Comments on: The Ten Most Dangerous Mistakes YOU Probably Make With Men-And What To Do About It… http://www.datingquestionsforwomen.com/the-ten-most-dangerous-mistakes-you-probably-make-with-men-and-what-to-do-about-it Dating Secret by Christian Carter and more. Fri, 12 Mar 2010 14:18:41 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Linnie-babe http://www.datingquestionsforwomen.com/the-ten-most-dangerous-mistakes-you-probably-make-with-men-and-what-to-do-about-it/comment-page-1#comment-1882 Linnie-babe Fri, 25 Dec 2009 00:30:01 +0000 http://www.datingquestionsforwomen.com/the-ten-most-dangerous-mistakes-you-probably-make-with-men-and-what-to-do-about-it#comment-1882 Dear Christian, I've been receiving and reading your emails for about 1 1/2 years, about as long as I'm in my present relationship. If you can help me work this one out, I'll make ALL my friends buy your book...and I have hundreds of friends! I met a widower on line and started dating him although he wasn't really my "type." He was very kind and a good father to his six kids (ages 10-25), raising them alone for about 5 years. He immediately tried to get physical with me. I held him off as long as I could but gave in eventually. He insisted that I could not meet his kids right away because they had been hurt in his two previous relationships and became easily attached to sitters, etc. So I waited. Often I would go to his house at night and did meet two of his sons. He, in the mean time, became friendly with my kids and did things to win them over. After three very intense months of physical involvement, he stopped communicating with me. I was very hurt, but would not pursue him in any way. I knew I could not make him feel anything for me that wasn't in his heart. Shortly afterwards however, he returned, saying he had been home alone depressed, and I let him back in my life. He still did not want me to meet his other children yet. He just kept telling me to "be patient." He left again after three months of spending weekends here and fixing things around the house for me (his little ones go to grandmas every weekend). Then, after six months apart, he returned again recently, and we picked up where we left off. Now it is Christmas, and I feel him pulling away again. I know he is sad around the holidays and shuts himself away with his kids who are home from college. I want so badly to be strong enough to ignore his texts and make him go away for good. I realize that this could drag on for years and never become anything solid. I've been very blunt with him and said that I feel very much for him. I said if he didn't feel that way too, he should go away for good, yet he keeps asking to come back. He knows I have never slept around with other men and I am devoted to him. I did, however, start dating when we were apart this summer. He asked about it and said that soon he wanted to make a commitment between us. I have never pressured or tried to make him say or feel anything he didn't have in his heart. I think that he wants me, but that he gets fearful and runs off. I am always surprised that he returns. I know that he's not dating around, when he eventually misses me too much, he comes back. It is very sad, I don't want to allow him to hurt me. I want to leave him for good, but when we are together, it is so wonderful. Not just great sex and a lot of affection, but he really opens up to me, and we talk and encourage each other. We have very much the same values and goals. He is always very ready and eager to repair anything I need done in my home. He is good to my kids. I think he is a good man, maybe just not healed up yet from a very bad breakup. What can I do to get him to either get lost or stick around for good? This middle-of-the-road stuff stinks. I know he feels something for me because I never try to get him back or cry or beg or anything, but he always comes back. Still, I feel if he was really crazy for me, he wouldn't leave. Can a man's financial and other problems really make him put sexlife and his lovelife on hold? That's basically what it is. Having those struggles has been a great blow to his male ego, and it is difficult for him to not be able to conquer that. (You should know that he has NEVER asked to borrow or borrowed money from me.) I don't want to be mean and fight with him. We have never argued or spoken unkindly to one another. But at the same time, I can't let him just keep coming and going. This could go on for years, and I will possibly have forfeited some other better opportunity. Help me, Christian!!!! What is this guy thinking? He even begged me for months to get a job where he works. He actually made me go on line and apply. I told him I didn't think it would be a good idea. He kept insisting, and I recently got a job there. There are over 20,000 employees, so we will never see each other there, but I still feel bad, knowing that he is there, and we are apart. I wish I had never agreed to meet him, but I did. Now what do I do with him? A lot of the advice I've read from you has been very helpful, and I think you might have some valuable insights. I'm desperate. It would be easy to just drop him and move on. I know there are plenty of guys out there. I'm not at a loss for opportunities. But what if he is the right one, and I'm just not handling this correctly? Please Please Please Help !!! Dear Christian,

I’ve been receiving and reading your emails for about 1 1/2 years, about as long as I’m in my present relationship. If you can help me work this one out, I’ll make ALL my friends buy your book…and I have hundreds of friends!

