p.s. i agree men need these 3 things and have nothing to say against this because that is something that we women want from men. ( You see that we have a lot in common ;) ) Problem is when women do something only because the guys love that. This is not honest. If I am a guy, i would not appreciate that and you. So i must add something very important , before some girls start to work hard doing these 3 things. Yes, we both need these 3 things but in the right quantity !!!! If we get too much, we do not apriciate this any more. That is why women who care a lot in all 3 segments are clingy and boring after a while to a man, the same is when men constantly try hard to please us women. This is also not good although we women think we want that. When you have it you also become bored after a while. That is human nature. So you both must work on relationship. And you all see something negative in withdroving. Look at it sometimes in a positive way. It is spice for your relationship and usually happens when someone from both of you gets bored. You must be thankul for those little moments . Otherwise you wiod have a very boring relationship from the farrytale. You would not be happy in “perfect” relationship. We women and they men, nobody. We all crave for having interesting life, sometimes those little withdrawals in relationship conect you more and make your life more interesting. Instead of not accepting the rules of nature and human behaviour , try to learn about the diferencies and try to accept them. that is the only thing you can do. or you will be solo or you will have bad relationship. process of realtionship between man and woman should be this way:
0. you are self confident ( your body language can not be faked )
1. you both meet somewhere ( you make an eye contact or not )
2. he comes to you and makes the first move ( rarely modern ambitious women have luck if they make the first move, those relationships do not succeed mostly - he must feel the tension, make preparation, adrenalin, light fear to make that first move, do not make it so easy for him and do not do that instead of him, he will feel less man!!!! and there is no challenge any more )
3. he asks you for a date, your phone number ( he must call you, not you him ) These are small steps but if you do not play that right he will very soon loose his interst, before he meets you, no metter how great person you are. In this period , he must work hard to impress you. Do not start relationship immediatelly but do not wait too long also.
4. when he got your attention, now your job is ONLY to make sure that he will keep doing that in future. ( there are lot of things you can do to motivate him to continue, so you both work on relationship, not just you, not yust him.Everyone plays his own role. IT is fair play, isnt it ? But to know how to motivate him you must accept the fact that your job is to understand human nature and differences between men and women, and diferences between exactly him and you. If you do not agree with these diferences, leave tha relationship, he is not the right for you.

When he becomes bored, it will happen, theer will be such moments, do not panic and start complaining, crying, calling him, text masaging. You express the fear of loosing him. Oh babe, that is not small problem. For you !!! NO! Fear is not good emotion, so this is your problem, not his. Sorry !!! Accept this. Work on yourself ! Low self esteem women will start having these reactions. He will not react positivly also!! He will withdraw more. Control your negative emotions !!!!!!!! I can not tell you this is the most important thing. Women who do not panic do not have those problems with men. They do not need Carters advise. Men adore them.
Firs time he withdrew because he got bored. You just needed to stay calm and not panic. Nothing is bad in that. He can not please you all the time. Be fair. If you did not reacted with compaining, calling, crying, telling you are hurt….after few days of rest, everything would be like before,great!! But you made him to withdraw because of your fear and clingy behaviour and believe me, this withdorwal is not positive. Maybe he will leave you , maybe you scared him to run away. I would be also scared. You showed you are addicted to him. Addiction is never good. You know it also.

You always have to have attitude that ou chose him to be xour man and not he chose you !!!!!!! Remember that !!! You can always leave. And if he is not work on relationship anymore, and you always have the same problems, those who say : where is the book for men? No !!!! It is not necesarry! If you are stabile person, you would not have such problems that he must read a book. No !! Believe me ! You have 2 options: 1 motiovate him to be good to you
2. leave him if he is a bad guy. Staying in relationship with a bad guy, also is not his problem, it is yours. You are the one who feels used, not him. That is because your low self esteem. Stabile women do not do that.

