In this email I’m going to teach you why a man will act afraid of a real relationship…

And how lots of women both CHOOSE the wrong men… and bring out the “bad qualities” in the right men and ruin things for themselves.

**Quick Tip: Just because you’ve been happily dating a man for several weeks, months or even years… it doesn’t automatically mean he is thinking or feeling “commitment”, or seeking a deeper lasting expression of his LOVE.**

If you’re like most women, then by experience you already know this to be true. And it scares you.

You can spend time with a man, get close, become intimate and bond… and he can still NOT WANT to enter into a relationship with you.

So why are so many men “unavailable”?

The short answer is because men have a different RELATIONSHIP TIMELINE for wanting to get “serious” with a woman… and a different way of seeing how love and an exclusive committed relationship comes together.

But what can you do with this?

The first thing you should know is… a man’s “Commitment Tempo” (when he’ll want to take things to the next level with you) has NOTHING to do with how long you’ve been together.

Don’t get yourself hung up on this like lots of other women who try and “convince” a man it’s time because how ever many months have already passed and he SHOULD BE ready.

Talking this way to a man is a great way to shoot yourself in the foot and encourage him to pull away.

What matters, and what works, is addressing where you both are in terms of your EMOTIONAL CONNECTION… instead of worrying and talking about TIME.

If you’ve ever been with a man and shared something amazing for several months and grown closer and closer, but then he RESISTED and WITHDREW once you actually talked about how things were moving forward between you… then you know exactly what I’m talking about.

Here’s the secret:

A man doesn’t commit to a woman in a conversation, or even with his words. It’s something he just FEELS inside and wants for himself.

Do you know what creates this DESIRE and FEELING inside a man?

Now let’s get down to what’s really going on inside your heart when it comes to men and relationships.

Here’s what I want to know first:

Why is it so clear and easy for other women to fall in love with a man, and for a relationship to effortlessly come together and grow…

While YOU keep attracting all the men out there who are “unavailable” and SEEM great at first, but eventually get scared and just can’t go “deeper” with you?

Is this “unavailable” thing really a problem so many men are carrying around that gets in the way of love?

Or…

Could it also be that YOU play a part in finding men who are “unavailable”?

And that you bring about that unavailable RESPONSE which is already lying there dormant inside even the most “evolved” men?

I want to share with you what could be a new and enlightening perspective on all this..

There’s an important realization all SMART and LOVING women I know end up coming to at some point in their love lives.

It’s a “light bulb” that suddenly just turns on… and when it does you instantly grow and see things with a new sense of CLARITY.

Unfortunately, most women only come to this important realization AFTER they’ve been through the pain and frustration of doing everything they can think of to “revive” their relationship and failing.

I’ll tell you what this REALIZATION is-

It’s that when you’re with a man who is feeling or acting UNCERTAIN with you… even if you could give him an “ultimatum” that would move things ahead to the place in your relationship that YOU WANT…

A man who moves ahead in his relationship with you because you asked him or demanded it isn’t very vested in the relationship. This kind of situation is a very “weak” and dangerous place from which to enter into a loving relationship.

Especially for you as a woman who likely wants a man who is truly COMMITTED to being with you on a physical, mental, emotional, and even spiritual level.

Knowing this, let me ask you…

**Do men truly COMMIT and choose to love and become loyal, caring, affectionate, etc. just because a woman ASKS THEM?

Or does a man need to have HIS OWN REASONS for being and feeling this way?

It’s a VERY IMPORTANT question.

If you’ve had one or more relationships where you were ready for “more”… but the man you were with was seeming to drag his heels, or just not care about your relationship… and you tried to make it work but it only seemed to BACKFIRE- then this question could be one of the most important questions you ever ask yourself.

Seriously.

So as a bit of homework, I want you to stop for a second and THINK ABOUT IT…

Do men truly COMMIT and choose to love and become truly loyal, caring, and affectionate just because a woman ASKS IT OF THEM?

Or…

Does a man need to have HIS OWN REASONS for truly feeling and being this way with you, if it’s going to LAST?

WHERE TO START LEARNING ABOUT WHAT MAKES HIM WANT TO COMMIT WITH YOU

Let me be unusually direct with you, for your own good:

Have you finally figured out that if you don’t know HOW TO GET A MAN TO OPEN UP and talk and share his deeper thoughts and feelings with you…that it’s going to be impossible to make your relationship work?

Lots of women think they get how this works because they talk a lot about what’s on THEIR MIND.

For most women, this is common Communication Mistake #1 in their relationship:

Sharing YOUR FEELINGS first, and often, because you believe this will somehow get him to share his feelings in return.

This is not a great way to get a man to “open up” to you and get in touch with his feelings.

This is not his “emotional process.”

Especially with a man you’re in a relationship with who is already acting “withdrawn” and has shut off his feelings from you.

This kind of MORE IS BETTER approach about talking and sharing YOUR FEELINGS actually WORKS AGAINST YOU more than it helps you with men who are acting uncertain and withdrawn.

Here’s the deal…

If you know anything about a man, then you should know that to get to know HIS FEELINGS, then more talk about YOUR FEELINGS is NOT the answer.

Which leads me to common Communication Mistake #2:

Out of all the things that can go wrong in a relationship, I’ve found one that causes women more pain, frustration, and leads to BAD OUTCOMES with the man in their life than anything else…

I’ve watched it happen over and over with all the women I know – my friends, my family members, my co-workers. I also get TONS of e-mails from women who read my newsletters who write to tell me this all-too-familiar story.

It’s the SAME ISSUE that keeps popping up at the beginning of their romantic relationships:

EXPECTATIONS.

It’s when a woman expects that the relationship will progress to something more committed, but ends up feeling disappointed when she finds out the man doesn’t want the same thing.

This problem usually plays itself out in one of two ways.

I’m sure you’ll identify with one (if not both) of these:

SCENARIO #1: You know exactly what you want out of the relationship, but rather than “rock the boat” by having a conversation in which you make your expectations clear, you decide to WAIT IT OUT in hopes that the man will soon feel the same way and that everything will just “work itself out.”

SCENARIO #2: You know exactly what you want out of the relationship but as soon as you get the sense that the guy doesn’t share your desires or isn’t “on the same page” emotionally, you subtly and unconsciously decide to PRETEND that you’re cool with things just being casual, even though you know you need a lot MORE to be happy and content.

Predictably, when you find yourself in either of these two scenarios, it becomes a slippery slope toward ultimate relationship disaster.

Here’s how this plays out:

First- you start feeling unfulfilled, anxious or worried that you’re not getting what you want and need from the relationship

Second- you don’t know how to say what you’re feeling and what you want in a mature, honest way, so you say nothing at all or you drop “hints” that are misunderstood or ignored

Third- he doesn’t change anything about the way he’s treating you or the relationship, and you become frustrated or disappointed with because he doesn’t really “get” what’s missing and what you want from him

Fourth- your frustration builds up even more and either brings you to an emotionally destructive CONFRONTATION with him that FREAKS him out (like an ultimatum)… or all the silent tension and negative feelings between you make him act distant, disconnected and maybe he even starts losing interest in you.

Remember going down this road?

Not fun, huh?

So what’s going on here? And what can you do about it?

Stick with me here, and I’ll reveal some basic insights about how to get a man on the “same page” about where your relationship is headed without all the drama, tears and frustration.

“CENTER” YOURSELF FIRST… AND GET CLEAR ABOUT WHAT YOU WANT

What you need to do FIRST, before you do anything else, is get CLEAR about what you want and expect from your love life.

You need to be honest with YOURSELF first, before you can be honest with anyone else in your life.

Stop PRETENDING you only want a “casual” fun fling when what you REALLY want is to have a committed, serious relationship that’s “going somewhere.”

Here’s the thing:

Getting clear about what you want will help guide your mind in all kinds of POSITIVE DIRECTIONS to help you find and attract the right situations and people in your life.

But, unfortunately, being CLEAR and HONEST is not that simple for most women when “the rubber meets the road” in dating and relationships.

The reality is, knowing what they want and expect can turn into a source of EXTREME frustration and anxiety for a lot of women.

Why is that?

I’ll explain…

Expectations can definitely set us off in good directions in our lives… but when we don’t feel like we have the CONTROL over how to get those expectations met, the “wheels really start to come off the car,” so to speak.

Ok, so let’s get back the concept of expectations and disappointment.

A woman may “feel” like the man she’s been dating is “The One” and she can see things getting much more committed and serious, but she also senses she doesn’t have the right tools or skills to know how to COMMUNICATE those desires to the man in a positive way.