I met a widower on line and started dating him although he wasn’t really my “type.” He was very kind and a good father to his six kids (ages 10-25), raising them alone for about 5 years. He immediately tried to get physical with me. I held him off as long as I could but gave in eventually. He insisted that I could not meet his kids right away because they had been hurt in his two previous relationships and became easily attached to sitters, etc. So I waited. Often I would go to his house at night and did meet two of his sons. He, in the mean time, became friendly with my kids and did things to win them over. After three very intense months of physical involvement, he stopped communicating with me. I was very hurt, but would not pursue him in any way. I knew I could not make him feel anything for me that wasn’t in his heart. Shortly afterwards however, he returned, saying he had been home alone depressed, and I let him back in my life. He still did not want me to meet his other children yet. He just kept telling me to “be patient.” He left again after three months of spending weekends here and fixing things around the house for me (his little ones go to grandmas every weekend). Then, after six months apart, he returned again recently, and we picked up where we left off. Now it is Christmas, and I feel him pulling away again. I know he is sad around the holidays and shuts himself away with his kids who are home from college. I want so badly to be strong enough to ignore his texts and make him go away for good. I realize that this could drag on for years and never become anything solid. I’ve been very blunt with him and said that I feel very much for him. I said if he didn’t feel that way too, he should go away for good, yet he keeps asking to come back. He knows I have never slept around with other men and I am devoted to him. I did, however, start dating when we were apart this summer. He asked about it and said that soon he wanted to make a commitment between us. I have never pressured or tried to make him say or feel anything he didn’t have in his heart. I think that he wants me, but that he gets fearful and runs off. I am always surprised that he returns. I know that he’s not dating around, when he eventually misses me too much, he comes back. It is very sad, I don’t want to allow him to hurt me. I want to leave him for good, but when we are together, it is so wonderful. Not just great sex and a lot of affection, but he really opens up to me, and we talk and encourage each other. We have very much the same values and goals. He is always very ready and eager to repair anything I need done in my home. He is good to my kids. I think he is a good man, maybe just not healed up yet from a very bad breakup. What can I do to get him to either get lost or stick around for good? This middle-of-the-road stuff stinks. I know he feels something for me because I never try to get him back or cry or beg or anything, but he always comes back. Still, I feel if he was really crazy for me, he wouldn’t leave. Can a man’s financial and other problems really make him put sexlife and his lovelife on hold? That’s basically what it is. Having those struggles has been a great blow to his male ego, and it is difficult for him to not be able to conquer that. (You should know that he has NEVER asked to borrow or borrowed money from me.) I don’t want to be mean and fight with him. We have never argued or spoken unkindly to one another. But at the same time, I can’t let him just keep coming and going. This could go on for years, and I will possibly have forfeited some other better opportunity.

Help me, Christian!!!! What is this guy thinking? He even begged me for months to get a job where he works. He actually made me go on line and apply. I told him I didn’t think it would be a good idea. He kept insisting, and I recently got a job there. There are over 20,000 employees, so we will never see each other there, but I still feel bad, knowing that he is there, and we are apart.

I wish I had never agreed to meet him, but I did. Now what do I do with him? A lot of the advice I’ve read from you has been very helpful, and I think you might have some valuable insights. I’m desperate. It would be easy to just drop him and move on. I know there are plenty of guys out there. I’m not at a loss for opportunities. But what if he is the right one, and I’m just not handling this correctly? Please Please Please Help !!!

