By: Caramel

Caramel — Fri, 13 Jun 2008 20:39:43 +0000

Well, this is really new to me and I havent read any of your ebooks, but would like to know what you think about my last experience. I just got out of a long-term relationship which was like any other I believe…meaning great in the beginning but then something happened. I know what happened but never got past it and I believe it added to our trials. Nonetheless, we stayed together with no major arguments, disagreement, no disrespectful remarks like those things I hear my friend and other people talk about when they get into quarrels with their significant other. My relationship was perfect if you wanted to call it that in the beginning. There was always communication regarding what the other was feeling and interest and sex was great. Then about a year into the relationship, after I found out about a secret that he was keeping from me that had to do with his ex, (which he claimed nothing happened, however he decided to hide nothing from me) I really felt a change in my feelings towards him. I dont really know if anything happened between them but I felt at that point, that my trust and complete submission of love to him was compromised. Here I was doing all that I could for him and cutting off my male friends, and he still goes sturring up old flames with his ex behind my back. I felt so foolish and tried to look passed it since I didnt find out anything concrete. What started happening then was when he went out, I would always be suspicious and start snapping at him. This persisted until our first breakup, which led to a few other breakup- same reasons (lack of trust), different form. Two more years passed with resentment on my behalf, but the love and security of having someone youre used to there (plus a drama free relationship), keep me with him although i was still feeling inadequate because of what he did before. Just want to note that I never threw what he did in his face, but I’m sure he knew what I was feeling because he tried so hard to make up and it too late. Towards the end of a 5yr relationship, I started going out with my male friends constantly (I had no real female friends) and I know that must of bothered him. But I started not even wanting to be around him for reasons I cant explain and dreaded being home with him, as we never had money to do anything anymore. May sound unfair but, what could I have done. you tell me? That went on for a year, then we eventually separated a few months ago. Dont know why I feel lonely and miss someone who betrayed my trust and who I was no longer attracted…..dont want to end up in the same situation because of a fear of starting over..any suggestions/comment?

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By: Caramel