Simply put, the woman is AFRAID that approaching the guy with a heavy “talk” will either scare him away.

Or…

She herself doesn’t know what “taking it to the next level” really means to HIM, why he would want this, and how to go about talking about it in a way that builds trust and makes him want to open up and share.

So she avoids telling the man what she’s really thinking and feeling about their relationship.

Instead, she starts to accept or downplay the little disappointments she feels.

Until one day she finally wakes up and realizes that she doesn’t have the kind of relationship she THOUGHT she would have with this man, and she’s just not happy with herself or the situation.

And sometimes this “awakening” doesn’t even happen until after the man cheats or leaves.

Ouch.

Hey, I get it.

Men can act more than a little insensitive to all of this, and even act like TOTAL IDIOTS when it comes to appreciating and respecting the great relationship you already have together.

But hang on for a sec…

Let’s just simplify things and boil it down to that one thing that is the cause of all the trouble and confusion:

FEAR.

The unfortunate truth is that some women don’t want to dig deeper into what a man truly wants because of their own fears.

They’re AFRAID of finding out the truth about what a man truly feels about them, and their future together.

And the most dreaded fear of all…

REJECTION and ABANDONMENT.

These two things are SO STRONG AND POWERFUL that something fascinating happens in the woman’s mind when there’s even a small potential for either of these….

Their mind starts a cycle of SELF-DECEPTION.

Here’s how it works:

The fear of pain and loss often leads us to ignore our thoughts and intuition and replace our fearful thoughts with happier thoughts that make us feel comfortable.

It’s the mind’s “emotional defense mechanism.”

I know you felt this before.

How many times have you been unsure – deep down – about the man you are seeing, but instead of examining those doubts and finding a way for you to deal with your own feelings, you decided to actually BUILD HIM UP to your friends and family as being a wonderful catch because you didn’t want to face some of the problems lurking deep in the back of your mind?

You thought that you’d help things out by telling yourself and having faith in what you wanted to be true.

…And sometimes, in the process of making up these “new truths” you even start to convince YOURSELF that he’s a better guy than he actually is?

Or maybe you’ve been in a situation where you’ve gotten no indication that the man you’re seeing wants any kind of serious relationship, but you choose to believe that you’re building a committed relationship as things slowly and naturally escalate.

Making those assumptions without the basis of direct communication can lead to BIG TROUBLE down the road.

Save yourself the wasted energy and the broken heart.

If you’re looking to move past the fear and insecurity you feel with men but don’t want to get in touch with or let anyone know about, then I’d like to help you get in touch and start the “healing” and growth process.

And I’d like to help you quickly get to that great place you know inside you where LOVE and amazing experiences and emotions simply FLOW in your life… and draw the right man and the right relationship to you all on their own.

Remember, a man can’t read your mind, or know all that’s in your heart.

And if you’re carrying around pain or fear, it’s surely getting in the way of a man seeing the beautiful and real you underneath that he would want to know and love.

Don’t keep a man from seeing the best of the real you that’s inside. Make it easy for him, and for you.

Now, back to working with your own expectations, and being with a man and discovering how he is feeling.

Here’s a question that’s probably already on your mind:

How can you be sure you’re involved with the RIGHT guy, and know how he’s feeling, and if he shares your expectations and desires?

The answer is HONESTY.

HONESTY is one of the most liberating and valuable traits to develop – and it’s even more valuable when you’re dating.

And guess what else?

It FEELS REALLY GOOD to be completely open and honest.

Plus, even when it seems like it would push you and a man apart, it has an amazing way of bringing you closer together and building more love and admiration.

But only if you know how to share your thoughts and honest feelings in a way that SERVES YOU and your relationship.

Not all communication is equal.

You can MEAN something, but depending on how you share it with someone… it can either be received as loving and “good”… or as NEGATIVE and CRITICAL.

How is what you are feeling being RECEIVED?

And how does this relate to the way you choose to COMMUNICATE what you are feeling?

A WAY TO COMMUNICATE YOUR NEEDS AND DESIRES WITH A MAN THAT HE’LL LOVE AND RESPOND TO

Let me tell you something important that you might have gotten mixed up inside your head as a woman in relationships with men where they wouldn’t listen…

It’s OK to want what you want and to let a man know it.

In fact, it’s a MUST.

And it’s OK to tell a man that his behavior doesn’t match with what you want.

For example:

If a woman is honest and up front about what she wants and expects from a man, in a way that says that she’s not too attached to the immediate outcome and she subtly lets him know that he better have his act together or else…

It can take the usual “teeth pulling” talk into an opportunity for building attraction and a deep source of commitment with a man.

But remember – YOU CAN’T FAKE IT.

You have to be in a place where you truly believe that you’ll find and meet your expectations for love and relationships, with or without the man who’s there in front of you right then.

No matter how much you love him.

That means you have to be in the right frame of mind, and state in your heart, BEFORE you start the conversation with him…

But most women aren’t in the right frame of mind because they’re afraid, and they’ve “tricked” themselves into thinking that their intimate feelings for a man will scare him off.

WRONG.

It’s not honesty that will scare him off, it’s the negative, fearful and anxious “vibe” that you unknowingly give off before you finally EXPLODE because you can no longer hide how you feel from the man you’re with.

That’s what scares some men off and makes them clam up.

The amazing thing is that men crave HONEST women who are up front about who they are and what they want in relationships.

The key is to know the RIGHT WAY to communicate these things without going over the top.

Remember, if you communicate with a man in a way that assumes, begs, convinces, or makes him think that you’re “entitled” to a relationship and a commitment with him, he will NEVER, EVER respect you and want to stay for the long-term.

You might get what you want in the short-term if he gives in to your wishes just to avoid a conflict, but trust me, you are headed for MUCH bigger problems in the future.

Or worse, you’ll get what you want NOW, but he’s spent the past months – or YEARS – secretly SEETHING WITH RESENTMENT towards you.

Not good.

GIVE HIM A GOOD REASON TO WANT TO COMMIT TO YOU

You just can’t “talk” a man into wanting to commit to you by listing all the ways your relationship is special.

This is something VERY IMPORTANT to remember when it comes to men and relationships.

**You have to give a man the right “REASONS” for him to want to and make HIMSELF committed. **

Becoming deeply committed doesn’t often just happen with the passing of time for a man. He won’t want to commit “just because” it’s been six months or a year (or longer).

He won’t commit to you because you explain how you think you’re better than all the women he’s dated or because you have such a great “connection.”

Nope, he’s going to commit for his own reasons.

So what are these “reasons”?

They’re very complex if you don’t understand them… but simple at the same time.

A man’s reasons for committing, or not committing, are his FEELINGS and EMOTIONS.

Sounds simple, but it’s profound and true.

The “masculine” part of a man has to FEEL like he is naturally and of his own free will CHOOSING to be with a woman.

If this happens, his commitment will usually be strong and lasting.

But if a man commits because a woman has been talking to him and analyzing things to show him how a relationship really makes “sense”, then his commitment won’t be strong… and it probably won’t last.

See the difference?

A man’s motivation for commitment is how a woman makes him FEEL when he’s with her.

If you want him to respond and have committed feelings for you, then you need to do more of the things that will make him FEEL the desire, interest and attraction that lead him to want to commit.

Still with me here?

Good.

In other words, WORDS and conversations are the LEAST powerful and effective tools that a woman has when it comes to love and relationships.

The FEELINGS of ATTRACTION that she can create, sometimes without even speaking, are the MOST POWERFUL.

If you want to learn more about what works to attract a man to you so that he absolutely can’t resist wanting to be around you, and everything else but his desire to be with you falls away…then you need to check out my Natural & Lasting Attraction CD/DVD program.

In this program I reveal specific ways to subtly communicate to a man the things that will “trigger” that intense level of attraction inside him.

You can literally have a man who wasn’t totally “feeling it” for you suddenly take notice and see and recognize the things inside you he simply didn’t look for or see before.

And this is a great first step that you can quickly build on as a man starts to see you as the one woman he wants as his one and only partner.

Don’t wait for this all to happen on its own, when you know what you want.

Go here now and turn up the dial on the level of ATTRACTION a man feels and experiences with you on both a Physical and Emotional level.

You’ll be glad you did.

Check out all the details on my “Natural & Lasting Attraction” program here:

Natural & Lasting Attraction

I’ll talk to you again soon, and best of luck in Life and Love

Your Friend,

Christian Carter

P.S. As I mentioned in this newsletter, there is a very powerful force that makes a man want to commit to YOU and ONLY YOU. And that is the natural and unmistakable force of lasting ATTRACTION.

