Comments on: Stop Attracting The Wrong Men

By: First Date Conversation

First Date Conversation — Sun, 29 Jan 2012 02:19:47 +0000

Hi! This is my 1st comment here so I just wanted to give a quick shout out and tell you I truly enjoy reading through your posts. Can you suggest any other blogs/websites/forums that deal with the same subjects? Thank you so much!

By: Kerry

Kerry — Fri, 13 Jan 2012 07:21:09 +0000

@ Karen, Damn!! Thats why i said men suck!!! You thought he loved you for four years and yet he was gay..Shame on him,lol. I wish you the best..

By: Kerry

Kerry — Fri, 13 Jan 2012 07:12:51 +0000

This is 2012,smh and still havent found the right man. Is it because im young and all the young men arent serious? Men suck, wish Adam was never created,lol.Im mad because every man i try to date always wants to sleep around and when i tell them NO and that im looking for a serious relationship, they leave.Oh well im only 24 so after i graduate college in a year and God willing get a job, maybe ill find my MR.RIGHT at one of the black tie events for the company i will be working for..hahaha..—–> crying right now

By: Karen

Karen — Fri, 28 Oct 2011 13:47:05 +0000

Hay you think you have problems my last love turn out to be having a gay affair for the past 4 years – beat that !!

By: Elisabeth

Elisabeth — Tue, 12 Apr 2011 03:55:57 +0000

This is not the problem. The problem is not that I meet them and then am intimate with them too soon! The problem, as I see it, may be that I keep meeting them at Church.

I’m 32 and single, which is very unusual if you’re Catholic. There are Catholic men around church, and they’re interested in dating me. Three right now, actually. You want to know about them? Well,

One just got his pin for being sober for three months and is doing very well for someone who has been sober for (yea) 90 days, one is 38 but can’t get a job because he has “issues with authority”, and one spent a month in jail for attempting to molest one of my friend’s kids. (Yes, the priest knows about it, but he has a son he brings to religious ed.)

I have never led these guys on, expressed interest, or done anything other than talk to them. But, there you have it. That’s the single guy population at my church. The first two are nice men and are my friends, but I can’t and won’t date them. I am a teacher, working on my second masters degree, interested in someone who can be a PARTNER — not someone I have to support, coax into finding a job, or try to save when he relapses again and mother when he doesn’t. The only thing that flabbergasts me is how difficult this concept is.

I tried e-harmony but ended up meeting recently-divorced men who seemed either in self-esteem crisis or still angry from past relationships. I didn’t want to deal with that. I’m even on a Catholic website and do e-mail people I see on there. I think religious guys like to make the first move, though, because I don’t get too many responses.

Normal guys who understand commitment and basically have Christian values, WHERE ARE YOU??

By: kiesha

kiesha — Mon, 26 Oct 2009 04:31:19 +0000

some man`s try to use us woman for anything but me i got the right one but other guys like me too

By: Claire

Claire — Tue, 29 Sep 2009 07:58:12 +0000

I agree with the above comment. I have read books on dating. I have read books on the difference between men and women, etc. – ALL of them targeted to women; none to men. Why is this? Because men simply do not care! I strongly feel that a relationship with the wrong man will prove difficult, but easy if he is the right one.

I am no longer prepared to change who I am for any man. If he doesnt like me just as I am, boo hoo to him! Why must the women always change to “get” the man?

I would rather be alone.

By: Mel

Mel — Tue, 29 Sep 2009 07:38:34 +0000

I have been following the Carter emails daily for the past 2 years and I think that the focus here is about WHAT men wnat! What we as women have to do to catch him and keep him! I think it BS!!! Its time men wake the f@ck up and realise that the world doesn’t revolve around them and their needs.

I have tried all these tips and I believe that UNTIL you find the “ONE” a man who really “Wants Real Relationships” you are wasting you time.

Focus on you, your wants, your needs. If he is a real man he’ll want you just because of who you are. NOT because of what you can do for him or make him feel!!!

HE must make you feel like the “one”. Otherwise you are wasting your sweet time.