]]> By: ruby http://www.datingquestionsforwomen.com/the-ten-most-dangerous-mistakes-you-probably-make-with-men-and-what-to-do-about-it/comment-page-1#comment-1870 ruby Wed, 25 Nov 2009 15:46:21 +0000 http://www.datingquestionsforwomen.com/the-ten-most-dangerous-mistakes-you-probably-make-with-men-and-what-to-do-about-it#comment-1870 I met this guy and we went on three dates, on the third date we got a bit carried away in his car we didn't sleep together but things did get heated. I instantly felt that this was a big mistake although things could have been worse. Now I get the impression that he has lost interest in me. I just wish i could have second chance. Is there anyway I can make things go back to how they were? or should I just forget about it and move on? I was so excited about what the future could hold for us... I met this guy and we went on three dates, on the third date we got a bit carried away in his car we didn’t sleep together but things did get heated.
I instantly felt that this was a big mistake although things could have been worse. Now I get the impression that he has lost interest in me. I just wish i could have second chance. Is there anyway I can make things go back to how they were? or should I just forget about it and move on? I was so excited about what the future could hold for us…

]]> By: ketty miry http://www.datingquestionsforwomen.com/the-ten-most-dangerous-mistakes-you-probably-make-with-men-and-what-to-do-about-it/comment-page-1#comment-1841 ketty miry Tue, 06 Oct 2009 06:55:57 +0000 http://www.datingquestionsforwomen.com/the-ten-most-dangerous-mistakes-you-probably-make-with-men-and-what-to-do-about-it#comment-1841 hi readers its true that most of the people has lost the true meaning of LOVE,bt to get to the meaning u have to compromise so that u love, without that most of us more especially women we are going to die young because we want to chase what we call love,geniune love never runs away it has hope in hard times,never boost,patient and lastly humble.lastly true love never have communication break down,friends talk. hi readers
its true that most of the people has lost the true meaning of LOVE,bt to get to the meaning u have to compromise so that u love, without that most of us more especially women we are going to die young because we want to chase what we call love,geniune love never runs away it has hope in hard times,never boost,patient and lastly humble.lastly true love never have communication break down,friends talk.

]]> By: ALEXA http://www.datingquestionsforwomen.com/the-ten-most-dangerous-mistakes-you-probably-make-with-men-and-what-to-do-about-it/comment-page-1#comment-1801 ALEXA Sat, 01 Aug 2009 13:11:28 +0000 http://www.datingquestionsforwomen.com/the-ten-most-dangerous-mistakes-you-probably-make-with-men-and-what-to-do-about-it#comment-1801 I would like to share with you readers my experiance. Man and Woman have lost the plot, there is no true feelings left in this world. People are like Sodom and Gomorah,just hoping one another,man know what woman like so they tell them what they want to hear and not the truth, LIES LIES and more LIES. Some woman are the same as it happened to one of my friends. People you have lost the true meaning of LOVE. I know my self i will NEVER NEVER trust another man again. OMG I AGREE WITH YOU... SOO TRUE... I WILL NEVER TRUST ANOTHER MAN AGAIN.. IM 23 YEARS OLD AND ALL THE TIME GUYS ONLY PLAY ME AND HURT MY FEELING.. IM VERY PRETTY I GUESS GOOD PERSON, WITH AMAZING FEELINGS. AND I ALWAYS HAVE TO END CRYING, IM REALLY DONE WITH GUYS.. AND LIKE U SAY THERE IS NO TRUE FEELINGS IN THIS WORLD.. THANKS I would like to share with you readers my experiance.
Man and Woman have lost the plot, there is no true feelings left in this world.
People are like Sodom and Gomorah,just hoping one another,man know what woman like so they tell them what they want to hear and not the truth, LIES LIES and more LIES.
Some woman are the same as it happened to one of my friends.
People you have lost the true meaning of LOVE.
I know my self i will NEVER NEVER trust another man again.