I’m definitely not just talking about the “physical” kind of attraction, which is definitely powerful in itself, but doesn’t in itself make a relationship LAST and THRIVE.

The kind of attraction I’m talking about is DEEPER and EMOTIONAL. It’s about the things you do, the things you say, the way you carry yourself that make a man go nuts with desire to be around you.

If you are intrigued by this idea, and want to learn everything there is to know about what makes you IRRESISTIBLE to a man, check out all the details about my “Natural & Lasting Attraction” CD/DVD program right now.

I promise you won’t be disappointed by all the life-changing insights you’ll gain. And the man you are close to will love you for it.

So go here now:

Natural & Lasting Attraction

I’ve learned recently about the secret to a more connected and fulfilling relationship…

A secret that is SO big it can literally change your perspective, not only on your relationship but also on your entire life.

If you can have this one key component in your life AND in your relationship, it can make the difference between a miserable situation where you’re feeling like he’s not able to see or respond to any of your needs… or may not even CARE…

And a relationship that feels not just CONNECTED and intimate, but actually makes you feel more alive and MORE LIKE YOURSELF than when you’re anywhere else, or with anyone else.

So let me ask you:

How do YOU feel when you’re with your man?

Do you feel like he understands you, like he supports you and is on your side?

Or do you feel like you’re never able to BE YOURSELF, relax, or feel content?

As a matter of fact, do you feel as if the “issues” in your relationship are keeping you from focusing on other, perhaps MORE IMPORTANT things in your life?

Does your relationship “take you away” from the woman you used to be, or the woman you WANT to be?

If you’re in a great relationship right now, and you feel that there’s NO ONE else who makes you feel more alive, enthusiastic and happy… then nothing I’m going to say in this e-mail is going to be news to you.

In fact, if you stick around to read this I bet what you’ll learn will just VALIDATE what you’ve been doing.

BUT… if you’re feeling LOST, lonely, desperate or depressed about the state of your love life, then I bet that what I’m about to tell you is going to CHANGE the way you experience your life and your man immediately.

It has to do with how you look at your life, and how your relationship fits in with the vision you have of your life.

If you’re in a relationship for ALL THE WRONG REASONS, you’ll often experience these:

– feeling like you used to be a happier, more confident woman before you met him

– feeling constantly frustrated and unhappy in the relationship and maybe not even knowing WHY half the time

– feeling “out of control” with the amount of problems that keep coming up with your man

– feeling like the man you’re with has changed, or that YOU have changed, and you’re not connected anymore

If any of the above sound familiar, that’s great!

Why?

Because I’m about to give you the 2 most powerful KEYS to changing how you feel about yourself, your life and most importantly…your RELATIONSHIP.

Here we go…

KEY #1: Define Your “P.O.P”

Every person on this planet has something that is unique to them, but it’s also something most people aren’t aware of or know about themselves.

This “something” is so important because it is the defining value that dictates everything you do, whether for your career, or your family, or in your romantic relationship.

It affects where you live, what friends you have, and what you do each and every day.

What is it?

It’s your P.O.P. – your Purpose On the Planet.

Your POP is the legacy you’ll leave. It is what you do for others, and how the world sees you. It is the thing that DRIVES you, that makes you happy when you’re doing it, that makes you feel ALIVE.

What’s funny about this is that every person has a Purpose. But not every person knows what their purpose IS.

Why is having and KNOWING your purpose important for overall happiness, and specifically- for RELATIONSHIP happiness?

Knowing what your purpose is opens up your life, because it gives you confidence about all the decisions you make on a daily basis. “Do I take this job? Do I continue this relationship? Do I spend time with this friend? Do I spend my money on this, or that?”

Having a purpose defines WHO YOU ARE and WHERE YOU’RE GOING in life. When you know your purpose, confusion and frustration drop away, because everything can be summed up with one question: Does this (job/relationship/decision) serve my purpose?

Having a purpose and knowing it makes you feel that you are living ON PURPOSE, that you don’t just HAVE an ultimate goal, but that everything in your life SERVES that goal, even if it feels or seems mundane.

Knowing your Purpose is the first step to realizing relationship happiness. I’ll explain why in a sec.

But first…

Here’s how you figure out what your POP is:

Take a look at your life and write down the reason BEHIND everything that’s every made you feel happy and joyous.

Maybe you’re creative and the times you’ve felt your best is when you’ve created something unique and special.

Maybe you’re devoted to your family and what makes you happy is seeing your family doing better because of your hard work and love.

So take a few minutes right now and start thinking about what makes you happy, and why.

Whatever it is, it can probably be summed up in a sentence or two:

“My Purpose on the Planet is to help others realize their full potential.”

“My Purpose on the Planet is to create beauty for others to enjoy.”

“My Purpose is to help my kids become happy and successful people.”

Whatever you discover, there is one important caveat when considering what your POP is. A Purpose – with a capital P–is something you do in SERVICE to others. It’s a way that others benefit because of your work and your efforts.

Even if it seems like your Purpose is something you’re doing for yourself, I’m sure if you dig deeper you’ll see how what you’re doing is ultimately benefiting someone else (like the example of creating art in order to bring more beauty to others).

Once you know your POP, you’ll see clearly why there have been times in your life where you’ve felt unfulfilled, frustrated or depressed about a job, a friendship, or a relationship.

If what you had been doing wasn’t serving your Purpose, or perhaps even going AGAINST or taking you away from your Purpose, subconsciously it set off all kinds of warning bells in your head.

When you are taken away or off-track from your Purpose, it definitely drains your energy and makes you feel a little “lost.”

So if you’ve ever been in a relationship that ended and afterwards you said to yourself, “FINALLY! I can get my life back!”

There’s a reason why you felt like that.

The reason is because your had “lost” your Purpose while you were in the relationship.

And that’s why key #2 is just as important for long-term relationship success…

KEY #2: Define the Purpose of Your Relationship

How many times have you heard someone say that they and their partner have “similar values”?

If you’ve ever felt totally turned off by someone you met on a date, one of the reasons you may have felt this way is that you subconsciously sensed that man had a different set of VALUES than you did.

Maybe he was an egomaniac who bragged about his sports car and how much money he was going to make this year…and you’re an environmentalist who likes to live simply and volunteer for her community.

Anyway, you get what I’m saying here.

Having similar “values” is important to any relationship.

But it’s not ENOUGH for relationship success just to have similar values.

In order to be truly fulfilling and connected for the long-term, your relationship also needs to serve each other’s PURPOSE.

A friend of mine recently got married, and I attended their wedding. He and his new wife had included their “relationship purpose” in the vows they made to each other.

They vowed to spend their life promoting peace by doing regular volunteer work together in their community.

As a matter of fact, they plan on taking 6 months off from their jobs in order to backpack around the world, but spending most of the time on various volunteer projects in the communities they’re going to visit.

What’s great about this is that their RELATIONSHIP not only serves each of their individual purposes, they support their common purpose as well.

Now, it just so happens that my friend and his new wife have a very similar POP – to promote peace in the world. But it doesn’t mean that in order to be successful in love, your have to have the same POP as your partner.

The important thing to remember is that you should SUPPORT your partner’s Purpose, and your partner should support yours, and by being in a relationship TOGETHER, you’re building a life that actually nurtures and supports your goals and aspirations.

A man’s POP may be to work at building better widgets so people’s lives improve…

And a woman’s POP may be to nurture and care for her children…

And in relationship, they support each other’s POP in the things they say and do.

Being in this type of relationship builds a feeling of connectedness and intimacy that is virtually UNBREAKABLE.

When you’re NOT in this kind of relationship, you will feel all those negative things that I mentioned in the beginning of this email (frustrated, depressed, out of control, LOST).

And when you finally break it off or separate from a relationship that doesn’t serve your Purpose, or that doesn’t HAVE a purpose in the first place, you’ll feel a strange sensation of “busting out” or relief…as if you’re finally “getting your life back.”

So…to recap:

The 2 keys to a healthy, fulfilled and long-term relationship are 1) defining and living your Purpose, and 2) defining the purpose of your relationship as it supports that Purpose.

Although I’d love to take credit for this amazing piece of advice and insight… I can’t.

It’s actually something I learned recently during an interview I conducted with an amazing woman who has made it HER life’s purpose to help people become more connected and compassionate.

She’s a marriage and family therapist who’s appeared on the Dr. Phil show and has her own successful private practice.

