Comments on: Why Men Leave After The Honeymoon Is Over

By: Breanna

Breanna — Sun, 31 Oct 2010 09:10:51 +0000

Christian,

I think you have some great advice but I find having to wade through all the words a little too time consuming. Remember, it’s not length that counts. If you can make your blogs a bit more concise that would be awsome.

Thank you,

Breanna

By: Terri

Terri — Mon, 27 Jul 2009 22:39:59 +0000

what do you think of a guy, after being maried for 4 yrs, and working away from each other out of town for one yr. makes excuses when I call him as to why he cannot talk, and seems cold. when he calls it is ok. then desires change in the bedroom, like needing it a certain way cause his back and shoulders hurt to bad. so he needs a*** stimulation to complete the job.. now it has been 3 more years. together now. after taking a trip to NY. for a grandmas funeral, and lying about seeing an old buddy, now wants to just have a relationship without sex. Got any ideas other than what I already think? I have a good imagination. Is he maybe Bi? or thinking of guys?

By: kaeo

kaeo — Tue, 17 Mar 2009 06:23:10 +0000

Hey

By: Confused

Confused — Sun, 01 Mar 2009 18:45:56 +0000

Ok, I’m writing because something just happened to me that has really confused me. I went on a date with a guy and everything went great. The conversation was easy and we had a great time. He ended up staying over and the next morning we hung around for a couple of hours and ate breakfast and I went to the bathroom and when I came out he was gone. Just like that. I’m not sure what went wrong. Does anyone have any suggestions?

By: TO KATIE:

TO KATIE: — Mon, 05 Jan 2009 04:15:32 +0000

Whoa,Girl, slow down! You are doing waaaay TOO MUCH for this guy, and it’s pushing him away big time. This will lead nowhere fast if don’t do an about face immediately:

For starters, DO NOT be waiting up for him to come home, much less waiting in skimpy clothes to have sex with him. In fact, if you can manage it, don’t be there at all! Let him wonder about where YOU are for a change. From now on, when he goes out, YOU go out! When he wants to spend time with you, MAKE OTHER PLANS! He’ll get the message and shape up fast, or you’ll split up fast. Either that or he’ll slowly fade away. Better a blow out than a slow leak!

By: katie

katie — Thu, 01 Jan 2009 04:33:25 +0000

ok i read this because me and my man are at the stage of saving money for a nice house and been together 3 years. Are sex is wonderful just not every night anymore, i know a man is sex driving so I make this a personal priority. he says I’m to horny to often, explain that. I gave him an inch and he took a mile so to speak. I didn’t fuss at him for two nights out of the week going out GUYS NIGHT OUT. But then he added a night which seemed to carry over to the next week. Anyways he goes out with three guys that are either single or divored every friday sunday and monday night for drink specials. Lately some wed. and thurs when theres only one friend able to go and no drink specials. I stay up to 3 in the morning and still wow him with not skimpy outfits or a back massage and all because I’m insecure that him being out late around singles will cause him to cheat. so I keep the honeymoon stage going and meanwhile it is causing me 21 yrs old to have resentment toward him under the surface 29 years old. I feel he gets plenty of guy time and sex from me. The First two yrs I workout, tanned, brought sexy outfits and made wonderful meals. The last year I’ve felt tired and getting up early for work and waiting up all night for him isn’t cutting it anymore. I clean and work and make love like a porn star and he kisses me most nights good bye and leaves me lonely. I don’t mind 1 guy night out because it gives me time to take bubble bath or exercise but three to five makes me feel so ugly and worthless and unappreciated. The men at work flirt with me and tell me to leave him. I wonder if the girls he is around do the same. I also used to watch porn with him and now I avoid this. He is the one wanting me to work so make for a house. My question is are we progessing or is he using my extra work to enjoy for the time being? I want to know if there is a way for him too cut back on the nights out and me lay off trying to wow him all the time. Is he going out because he thinks i’m not worth spending time with even though he has watched every panther game with me, even to the point of calling my work and telling them I sick so me and him could watch the game? I feel some days we are prefect for each other and other days i feel like I’m going way over board to please him and very scared he will leave me for some 18 yr old at the bar. We spend time together and have invested vehicles so would this be a sign of a good future or is this him using me and the sign actually be the late night means its over. Sorry about the sloopy Grammer just want answers please and in a hurry.

By: Aaron Adams

Aaron Adams — Sat, 30 Aug 2008 03:21:06 +0000

Sue,

Wonderful comments.

The last lecture was a touching presentation.

By: Sue

Sue — Fri, 29 Aug 2008 18:49:51 +0000

It should be this easy: Be interested in each other. Love each other. Treat each other like you do your other friends, whether they are guy friends or gal friends. Get in touch with each other when you feel like it, because you are interested in something and you know they will be too, or surprised that you thought of them. Be best friends, first. The attraction should be there, but wait for things to develop long enough to see if you have enough in common to make it. Be thoughtful of each other. The sex is for your mutual pleasure. Don’t hurt each other in any way, emotionally, physically, ever. Consider that first, before any action, as to how it affects your partner. As the professor said in The Last Lecture, “I got married late in life because I waited until I finally found someone whose happiness meant more to me than my own happiness.” Wow. Cooking is great, but in lots of relationships, cooking is something both like to do and have in common. And the kids and family? Make sure you are hooked up with someone who wants the same end result you do. Otherwise, one will leave, eventually. Love and support each other as you grow. Hopefully you will find someone who grows in the same direction, not a conflicting one. That is the hardest part, frankly. With growth comes change, and sometimes the change is what ends it. Find someone who wants the same thing in the end, or who you think at least thinks like you do on the big things, and you’ll be happy, all your life. Heaven wants us all to be happy. Be happy. A relationship is what each of you makes it.

By: BS

BS — Mon, 18 Aug 2008 16:40:53 +0000

It figures that it is a MAN writes to keep the honeymoon stage going, because of course we women love to give and do and fuss and romance our men ….and who most benefits the from that? DUh…………………

The point is, that we also need love, attention, and thoughtfullness; so if we think WE are to do all/most of the work and men are not to make the effort as well, who cares if you get him, if after you do, you are just not happy because he takes you for granted?

The book is long, drawn out, repetetive and yes, he wants your money so that again, women do the work and men take what we give and give minimally because after all, we gotta have a man, right???????………….NOT. Let them try to get us, because we OBVIOUSLY have a whole lot to offer!

By: Isabella Byrd

Isabella Byrd — Thu, 17 Jul 2008 10:31:45 +0000

Men think that all they want is (1) great sex; (2) good food; and (3) a competent household manager and mother for their children. When things start going South, in their marriages, they blame their wives lack of interest in great sex. And then they make their way to me. I have found one leading characteristic of all such men. The lack of great sex in their lives is fully 50% of their own making. Such men–when they hook up with a woman whose is 100% invested in making sure the sex is great — simply lack the tools and the drive necessary to keep great sex in their own lives.