OMG I AGREE WITH YOU… SOO TRUE… I WILL NEVER TRUST ANOTHER MAN AGAIN.. IM 23 YEARS OLD AND ALL THE TIME GUYS ONLY PLAY ME AND HURT MY FEELING.. IM VERY PRETTY I GUESS GOOD PERSON, WITH AMAZING FEELINGS. AND I ALWAYS HAVE TO END CRYING, IM REALLY DONE WITH GUYS.. AND LIKE U SAY THERE IS NO TRUE FEELINGS IN THIS WORLD.. THANKS

]]> By: Ann http://www.datingquestionsforwomen.com/the-ten-most-dangerous-mistakes-you-probably-make-with-men-and-what-to-do-about-it/comment-page-1#comment-1787 Ann Wed, 01 Jul 2009 00:42:58 +0000 http://www.datingquestionsforwomen.com/the-ten-most-dangerous-mistakes-you-probably-make-with-men-and-what-to-do-about-it#comment-1787 Greetings to the reader... I would like to share with you readers my experiance. Man and Woman have lost the plot, there is no true feelings left in this world. People are like Sodom and Gomorah,just hoping one another,man know what woman like so they tell them what they want to hear and not the truth, LIES LIES and more LIES. Some woman are the same as it happened to one of my friends. People you have lost the true meaning of LOVE. I know my self i will NEVER NEVER trust another man again. Greetings to the reader…

I would like to share with you readers my experiance.
Man and Woman have lost the plot, there is no true feelings left in this world.
People are like Sodom and Gomorah,just hoping one another,man know what woman like so they tell them what they want to hear and not the truth, LIES LIES and more LIES.
Some woman are the same as it happened to one of my friends.
People you have lost the true meaning of LOVE.
I know my self i will NEVER NEVER trust another man again.

]]> By: Pat http://www.datingquestionsforwomen.com/the-ten-most-dangerous-mistakes-you-probably-make-with-men-and-what-to-do-about-it/comment-page-1#comment-1782 Pat Tue, 16 Jun 2009 17:18:58 +0000 http://www.datingquestionsforwomen.com/the-ten-most-dangerous-mistakes-you-probably-make-with-men-and-what-to-do-about-it#comment-1782 this is patrick. My man of five years will finall ylove me. being a guy i thought i knew guys but i guess i was wrong. oh thisis absolutley fabulous. thnks so much to all the gurls who put effort into love! this is what we all need. OH frankie and i should be hapy now. thanks so much girls! xoxoxo!! pat <3 this is patrick. My man of five years will finall ylove me. being a guy i thought i knew guys but i guess i was wrong. oh thisis absolutley fabulous. thnks so much to all the gurls who put effort into love! this is what we all need. OH frankie and i should be hapy now. thanks so much girls!

xoxoxo!! pat <3

]]> By: Arasaeboe http://www.datingquestionsforwomen.com/the-ten-most-dangerous-mistakes-you-probably-make-with-men-and-what-to-do-about-it/comment-page-1#comment-1772 Arasaeboe Fri, 29 May 2009 23:43:12 +0000 http://www.datingquestionsforwomen.com/the-ten-most-dangerous-mistakes-you-probably-make-with-men-and-what-to-do-about-it#comment-1772 I was with a man I met online, after talking for a few days, he wanted to meet, so he drove 300 miles to see me. when we met it felt as if we had known each other for a long time, conversation was easy, and I felt so at ease to be myself. This man was so giving, he would come every other weekend to visit, he cared my needs before his when we made love, catered to me in so many ways, I began to feel guilty for accepting all this attention and tried to compensate by possibly loving him too much. anyhow at the 5th month we were together he got extremely upset when i left his side, and continued to be verbally hostile in a sarcastic way, after he returned to go home everything was as usual he called daily and I thought he had gotten over that episode, so we planned to go on a trip that week but I couldn't make it. there were to be 6 of us going but since I couldn't go supposedly only 5 were to go. Come to find out 6 went, some how this other woman ended up taking my place, and when he got back he told me he had a change of heart, and cheated on me, so I said goodbye, that was hard, but what amazes me is all that attention, and emotion he was putting out there to show how much he loved me only to turn around and not even consider me when i wasnt available, such a betrayal, why do men change their feelings so quickly, and trade someone's heart for a moment of pleasure? It seems to me that men choose sex over love in the majority of situations, since he only met this woman slept with her and now they are together. I was with a man I met online, after talking for a few days, he wanted to meet, so he drove 300 miles to see me. when we met it felt as if we had known each other for a long time, conversation was easy, and I felt so at ease to be myself. This man was so giving, he would come every other weekend to visit, he cared my needs before his when we made love, catered to me in so many ways, I began to feel guilty for accepting all this attention and tried to compensate by possibly loving him too much. anyhow at the 5th month we were together he got extremely upset when i left his side, and continued to be verbally hostile in a sarcastic way, after he returned to go home everything was as usual he called daily and I thought he had gotten over that episode, so we planned to go on a trip that week but I couldn’t make it. there were to be 6 of us going but since I couldn’t go supposedly only 5 were to go. Come to find out 6 went, some how this other woman ended up taking my place, and when he got back he told me he had a change of heart, and cheated on me, so I said goodbye, that was hard, but what amazes me is all that attention, and emotion he was putting out there to show how much he loved me only to turn around and not even consider me when i wasnt available, such a betrayal, why do men change their feelings so quickly, and trade someone’s heart for a moment of pleasure? It seems to me that men choose sex over love in the majority of situations, since he only met this woman slept with her and now they are together.