This amazing woman is Dr. Phyllis Chase, and she specializes in working with single women and couples to ignite a passion in themselves and their relationships.

Phyllis says that, simply stated, when you stop worrying about finding the perfect mate and start embracing YOU and your Purpose, you can go out into the world and you’ll ATTRACT the right romantic relationship that will work for you.

Knowing your Purpose, and knowing why you want a relationship, and how that relationship can support your Purpose, you’ll be able to instantly know when a guy is “in” or “out” when you meet.

It’ll also explain the “chemistry” of knowing a man is aligned with you when it comes to values, and the “eeek” feeling of meeting someone whose values don’t quite mesh with yours.

Having a Purpose on the Planet can also help your relationship in another way.

It can help you get very clear with a man about what you expect out of a relationship, and how you won’t “settle” for a relationship that doesn’t fit that purpose.

Not only that, but you’ll quickly discover that no one person, no ONE MAN can satisfy ALL your needs all the time. Whenyou are aware of your life’s Purpose you begin to see just how many people in your life support that purpose–not just your man.

On page 149 of my eBook, Catch Him & Keep Him, I talk about what happens when a woman relies too much on a man to meet all her emotional needs.

I call this idea “Relationship Debt,” and it’s something that can start immediately when a man and woman meet.

“Relationship Debt” happens because a woman has UNSPOKEN needs or expectations from the man, so in her mind she begins to feel like its “time” things progress to a certain level in the relationship.

If you have Relationship Debt, you may find yourself asking things like why he doesn’t feel the way you do, why he’s afraid of commitment, why he’s not acting the way you think he should act in a situation.

All this built up tension and energy has nowhere to go except in the form of a “talk” with your man, where you decide to sit down with him and let him know the ways in which he’s disappointed you.

All this talking and tension, no matter how calm and “cool” you think you’re being, makes the man get more distant and moody instead of being more loving and open.

Later, in Chapter 7 of my eBook, I explain how to speak the right “language” to a man when it comes to discussing your relationship and what you expect or need…like a commitment.

I give you specific “scripts” on how to talk tough, but practice understanding, so you can get him to LISTEN and improve your relationship without compromising yourself or your needs.

This is important because by compromising yourself and your Purpose, you create an unhealthy balance in the relationship where you become a pushover.

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I hope you learned something valuable in this email about your life’s purpose and how being aware of it can be the first step to a more connected and fulfilling relationship.

I’ll talk to you again soon.

Meanwhile, best of luck in life and love.

Your friend,

Christian Carter

This worrying usually starts around the time when you feel that you’re connecting and starting to have strong feelings for him.

You’ve naturally become exclusive with him and assume he’s exclusive with you, too.

You have a great time when you’re together.

He’s introduced you to his friends and maybe even some of his family.

He’s met your friends. You’ve spent some holidays together. Celebrated birthdays and special occasions. Went on weekend trips together.

It just keeps getting better and better.

It feels really good to be so “in sync” with a guy.

But it isn’t long before it dawns on you…

You have a very special connection and you want it to last. And because it’s so good, you start to think that maybe you’ve finally found your Mr. Right.

That’s why you’re anxious about something going wrong, or about him suddenly “changing his mind” about you.

Maybe that sort of thing happened to you before…or maybe you’ve been hearing too many “horror stories” from friends who have experienced this.

So even though things are going “great” and you’re really connecting, you’re also beginning to freak out just a little.

This is precisely the moment where a lot of women make a crucial mistake.

They start to let their FEAR and insecurity take over. Instead of being secure because the relationship is going well and the guy seems like a good guy, they start to be afraid that it won’t last, or that it isn’t “real.”

This leads to a desire to KNOW exactly what the man is thinking and feeling.

It doesn’t matter that he’s being affectionate and attentive and that there’s really no reason to feel anxious.

Fear is a powerful motivator, and it leads a woman to ask a man the WRONG questions at the WRONG time in the WRONG way. These questions can actually make a man want to withdraw.

Don’t get me wrong…

A lot of women have had a good experience asking a man these questions because they’ve approached it in a completely different way than I’m about to illustrate. I’ll reveal how in just a minute…

But first, getting back to this crucial mistake…

OK, so you’re feeling a little freaked out, even though things are fairly happy in your relationship… because of something that happened in your past or because of the stories you heard from your friends.

Maybe in the past you were completely “hooked” on a guy, thinking that he was “The One”, when suddenly he decided he wasn’t ready, couldn’t commit, wanted to go back to his ex, or was seeing someone else already.

It affected you in a bad way, and took you a long time to get over it.

So you begin wondering and worrying about what’s going on NOW, even though it’s a completely different guy and a completely different situation.

You start to look for clues about his level of “seriousness” in the things he says and does, but nothing seems obvious to you, and you’re still not satisfied.

So you begin to look for the right time to ask one of these three questions, (if not all of them):

QUESTION THAT CAN MAKE HIM WITHDRAW #1: HOW DO YOU FEEL ABOUT ME?

– Is this love or is this just a fling? Are your feelings for me real and lasting?

QUESTION THAT CAN MAKE HIM WITHDRAW #2: WHERE IS THIS GOING?

– What will happen to us a year from now? Should I be making my future plans around us moving in together someday? Would you like to get married someday?

QUESTION THAT CAN MAKE HIM WITHDRAW #3: ARE YOU SERIOUS ABOUT US?

– Or are you just in this for “now” but not thinking anything serious or long-term?

These are the thoughts swirling around your head almost constantly, especially after you get together with him.

You want to know where the relationship is going. You NEED to know. You don’t want to be “strung along” for months and months, only to have your heart broken.

You don’t want to be wasting your time.

There are certain things you want from a relationship, and you want to know that he’s going to be able to come through for you.

That’s when you decide you’re going to sit down and have “A Talk”. You’re nervous about it, so you wait for just the right time…

You don’t want to seem pushy or needy, so you may even rehearse what you’re going to say in your mind.

Finally, the moment comes and you blurt out everything you’ve been thinking and feeling for days and weeks…

But things don’t go exactly the way you imagined.

He’s not reassuring or relaxed. He’s not tender and affectionate.

And he’s certainly not wrapping you in his arms to tell you how much he loves you and wants to commit!

He’s actually a little WORRIED. “Frustrated” would almost be the right word. Maybe even annoyed!

Uh oh.

He acts put off, as if you’re now “hassling” him and pressuring him to do or be a certain way. He tells you he’s “not sure” or maybe “not ready” to make any promises to you.

He tells you that he cares about you…BUT…he “needs more time.”

Or any number of reasonable or non-reasonable excuses as to why he can’t answer your questions or make a commitment to you RIGHT NOW.

You don’t get it.

All you wanted was to know where the relationship was heading!

You weren’t trying to hassle him or force him to make a decision on the spot. You just wanted to know where you stand as a couple.

Now YOU’RE angry, HE’S angry, and you regret ever having brought it up.

Because now he’s being distant. He’s changed toward you a little bit. He’s not quite as affectionate. Maybe he’s a little distracted. A little cold.

And it scares you.

If you’ve ever been in this situation, or if you FEAR being in this situation, you’re not alone. So many women worry about how to approach a man about these 3 common questions. And that’s understandable…

But there’s something I need you to know about men and how they “see” commitment.

Men and women have different timelines when it comes to commitment.

A woman may think “it’s time” for a man to commit after a certain amount of months has passed, or certain things have happened…like after he’s introduced you to his family and celebrated a few holidays with you.

But it’s not NECESSARILY the same way a man thinks.

A man decides he wants to be with YOU and ONLY YOU and make a real commitment based on how you make him FEEL.

Whether it’s been 2 weeks, 2 months, or 2 years.

It doesn’t matter.

If a man is feeling that “something special” about you, he’s going to be thinking of how he can have you in his life for the long-term. If he feels that his life is much better with you in it, or is much easier and happier and more fulfilled, then he’ll do what he has to do to make sure you’re in his life for good.

A man doesn’t make a decision to commit because of a series of events that he’s mentally checked off…or because “it’s time” to get serious.

Or because it’s been 2 months and you’ve been physical and enjoyed each other’s company and you like doing the same kinds of things together.

Unless you’re triggering that “forever” feeling in him ANOTHER WAY, a man isn’t going to feel compelled to bring up the issue of “commitment” with you.

And if you bring it up first when he’s not “feeling” it…then he’ll feel put off and pressured.

A man making the decision to commit to you is DEFINITELY not the result of any one “talk” you have with him where you’re asking him where it’s going based on your OWN AGENDA.