As you see all now, you must work a lot on your reactions. If you do not like his rwactions, some behaviour, you must tell him but in the right moment and in the right way. Do not be selfish and look only your emotions first. he will defenetelly not like you because of that, no matter how honest you are. Nobody likes selfish people.
Work a lot on your personality because of yourself, because of contacts with other people, not just men. That is the only key for good relationship with good man. Carter is just telling you steps to build higher selfesteem. But you must take those steps . He can not do that , nobody can, instead of you. :(

Good luck !

They shoud hunt women and women should choose the best hunter!!!

Men like to hunt, they feel more men if they hunt, and you feel more woman if you are hunted.

you must accept differences between sexes not be selfish and think only on your own. expecting he will do all the job and love you no metter you do. it is a farrytale. that would not happen even you are tha last woman on earth if you see only your side.
you will not have a happy relationship with thinking this way.
Sooner you realize and become objective, better for you.

By the way, some of you do not understand very well the point Carter is trying to say: if you wont to have a good relationship, it is not all your job in relationship, your job is just to know how to motivate ( in the right way ) him to listen to you, share feelings,want to please you… every one ( you and the guy have its own job in relationship -usually women do his job and that is BAAAAD !!! everyone should know its own role in relationship. Like your and his “job description” should be clear. ) With bad attitude and arogance you will not accomplish that.

Men like to love you, to work hard to please you but only if you have some qualities. You must know how to motivate him tu hunt you. About emotions, I do not say ( even Christian does not say this ) you sholud control totally your emotions, but also you should not be the person without control of yourself. I am pretty sure, Carter said one very very good thing. Look, It does not metter if it is guy or woman, but you must admit it is bad if person in not stabile enough to know to express emotions in the right way. It is all about that. You SHOULD express emotions but know how to do that. That is a skill !! And it is not only because to impress him, but learn that skill because of yourself. Because you care for YOUR emotional health. I care about myself ( depliation,manicure…) because I want to feel good, fresh, confort, not because of the guy.But i also work on my personality a lot. Also not because of the guy, but because I care for myself as much as I can. If you care for yourself in all ways, because of YOU !!!, he will also like that and want to care about you also, a lot. And saying it is a crap that they should undersztand us women, not we them, is also a crap. They should understand us, the same way we should understand them. But that will happen naturally if you act normally and if you are stabile as a person. He will also recognise you are the special person, he was looking for, and he will start naturally to take care of you and your relationship. If you do not have a will to save your relationship,you do not love your guy a lot. Probably he senses this. This relationship will not work and be good if something you do not chande.
sorry for being so honest and realistic. If you do not have a boyfriend or bad relationship, maybe you do something wrong ???
Maybe it is a problem in guy. You will know who has a problem in this relationship if you remember earlier relationships. If you always have the same problems in relationship, than sorry, it is your problem. You must start working on yourself more ( your stability as a person ) if you want great relationship in future, with this or another man.

p.s. i see some of you people think that you are self confident persons if you do not care about your look ( and think women should do that only to impress guys ) , how expressing your emotions…”it is just me”..”i accept what i am”… That is a lack of self confidence. People who tend to carry for their emotional health and look and physical health and work on it all life to improve it, those people are self confident.Those who feel good in their own skin, who are emotionally stabile ( i do not mean cold by that ) only those people can respect the other side too. Right guy will find you special for that.
If you want to be selfconfident, you must work on yourself. If you do not respect yourself , he will not respect you, and sorry to tell you, but it is than not his fault and problem. It is yours.

that’s your biggest problem. it doesn’t matter to us what you SAY but we pay attention to what you DO. and if you don’t do the 3 things we men need to be happy, it doesn’t really matter what you say or how you say it (well, we may “next!” you before if you actually are a nag).

and what those three things are?