]]> By: Sandra http://www.datingquestionsforwomen.com/the-ten-most-dangerous-mistakes-you-probably-make-with-men-and-what-to-do-about-it/comment-page-1#comment-1765 Sandra Wed, 20 May 2009 06:01:21 +0000 http://www.datingquestionsforwomen.com/the-ten-most-dangerous-mistakes-you-probably-make-with-men-and-what-to-do-about-it#comment-1765 Christian My husband of thirty years has been threatening me by packing his bags and telling me he's going to punish me by leaving me. On our anniversary he did not buy me a gift he took me out to dinner and informed me he did not have any money because he purchased a boat and a mother's day gift for his mother. So I packed his bags took them to his mother's and changed the locks to our home. I do admit I miss him so, but I will not be treated in this manner. In your opinion, did I go overboard? There have been other issues as well . He has informed me that his personal life is his own business and he has been neglecting our home and our grandchildren for over a year. I feel deep in my soul that there is a younger woman involved in this picture. I believe she is about twenty-eight or thirty, we are fifty years old. Thanks for listening. Christian My husband of thirty years has been threatening me by packing his bags and telling me he’s going to punish me by leaving me. On our anniversary he did not buy me a gift he took me out to dinner and informed me he did not have any money because he purchased a boat and a mother’s day gift for his mother. So I packed his bags took them to his mother’s and changed the locks to our home. I do admit I miss him so, but I will not be treated in this manner. In your opinion, did I go overboard?
There have been other issues as well . He has informed me that his personal life is his own business and he has been neglecting our home and our grandchildren for over a year. I feel deep in my soul that there is a younger woman involved in this picture. I believe she is about twenty-eight or thirty, we are fifty years old. Thanks for listening.

]]> By: Bailey http://www.datingquestionsforwomen.com/the-ten-most-dangerous-mistakes-you-probably-make-with-men-and-what-to-do-about-it/comment-page-1#comment-1749 Bailey Thu, 23 Apr 2009 18:01:10 +0000 http://www.datingquestionsforwomen.com/the-ten-most-dangerous-mistakes-you-probably-make-with-men-and-what-to-do-about-it#comment-1749 Oh, and amen sistah to you, Amy Jane! Oh, and amen sistah to you, Amy Jane!

]]> By: Bailey http://www.datingquestionsforwomen.com/the-ten-most-dangerous-mistakes-you-probably-make-with-men-and-what-to-do-about-it/comment-page-1#comment-1748 Bailey Thu, 23 Apr 2009 17:58:53 +0000 http://www.datingquestionsforwomen.com/the-ten-most-dangerous-mistakes-you-probably-make-with-men-and-what-to-do-about-it#comment-1748 Thank you so much for posting this, it really helped me out with all of my relationship questions. My boyfriend and I have been dating for over three months and we dated for a few months back in August. The point is, he used to treat me like crap, and now he's great to me. Now that we're dating again i'm being a horrible girlfriend and i'm confused with my feelings and how to act. This helped, thank you. Thank you so much for posting this, it really helped me out with all of my relationship questions. My boyfriend and I have been dating for over three months and we dated for a few months back in August. The point is, he used to treat me like crap, and now he’s great to me. Now that we’re dating again i’m being a horrible girlfriend and i’m confused with my feelings and how to act. This helped, thank you.

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