You see, that’s the key.

Once you stop thinking of what it is you want and why you’re right and he’s wrong, and start to be curious about what HE wants and what he is feeling, you can completely shift the vibe you’re putting off…and change the way he feels completely.

You can and SHOULD communicate what you want to a man and set certain STANDARDS from the start.

But you have to do it from the start…not keep things bottled up, “hoping” he’s thinking and intending the same things from the relationship that you are, and then feel upset and confused when months later you find out that he doesn’t.

Look… I generally avoid “rules” with men, because all men are unique and there is no such thing as “one rule fits all.” But here’s a rule, so listen up…

You HAVE to let a man know that you don’t want to casually date forever FROM THE START, if that’s your intention.

But the trick for lots of women, even though they do this in their own way, is that you CANNOT do this through pressure or any kind of passive-aggressive or weak, convincing types of behavior.

Putting pressure on people in important situations and choices in life causes more harm than good- you won’t get a positive response.

This is what I mean when I say that there are certain questions that MAKE a man withdraw. The questions of “where’s this going?” and “what do you feel about me?” put pressure on a man or else try to convince him that things should be a CERTAIN WAY.

If you let a man know what you will and won’t tolerate in a relationship early on, then he won’t feel cornered or “hassled.”

Here’s exactly how to do this…

Say, “I will only keep seeing you right now if this is going somewhere and you aren’t seeing anyone else, because I’m not and I don’t want to waste my time.”

When you say this to a guy, there’s an unconscious button that’s pushed in his mind that basically tells him and instills the belief that “this is a respectable and desirable woman who has the ability and the strength to pick and choose what happens in her life and with men, so I better make good of the situation.”

If all this goes well and you start becoming closer and closer to a man after weeks or a couple of months, then it’s time to say in a calm and casual voice-

“I’m happy with you and I want to keep dating…but the future’s important to me too.

So let’s see how we feel about things over the next few weeks or months (set a time here you feel comfortable with), and we’ll decide where this is going and to continue if there’s something more serious that we’re both interested in and want.”

And “Kaboom.” This is like the ultimate ground-shaker for a man.

Careful when you do this, though. For some women this might be risky and sound a bit harsh, but the thing is, if a man is at all interested or serious about you, then watch out after this conversation…

He’s going to suddenly be wildly open, affectionate and want more with you. Don’t let it scare you when you see such a big sudden shift.

It’s normal for a man to act this way after a woman says this to him.

I devote an entire chapter to what to do and say to make sure you start with the right “end” in mind when you’re dating a man in my eBook, Catch Him and Keep Him.

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Now, why do men perceive being asked “where is this going?” as some kind of weird, needy ploy?

It depends on the timing of the question and the context with which it’s brought up, of course, but one of the main reasons they feel this way has to do with TIMING and ATTRACTION.

If you ask a man how he feels about you or the relationship before he’s had a chance to develop a strong emotional attraction toward you, and before he even knows himself where he wants the relationship to go, he’s going to perceive your questions as you looking for APPROVAL or direction from him.

It would be like you going on a first date to a nice restaurant with a man you barely knew and hearing him ask you as he was finishing his meal, “OK, now that we’ve gotten to know each other, and I’m paying for this meal, how about if we go to my place and have sex?”

I’m willing to bet that if a man asked you that on a first date, you’d feel totally put off. You’d feel offended and grossed out. Ewwww….no class whatsoever. Check please!

When you ask a man how he feels about you or your relationship before he’s had a chance to figure out his own feelings, it brings about the same kind of “ewww” feeling in him, too.

If you’re not telling him what your boundaries and standards are, but instead you’re seeking direction and approval, he’ll look for ways to “cool” things because he’ll lose ATTRACTION for you.

Talking to a man about your relationship or worrying about “where it’s going” isn’t going to make him FEEL anything for you.

Neither is wanting to “skip” all that tiresome dating and just get right to the “real thing,” either.

Men have a different timeline and attitude when it comes to commitment, and unless you know what that is, you’ll be feeling pretty frustrated by a man’s “wishy washy” behavior.

When he tells you that he values his “freedom” you won’t understand why his single life is more attractive than spending time with YOU.

Every one of us dreams of having that “storybook romance love” with the one person we were meant to spend the rest of our lives with…

Don’t let a misunderstanding of what a man is feeling about you and your relationship RUIN your chances for that happily ever after.

It may not be that he doesn’t want to commit ever, it may just be that he’s on a different point in the PROCESS with you…

So stop feeling anxious and worried about whether or not a man will actually want to commit to you, or whether you’re wasting precious time and energy on a man who may NEVER commit.

I’ll talk to you again soon and best of luck in Life and Love,

Your Friend,

Christian Carter

Do you ever feel frustrated that men don’t know what they want when it comes to love and relationships?

Even when you and a man are already physical, affectionate, and having an amazing time together?

What’s going on here?

Are men really this clueless and frustrating?

In case you haven’t figured this one out for yourself, here’s an important piece of info about how men can be when it comes to “dating” and relationships:

A man can be DOING all the things that say he’s interested and wants more with you… but be FEELING like HE’S NOT READY or wanting more in terms of a RELATIONSHIP at the same time.

Crazy, right?

It’s enough to drive a woman mad.

And what’s worse… a man can DO all kinds of things with you from hang out to take things to a sexual level… but he won’t COMMUNICATE about what he’s really FEELING.

At least not until after the fact. (After he decides things aren’t “working” and he’s not ready for a serious relationship.)

Ever had a man get close to you and spend lots of time with you… but then he couldn’t get a word out about how he was feeling and what he wanted?

If you know what I’m talking about here, then you know that not-so-great feeling you get when you’re sharing an amazing connection with the man in your life but…

Out of nowhere he does a complete 180 and tells you he doesn’t like your situation or something really important about YOU.

And he’s already made up his mind to LEAVE.

Arrghhhhhh!

Frustrating, right?

You didn’t even get the chance to know or talk about what was going on inside his head.

How in the world did he think things were supposed to end up working?

Were you supposed to read his mind!?

I get that it must feel IMPOSSIBLE sometimes to get close to a man and have a real relationship.

Well, it’s not.

Tons of other women like you have gone from where you are now to having an easy time communicating with the men in their lives and growing from that UNCERTAIN area of the first few dates to a loving and secure relationship.

I’ve helped plenty of women create that “shift” in their dating life or their relationship that now PREVENTS these frustrating things from happening.

And now I want to share some real-world insights with you about how men think… and how to make things with that right man work for you.

WHY MEN DON’T CALL AGAIN AFTER GREAT DATES

I probably don’t have to tell you that men do this “suddenly pulling away” thing in all different situations from “casual” dating to committed relationships.

And they do it without warning, and for what seems like no good reason at all.

How many times have you gone on a first or second date with a man and had an absolutely fantastic time…

And you were sure he was going to call and felt as strongly about you as you did him…

You had both laughed and found so many things you had in common…

You felt relaxed and confident, and you BOTH had a good time flirting and getting to know one another.

Best of all, that magic chemistry you can only share with the right kind of guy was there. And it was INTENSE.

When you went home after being with him, you were 100% SURE he would call and ask you out again.

He had even said “I’ll call you” as he left.

But then a few days went by… and nothing.

Several days later, after you had wondered about him more than you’d like to admit… you came to the realization that he was NEVER going to CALL.

What’s the deal here!?

Why did he act like it was such a great date… and even say that he’d call you later, when he obviously didn’t plan on it?

Did he lie simply because it was easier in the moment and he didn’t want to hurt your feelings?

And was there something strange going on inside HIM he didn’t want to share, show you, or be honest about?

Or was there something else?

Something you missed that he saw in YOU?

Was there something YOU DID or said that was the REAL REASON he didn’t feel compelled to see you again?

If you’re like a LOT of single women, this sort of thing where a man never calls or makes plans with you again has not only happened to you once, but it’s happened to you a few times.

You’ve spent time with a man who seemed like he could have been great “relationship material”, and who showed all the signs of wanting to grow close to you and get to know you better…

But when push came to shove, he PULLED AWAY for what seemed like no good reason at all.

And he was never available to you to talk about it or tell you why.

Which means… for all the times this has happened to you, a part of you has NEVER learned anything about WHY these things keep happening to you.

Part of you simply feels like you’re “cursed” when it comes to love… and that things just aren’t fated to work out for you with true love.

But, if you’re like lots of women I’ve talked to and helped, then part of you has also made up your own “stories” for WHY these things happened to try and make yourself feel better.