1) you have to give us SEX. period.
2) you have to attend us, take care of us, cook for us, cuddle us. think the tipical image of the girl giving the cowboy a bath when he comes back from the wild west.
3) you have to make us feel like we are the BEST OF THE BEST of the men.

if you fail to do any of those 3 things above, it really doesn’t matter who you are, what you have, what you say, how nice is your body, etc, at best you’ll get sexually ‘used’ and forgotten very soon.

hope some of you women understand this secret of the unwritten book of men and make some of us happy. you’ll end up miserable and probably alone if you don’t anyway, so get smart!

anyways, nobody is trying to make this about race…just that It was kinda an “out of the place statement”…anywho, im not black by the way…

but, there is only a small bit of truth to this….

Men don’t withdraw because they are “scared of an over-emotional woman”…not hardly. Some men withdraw because they dont know how to express and understand their feelings.

Generally, if a man feels that he is getting too close to a woman, he fears getting hurt in the relationship or commitment altogether.

History has very little to do with the way people react to people in this day and age and if any man thinks that he must have been born and raised in the wild..Men and women have evolved.

Men are hardwired, in their brains, to have sex and reproduce…with that said, men will do any and everything to get some good sex…but once they get it, they instantly withdraw because they got what they wanted out of the situation.

Women on the other hand are hardwired to select the Alpha male…in this day in age, the alpha male is the person that she can relate to, the person who she finds comfort in..the person who gives her affection and happiness…there is no demand for BREADWINNERS…women can do these things for themselves now.

My advice is to every woman reading this article, LEARN HOW TO LOVE YOURSELF. If you love yourself, a man will see that quality in you and love you for who you are and you won’t have to be going around reading stuff like this in hopes of getting some “cure” or “secret love potions” to get your man…women and men, ‘GET IT TOGETHER’

1. Men a very insecure about women. Very, very very….

2. Men are afraid that they won’t get it right because women always point out their flaws.

3. Men who sleep around are often times deeply in need of a womans love but deep inside they are afraid that if they stick with one woman she will see his imperfections and stop loving him.

4. Most men who can’t commit to a relationship have been badly hurt in his earlier years and decided that loving a woman was too complicated, too much work.

5. Men are the ones to do most of the work. They have to go chasing the woman and wait to hear if the answer is yes or no. They deal with rejection all the time, so they have to toughen up and deep inside they are very insecure too.

6. Everybody loves the chase, I am a chick and if a man comes too easily I am bored to death.

7. Guys complain all the time, all the time, that if they are too nice, they do alllllll the work, they wine and dine a woman and then she dumps him. why? he is tooo nice, she says.

8. Ladies stop whining you also have made men super crazy. while you get to choose they have to run though severl women who will turn them down before the one who accepts and says yes.

9. If he is not into you, maybe he also does not feel that you accept him enough. Maybe you complain about his flaws and men have low tolerance for pain.

10. Women have the opportunity to complain to their girlfriends about men and sort out the pain but guys dont have anyone to share their pain with, so they keep all the hurt and confusion inside of themselves and come up with a plan on how to treat woman, usually its a bad plan based on hurt and confusion but its their way of coping with the hurt.

11. Every human being wants to be loved, including men. The same man who runs from you will stay with another woman and fall inlove with her. She may evern be less attractive than you or less successful than you but she makes him feel awesome because she does not complain about every little flaw that he has.

12. Ladies be alluring, but dont ever chase a man. Do let him come to you but also remind him that he is a man by complementing his good sides, at least once a week.

13. Give a little then pull back. Everybody loves mystery. Give a bit then pull back. Let him wonder about you a bit. Go with the girls but dont give him full account of where, when and how. but dont try to make him insecure, just a bit curious and to know that you can enjoy your life without him too.

14. Don’t become his mother, that is not sexy by any means. If you feel that you must do everything for a man and complain about everything that he does, he will feel as attracted to you as he does to his mother.

15. If you do one good thing nice for him, make sure to do two good things for yourself.

Love him much but love yourself MORE!!!