share with you one of the very best ways to tell if a man has “done the work” for himself and might make a great boyfriend or husband.
Let me ask you…
Have you ever been with a man who was either going through a big change in his life, or he just didn’t have his act together?
If so, then I don’t have to tell you what a nightmare it can be to try and stay close to a man who doesn’t feel great about his life and his career.
The simple truth is, men feel better about themselves, and are often better partners in their relationships, when things are going well for them in their career of financially.
And this is the reality with most men whether you like it or not.
Here’s the good news…
Not all men will become irritable, withdraw, or act like an animal going off to die on their own with you if they have this one other thing going on for themselves.
And that one thing is a PURPOSE they are dedicated to that is about something more than themselves or their bank account.
Let me explain what this means…
What is a PURPOSE? And why is it so important for a man?
A man’s purpose is the REASON WHY he does what he does.
For instance, if you know a man who is a writer,he probably doesn’t just write for the paycheck (if he has a purpose).
On a deeper level, he might write and be inspired because of the benefits it brings to OTHER PEOPLE.
These benefits might be:
- People are transformed as they read his work
- People learn things reading his stuff
- His work inspires people’s imaginations or creativity
I think you see what I’m getting at.
So why is a man having a purpose so important?
It’s important because it does the following things for a man:
- It keeps him from judging himself and valuing himself solely by his “success” in the things that he does most
- It teaches him that helping and supporting others can be, and is more rewarding, than just helping yourself
- It keeps him from freaking out and going off the deep end with you in your relationship if the other things he doesn’t really have control of in his life change or fall apart
You’re starting to see the importance of Purpose in a man’s life, and what happens when a man doesn’t have one or is disconnected from anything like this in his life.
The question for you is…
Do you support men with their Purpose, and show understanding when they are out of touch with it?
Or do you take it personally when the man you’re with is feeling frustrated, worthless, or insignificant as a man when he isn’t living up to his purpose?
Do you take these feelings and the behaviors that men develop when they’re having a tough time personally, and make them an issue in your relationship?
These are great questions to ask yourself as your looking at how healthy and mature men are.
YOUR PURPOSE AS A WOMAN
What do you do when you feel disconnected from love and the man you’re with?
Do you inspire and create more love and make it easy for you both to connect?
Or do you get frustrated that things aren’t going well and accidentally push him further away with your feelings?
It would be great if a man would be mature and open and care for your feelings each time in your relationship.
But this isn’t the case for most women, and in most relationships.
We need to do the right things FOR OURSELVES in order to give our partner the gift of our highest selves with them.
Are you showing and giving men your highest self?
That amazing and confident happy woman that he will simply want to be with and stay close to?
Or are you showing him a woman who is having a tough time just feeling loved and appreciated?
The woman inside you that you show to the man you’re with can and will make all the difference.
If you find yourself being less than your best in your relationship – and you’re willing to open up to the idea that it’s not just his fault – but that you could be bringing more to your relationship…
Then it’s time you got back in touch with that amazing woman inside you.
I’ve put together an incredible program that’s already helped thousands of women do just that-break out of their old patterns and get back to that great woman inside that a man will be drawn to all on his own.
It’s called “Ready For Love.”
Go to the link below to watch some free video clips from this program.
You can also try it out free for a full 30 days if you’re ready to make the choice for change in your heart and mind.
Get back to that place where love and connection simply flow from you and effortlessly draw the right man to you with the help of my “Ready For Love” program.
I’ll talk to you again soon, and best of luck in Life and Love.
P.S. What’s inside the mind of your man?
Why is it that men want a relationship one day, then fear for their “freedom” the next?
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