Stories like:

-”He wasn’t that great anyway.”

-”It wasn’t really meant to be.”

-”You’ll find someone better.”

-”It was his loss.”

Recognize any of these?

The reality is that we often make up these “stories” in our lives when we let our FEAR of what the REAL TRUTH about us might be keep us from looking for and finding out who and what we really are… and how others see us.

So let me ask you:

What if a man whom you really and truly liked and connected with was willing to tell you THE TRUTH about why he really never called you again?

Would you be able to listen to him with an open mind and an open heart?

Would you be able to believe him?

And would you be willing to do anything about it if what he said was honest and real?

See, lots of women know they aren’t getting the “whole story” from a man… but on a deeper level they aren’t OPEN to hearing his reason WHY because of the PAIN that could come from it.

And it’s this FEAR of being hurt or feeling unloved or unappreciated that pushes them to both create a less painful “story”… and try and get over it and forget about the situation as quickly as possible.

It’s ironic, isn’t it – that the very thing that can keep you from learning, growing, and creating what you want is often your own unwillingness to hear the REAL STORY about yourself from another person’s perspective (a man’s in this case)?

Considering this, here’s the real question for you:

What if there was a real reason why a man didn’t call to ask you out again?

Like that he REALLY WAS interested in you… but something else got in the way of him being able to see you and feel comfortable with you.

If this was the case, and knowing what this mistake was could help you avoid ever making the same mistake again… wouldn’t you want to know what it was?

What if it was something you were doing on an unconscious level that you couldn’t even see about yourself that was causing you to lose the chance to start an incredible connection with a great guy?

What if it was you who blew it because of some small misunderstanding or “glitch” going on inside you that is so EASY TO FIX that you’ll wonder why it was ever a problem for you in the first place?

There’s something I need you to understand right now…

If there is something you might be doing to get in your own way, odds are that you are 100% UNAWARE of what that thing is, and what’s causing it.

After all, the reason you don’t know what’s getting in your way in the first place is because the mistake you’re making is something that happens completely UNCONSCIOUSLY.

Don’t believe me yet?

I’ll explain how it works like this…

I’m sure you’ve seen it where a girlfriend of yours went on a date with a guy she really liked – and she was completely intent on things really working out with him – even though they had only been getting to know each other for a very short while.

But the more you saw how your girlfriend was thinking about and approaching the whole situation, the more that part of you knew that the man she was dating would instantly lose interest when he picked up on how she was thinking and feeling (UNCERTAIN and INSECURE).

And guess what happened?

Exactly…

The man did pick up on it, and he stopped calling and making plans with her all of a sudden.

It was over. And she was devastated.

You tried to talk to her about it.

But you knew that there was something that your girlfriend just couldn’t see about herself that had made this guy get that weird awkward “Eeeewwww” feeling when he was around her that had pushed him away.

Even you would have been turned off by this kind of thing in someone you had started dating.

And even though you tried to hint at what you saw and explain it to your girlfriend… she just wasn’t having anything to do with the fact that how SHE was thinking and acting was the reason he lost interest.

Instead, she was FIXATED on HIM.

Here’s the thing:

We all have our own “blind spots” – things that we do in our lives that WORK AGAINST US that we can’t see for ourselves, but that are obvious to others when they look at our lives from the outside.

I’m going to suggest to you that if you’re having some of the same problems and frustrations over and over with men as you’re dating or in relationships…then what’s important is NOT the belief you might have about how men are so messed up and don’t “get it.”

What’s important is you getting to the bottom of YOUR PART in these situations that are keeping you from creating what you want – YOUR BLIND SPOTS.

That way, you never have to wonder again.

AND… best of all, you can start making LOVE come together and work for you in your life.

Wouldn’t it be great to be able to have a connection with a man effortlessly grow into a deeper relationship?

And have that deeper relationship quickly grow into something SECURE and LASTING not because it had to be… but because a man was just that wild about you and had to be with you and stay with you?

THE SUREFIRE WAY TO TURN A GUY OFF AFTER THE FIRST FEW DATES

Let me ask you:

What are those things that even your best friends see in you and try to tell you, but you just don’t listen to or believe about yourself?

What are the things that are true about how you end up acting when you get close to a man and you lose your composure?

I want to tell you that you aren’t alone when it comes to feeling this way and having “blind spots.”

You could be having a hard time just getting to experience dates #2 and 3 with a guy, because you rarely get asked out after a first date.

Men just didn’t seem to want to follow up and explore things with you…

Which leads me to an interesting question I hear sometimes from the women who write to me – what do dates #2 and #3 MEAN to a man?

If he asks you out on a second or third date, does that mean he’s interested in having a real relationship?

Maybe. Here’s the deal:

When a man asks you out for a second or third date, what it means is that he’s interested in getting to know you better, because he felt a good connection with you on date #1.

It doesn’t mean that he necessarily wants to be “exclusive” or is thinking “serious relationship.”

He’s STILL just getting to know you.

One of the BIGGEST MISTAKES women make early on in a dating situation is they assume that there is a “relationship” when in fact the thought hasn’t even crossed the man’s mind.

He’s enjoying your company, getting to know you, starts wondering about you, and meanwhile, you’re already thinking ahead to the next few months when this is the ONLY man you’re seeing and things are “serious.”

You’ve already made a decision about this guy, and you don’t even know him that well yet. All you’re doing is going by your “gut feeling” and the chemistry you feel when you’re with him.

So you start acting on that “feeling” and you begin to make certain assumptions about what’s going on between you.

This can send a really bad “vibe” to a guy, especially when you ASSUME you’re going to be seeing each other every weekend, when you express your annoyance with him when he doesn’t call you more often, and when you assume a monogamous relationship instead of actually DISCUSSING it.

I call this the “Instant Relationship” syndrome and it can be the difference between never getting past date #2 or 3 with a guy, or connecting way past dating and into a committed, amazing relationship.

Now…

Here’s another question about dating and relationships I get asked a lot… and I’m sure you can relate.

Women will come up to me and say, “Christian, all this dating advice is great, but I don’t understand why I can’t just BE MYSELF and still attract Mr. Right.”

The answer is, you CAN be yourself, and really you SHOULD be.

But how do you know that the way you “are” around a man is the “best” and most attractive you?

I believe that ALL women have the natural power and ability to be confident, playful and wildly attractive to a man.

The problem is that because of the baggage of past bad relationships, hurtful feelings or not understanding how men think makes women SUPPRESS that natural ability to ATTRACT and engage a man in a way where he can’t help but want to spend time with her – and want to commit to her.

What if you could UNLOCK your natural ability to attract the right man by learning what it is that makes HIM desire to be with you and ONLY you?

What if you knew the secrets to how men think and behave, so you could finally relax and BE YOURSELF and draw a man to you without all that “convincing” about how he should be with you?

When a man starts telling you “I care about you, but I’m not ready for a relationship right now” it’s special man-speak for “I’m not that attracted to you, deep down.”

Now, wouldn’t KNOWING that spare you a lot of wasted time and energy, trying to figure out what “care about you” really means, and whether or not there’s something you could do or say to get him to want to date you?

Unfortunately, a lot of women don’t have that basic understanding about men, and so they spend endless hours analyzing what a guy does or says and whether or not he’s really being honest with his feelings.

Believe me, if a man feels that DEEP EMOTIONAL CONNECTION with you, he won’t even worry about what else is going on in his life.

He’ll want to be around you and want to have something meaningful and long-lasting with you.

These kinds of misunderstandings about men can be the ROOT CAUSE of why you’re no getting past a few dates with the men you’re really attracted to and interested in.

What if you could know, without a doubt, what kinds of things are the real attraction-killers for men?

What if you knew how to talk to a man so that he saw you as fun and interesting, instead of needy or critical or just too “bossy”?

In my Inside the Mind of a Man program, I take you IN-DEPTH to why men do the things they do, why they say the things they say to a woman.

Think for a moment about where you would be if you had an amazing, mature, great guy in your life.

Would you feel more confident if you knew:

> Exactly what to say and do so that your man would ALWAYS feel that staying with you was more than worth it, even when you had challenges, fights, and disagreements?

> How to keep from feeling unintentionally hurt by little things he says and does… because you’ll understand him better than he understands himself?

Think about it.

Wouldn’t your love life be 100 times better if you only understood certain things about men?

