Comments on: Five Reasons Men Leave Women They Love

By: lisa

lisa — Fri, 08 Jan 2010 18:44:45 +0000

srry about the double post

By: lisa

lisa — Fri, 08 Jan 2010 18:40:11 +0000

Please HELP ME christian….ok so i have done everything wrong according to your newsletters.
we have been together for over 8 years…always breaking up and getting back…….i always talk about the past and he does too and brings up crap i did in the past before him too, just stuff i told him.
his family does not like me, my family loves him. i never go to their house, been very nice to everyone, they ignore me. he comes to my house and stays in the car. my whole family even extended loves him.
i have had 3 abortions, he forced me to have it, said i was ruining his life and he is not financially ready for that kind of life.
a year or two ago, he wants a family. of course i am too hurt by my past experiences. i dealt with this alone, he never came with me…and there was no money so i had to pay for it. pay for an abortion that i did not want. i know you must be thinking why…well i did not want to be one those women who trap men with a child and i knew if i had the child he would hate me forever. i love him i cant explain that. i have never met anyone like him.
there is no future with him and i think that he is seeing that now…i tell him all the time. so now we are at an impasse.
i wonder christian does it make sense even saving this relationship? i cant eat, sleep, never go out, have lost interest in everything…just till i know we together again, then it happens all over.
i dont want to be one of those women who is defined by her realtionship or man. i feel like this is it, i cannot imagine my life without him, but he always remembers the past arguments and we can never get anywhere.
my past always comes back to haunt me. who will marry me now, abortions, insecurities, now unemployed, early 30s, my past life before.
i sound like a loser

By: lisa

lisa — Fri, 08 Jan 2010 18:39:50 +0000

By: Geena

Geena — Fri, 26 Dec 2008 23:08:34 +0000

Hi christian. I am a married woman and have been for 19 years, but somewhere the fire has died. I havent been sexually active with the spouse for 2 years. I am still in the marriage but I was so longing for affection that I wasn’t getting in my marriage that I began having an affair with another man. I don’t know what to do to get the fire back burning between me and my spouse, But it feels so good to be with the other man. Any advice for me?

By: najwa

najwa — Fri, 19 Dec 2008 06:48:51 +0000

christian

I have a friend that i been seeing for 4mths,he use to be my boss but he left my corperation to go to a bigger site. we are the same age but he’s more a challenge to me, he has much more eduacation than me,sometimes i feel he’s a threat to me and that he not to much interested in me mentally but only sexual it bothers me that i can’t figure him out but he’s real humble and patient when it comes to me sometimes i know he can’t tolerate me too long because we don’t always agree at all time, so i begin to back off for days but i care for him alot maybe my feelings shouldn’t be this way so early but i waited 8mths for him to pursue me i hate to lose him and he makes me feel like i need to get on his level by going back to school.i try to encourage him as much as possible because of his power of authority and his way of encouraging me is work harder, but its embarrassing for me to tell him i honestly don’t have an HS diploma yet i know he knows; with all the degrees he has…i don’t know what do? should i distance myself from him or accept that he has accept it without me sharing it with him, oh yeah by next year i will be enrolling back to school.