Things like:

> Why men cheat and how to affair-proof your relationship

> What men really need in order to feel “in love”

> What men wish women understood about them

> Why men often seem to withdraw after an argument or conflict

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Here goes…

Ever notice how a man will “court” you, pursue you, and do all kinds of amazing and romantic things to win your heart as you’re getting to know each other…

But, after a little while, the romance, passion, and intimacy that he used to create and be so excited about starts to “fizzle out” once you’re into a committed relationship?

If you’ve ever found yourself in a situation with a man who you knew was a great guy but he started acting immature, depended on you for too many things (and didn’t appreciate you for them), and all the while you kept giving more and more to try and make things work better and keep you closer… then you don’t want to miss this email.

I’m about to let you know the real reasons why men in relationships so often act this way… and what to do about it.

I’m also about to explain why so many women end up in unfulfilling relationships with men who “TAKE TAKE TAKE”, and why these women so often end up getting little back for all their efforts.

First off, tell me if this sounds at all familiar…

You meet a great guy and you start dating.

The “chemistry” is simply AMAZING and you can’t believe how into connecting and sharing he is… even on that emotional level where other men often fall flat.

You spend time together and keep growing closer, and you start to believe that maybe you’ve finally found that amazing friend, companion and lover all in one.

He’s so open and caring… listens and pays attention to you and what’s going with you in a way that few men you’ve met can.

Your connection is unbelievable.

You both know you can count on each other in ways that feel like you’re closer than you have been with a man in a long, long time.

Since you’re both so close, he starts to depend on you for a few things in his life… and you’re happy to help him since you really care about him and are a generous and loving person.

But, as time goes on, something starts to slowly “shift.”

It starts with small things…

He starts acting a little differently, and stops doing a lot of the things he used to do that made you admire and respect him.

Somehow, he seems less confident, present, and “connected” with you.

And then you notice…

There’s something different about how he depends on you, and it sets off your “radar.”

You start to wonder if how he is with you is entirely healthy.

You start to feel “drained” with him and with the relationship more and more… but you know that a relationship is about give and take, so you keep giving and have faith that things are going fine.

More time passes and you start to notice something else…

You see that he isn’t becoming more appreciative of all the things you’re doing for him and your relationship.

In fact, it feels like he’s starting to take more and more of it for granted.

Actually, he seems LESS APPRECIATIVE of you and your relationship in general.

He starts asking and depending on you even more, without any real thanks or reciprocation.

The more he does this, the more you sense that there’s a kind of needy “childishness” inside him that’s becoming clearer.

You want to be there for him and be a great partner… but you also want that fun, strong, playful, loving, confident man back who was there before things changed.

With all this going on, you’re not exactly sure of what to do about it or what’s going on for him that’s making him act this way.

He doesn’t seem to pay you the same attention, give the same affection and support that you give him, and it’s starting to feel unfair and bother you.

Your relationship is starting to feel like it’s all about making sure “he’s” happy.

Which of course doesn’t leave much room for what’s going on for YOU.

You know things can’t go on this way if your relationship is going to work and be something worthwhile and “real.”

He’s got to see what’s going on and stop being so self-involved.

You know that he’s had some challenges in his own life and maybe he just doesn’t see what’s going on. So, you decide to not make a big deal out of it. But, you know that something needs to change… soon.

So, you finally decide to talk to him about what’s going on.

You go over in your head again and again what you’re going to say to him and what’s been going on for the last several months.

You’re sure that he’ll see what’s been happening and all the things you’ve been doing for him and the relationship, and he’ll give you some understanding.

But when you talk to him, it doesn’t work out this way… AT ALL.

Instead of hearing you and your intentions to get things back to a better place between you two, he just becomes frustrated, irritated and DEFENSIVE with you.

Instead of hearing you, he makes you feel like you’re “nagging” him and creating “drama.”

He even acts like you’re the one being ridiculous and withdraws from you.

Does any of this sound familiar to you?

This situation where you know you’re giving and getting less than nothing back STINKS.

And unfortunately, it’s a common experience lots of women have in relationships with men.

Now, there are about 50 things I could tell you about how men are at fault and create these problems for themselves and for you in your relationship.

But the reality is that you’ve already spent hours thinking about this before and have a lot of your own ideas about it.

That is partially why I’m NOT going to talk about what’s going on with men here and what to do about it.

At least not yet.

Right now we’re going to talk about YOU.

Why?

Because thinking about YOURSELF is the first step towards real GROWTH and AWARENESS in EVERY RELATIONSHIP you have in your life.

You could spend days, weeks, months or years worrying about a man, what he thinks, and why he does the things he does.

But if you want to be smart…

And you want relationships to start “working” for you, instead of seeming like a neverending source of frustration and disappointment trying to get a man to make the relationship work…

Then you’ll make sure you have things handled for yourself first.

And that way you’ll have the CERTAINTY that only comes from understanding what’s happening in the relationship around you… and what YOU need to do in each situation that comes up with a man.

THE ONE QUESTION THAT CAN CHANGE YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH A MAN INSTANTLY

If you’re at the most basic levels of what I call “emotional maturity” in your life, then you’ve started to recognize something very important and significant about yourself…

You’ve recognized that you have a few PATTERNS coming up in your relationships.

Of course, some of these patterns are positive traits that bring benefits, center around your personal preferences, and involve things you bring into your life CONSCIOUSLY and for good reason.

But the reality is these aren’t the only kind of patterns you have in your life.

You also have a special group of “negative patterns.”

Patterns that you save just for MEN.

So, let me ask you a very simple question.

It’s a question that could very well change the course of your love life IMMEDIATELY once you answer it.

Here’s the question -

Do you know your “negative patterns” in relationships with men?

You might have a few of these that you already know about that you can rattle off in your head right now without really thinking about it.

THESE ARE NOT THE PATTERNS I’M LOOKING FOR TO IMPROVE YOUR LOVE LIFE.

You already know about these patterns and this knowledge still doesn’t seem to be helping you if you’re running into the same issues and situations again and again.

Which is why it’s obvious that “what” you already know isn’t going to help you learn and grow past these situations with men for good.

You need to expand your PERSPECTIVE.

That’s why I’m looking for the patterns that you DON’T see right now, and that you aren’t CONSCIOUS of.

Here’s where we’re going to take ACTION…

Right now, I want you to give yourself the time and space for the next 5 minutes to think about your own patterns in your past or present relationships with men.

And, I want you to put everything else aside just for a few short moments while you focus on YOURSELF.

By the way, if you don’t have time to do this now, then you probably never will.

And I know it’s a simple question, but the AWARENESS and GROWTH that can come from your answer is what’s going to change your love life immediately.

So now that you’ve made the time, I want you to think about the following -

I want you to come up with at least TWO of your own negative relationship patterns with men.

And I don’t just mean patterns that are really about men… such as “I always pick men who are clueless about loving relationships.”

This is focusing on HIM, not YOU.

I mean something like “I meet men and quickly spend all my time with them. But soon I see that I’ve “lost myself” and I am not able to have a healthy balance. And inevitably, we end up breaking up and I resent all the time I spent on the relationship and him, instead of spending more time on myself.”

That’s one common example lots of women have experienced.

Now, it’s your turn.

I want you to come up with 2 other patterns that have to do with YOU and things that come from YOUR THINKING or BEHAVIOR.

I’m going to give you a few minutes to do it now.

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I’m going to give you another minute to make sure you have your two patterns.

OK. So now you have two clear patterns of your own in your head.

Take out a pen and a piece of paper right now and write down the patterns you identified.

Do it now, I’ll wait.

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Good.

I want you to keep this piece of paper somewhere you can look at it again in a few days or weeks.

It will be important to look at what you wrote down again at least once in the next few days.

DEVELOPING CONSCIOUSNESS TO MOVE PAST YOUR NEGATIVE AND SELF-DEFEATING “PATTERNS” IN RELATIONSHIPS WITH MEN

Now that you’ve got your two negative patterns, here’s where things are going to start coming together for you…

First, I need you to get away from a dangerous kind of thinking that ALL WOMEN engage in when it comes to men, dating and relationships.

I call it “All-or-Nothing Thinking.”

Do you know any women who talk about how their relationship is hopeless and a complete failure…

And then a few hours or days later they have shifted 180 degrees to where EVERYTHING is great?

What does this say about the woman who thinks and feels this way?

What kind of relationship and communication “skills” does a woman like this have?

And how do you think a man experiences this kind of thinking and behavior… and what does it say to him about a woman?

Of course, this is an extreme example of “All-or-Nothing Thinking.”

Unfortunately, the more common “All-or-Nothing Thinking” is subtle and difficult to recognize.

Especially when YOU are the one having the thoughts.

So, let me ask you…

When you look at your pattern, is there a negative trait or habit of yours that stands out as the one that gets you into trouble the most?

I’m certain there is.

I want you to identify at least one of your greatest WEAKNESSES that shows up in your life through your negative patterns.

I’ll give you a minute to write this down next to the pattern it’s associated with.

Go ahead.

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OK. Now there’s something I want you to think about…

It makes sense to cut this negative trait or habit that’s associated with your pattern out of your relationship and behavior with a man…right?

It’s caused a lot of these problems… right?

If you cut these traits or qualities out of the way you are in a relationship with a man, then things will be better… right?

WRONG.

What if the problems that come up in your negative pattern are caused by these traits?

And what if the traits in your negative pattern didn’t represent just your personal WEAKNESSES?

What if they ALSO represented your personal STRENGTHS at the same time?

If you were thinking that you should get rid of the trait or quality entirely that’s involved in your negative pattern so that things will work better in the future… then you’re going to that place of “All-or-Nothing Thinking.”

Talk about throwing out the baby with the bath water.

Over the years I’ve recognized that there’s a fascinating mistake TONS of people make in relationships, in business, and in every aspect of life…

When something isn’t working and they want to fix a problem, they don’t look at the entire “system” around them.

Instead, they focus their attention on the “symptoms” they see, in isolation.

Some people complain about “Western Medicine” having the same shortcoming. That it only addresses symptoms, instead of taking a “holistic” approach to how everything works together.

Anyway… when a person is trying to fix a problem in a relationship, by not seeing the entire “system” going on around them, they can’t see how all the elements are inter-connected.

So, when they go to make a change, they think they can change what’s related to the symptoms and everything will work better.

This is like thinking blowing your nose will cure a cold.

What’s worse, often times the things that people change not only don’t work to fix the problem…

But ends up making things WORSE by affecting all the other related and inter-connected things that WERE WORKING.

Talk about COUNTERPRODUCTIVE.

Don’t start solving problems and changing your relationship when you can only see the “symptoms.”

There’s a better way.

You need to start looking at the whole “system” of how you and a man connect and communicate in your relationship.

You need to develop your own “holistic” approach.

Then you’ll have the PERSPECTIVE to make choices and take action that will bring more connection and understanding into your life.

So how can you start to see your own relationship with a man as the “system” that it is?

And how can you avoid the dead end strategy of trying to cover up the “symptoms”?

Here’s a step towards this that you can take RIGHT NOW…

I’m going to get you out of the habit of using your destructive “All-or-Nothing Thinking.”

I want you to look at your trait or traits again that were your own WEAKNESSES in your negative relationship pattern.

Now I want you to try something that might seem strange at first.

I want you to identify at least one way in which your trait or habit in your negative relationship pattern is also a STRENGTH.

I’ll give you a minute to see how the very trait that you just identified as a WEAKNESS is also a STRENGTH.

I want you to write the STRENGTH down right now next to the pattern it’s associated with.

Go ahead. I’ll give you a few minutes.

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OK, good.

There’s a lot of power and AWARENESS created in what you just did when you think about it – IF you stay aware of this when you’re interacting with a man in your relationship.

When you see how your WEAKNESSES, that you’ve been giving yourself a hard time about and trying to figure out how to get rid of, are also part of your STRENGTHS… things you never could have understood will start to become clear to you.

Challenges, issues, attitudes, and hurtful things that a man brings to you that relate to your patterns, will start to look differently to you…

And you’ll start to have an amazing sense of CLARITY about what’s the best thing to do for you, for him, and for your relationship.

A “STRANGE TRUTH” ABOUT THE PEOPLE AND RELATIONSHIPS YOU ATTRACT IN LIFE AND LOVE

You’ve got some basic tools to work with now to understand more about what’s going on with you and your relationship.

But it really only starts here.

Are you CLEAR on how these 2 patterns come up in your life?

Do you know how to avoid “All or Nothing Thinking” the next time it comes up and tries tocreate DISTANCE between you and a man?

Do you know where these thoughts come from and what to do to stay conscious and overcome the negative aspects of your other destructive relationship patterns?

Do you know how to guide a man to start doing these same things to improve HIMSELF and the way he is in your relationship, so you don’t have to try and convince him of what’s going on that he can’t see or isn’t paying attention to?

Most women who aren’t in a happy, healthy, loving, lasting relationship don’t have this knowledge and the ability to stay connected with a man that comes along with it.

The strange truth is, patterns aren’t just coincidences in your life.

They keep repeating in your life for a reason.

What are the lessons that keep coming up for you in your love life that you can’t learn from where you are today, but keep coming at you?

The reality is that you have a choice…

You can keep repeating these patterns, and experiencing the pain and frustration that comes with them again and again…

This is the “easy” choice that doesn’t ask or require you to learn and grow at all.

OR…

You can create a “shift” in your life.

You can choose to have more AWARENESS and more GROWTH… which will of course bring new ways of seeing things, and best of all, NEW RESULTS in your relationship.

The choice is yours right now.

There’s a reason why most men pull away and sabotage perfectly good, loving relationships with women.

And there’s a reason why YOUR FEARS are only making these things with a man WORSE.

There are clear steps that you can take to change your love life and relationship, no matter where you are right now with a man.

Shifting your PERSPECTIVE and becoming MORE CONSCIOUS is your first step… some of which we’ve touched on here.

You can stop the unnecessary PATTERNS.

You can come to terms with, and understand, the FEARS.

And you can find out, once and for all, why it is that men so often put up RESISTANCE to becomingmore connected, closer and MORE COMMITTED with YOU on a physical and emotional level.

Don’t let go of this opportunity to have LASTING CHANGE and IMPROVEMENT to the quality of your love life and all your relationships.

If you still haven’t read my Catch Him & Keep Him eBook, you need to do that NOW.

It’s a no-brainer and will quickly have you “in the know” on all kinds of stuff that used to drive you crazy trying to understand about men.

Things like:

-Why some men shy away from commitment, even if things are great… and what to do about it (page 241)

-How men approach “dating”, why it seems like some men want to casually date forever (page 94)

-When and how to have “the talk” with a man, and how to have him even more excited about your future afterwards (p. 247)

Make this the year you finally know what it’s like to have a fun, loving and secure relationship by discovering how to find the right man and make love last.

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I’ll talk to you again soon, and best of luck in life and love!

Your Friend,

Christian Carter

Does it seem to you that you frequently meet and get into relationships with men you THOUGHT were going to be right for you, only to discover many months down the road that they’re not, and it causes you a lot of pain and frustration?

A man will often be on his “best behavior” the first 6 months when you’re first dating. It’s often hard to “see” him for who he really is when you’re experiencing a lot of attraction and chemistry.

This is why it’s CRUCIAL for you to figure out early on, before you get too involved, whether or not he’s MATURE ENOUGH to have a good relationship with a woman, and whether he’s ready to be the kind of man you need him to be for you.

In my “Inside The Mind Of A Man” program, I reveal the 3 greatest fears most men have about relationships that will put ALL his actions in a new perspective for you.

I’ll also show you the 7 deadly signs of an IMMATURE MAN and the 4 key areas of development men go through in their lives, so you can know from date #1 whether or not he’s really as “together” as you think he is. It’s right here:

Inside The Mind Of A Man

Now, I’d like to answer a question that I hear all the time from women who are getting back out into the dating world after getting divorced or leaving a long-term relationship.

Maybe this is something you’ve been curious about, too.

You’ve met a man who’s over 40.

Let’s say he’s never been married.

He’s got a great career, is fairly successful, and has a lot going on in his life.

You find him very fascinating and attractive, and you think about how much you’d love to have a man like this in your life.

You date him a few times, and he seems like a great guy, but something feels a little “off” in the things he does and says (even though you tried to ignore it or deny it).

He seems a little defensive, a little reserved – specifically when it comes to letting you know how he feels or what he wants from a “relationship.”

He almost seems SCARED or turned off by the idea of anything long-term or “serious.”

He gives you the impression that he’s just into having fun, seeing you once in a while, but he’s not into anything more than that. He doesn’t say it directly, but you have a feeling this guy is just into playing the field.

There are the little clues.

He has dates with other “friends” and always seems to be busy every night of the week.

He never introduces you to his close friends or family, and when he does, you’re just “a friend.”

He likes to do things and hang out in places with a much younger crowd.

You really like this guy, but you know it’s probably hopeless. He is only interested in women to have fun with, and maybe even women much, much younger than you are.

And then there’s the man who WAS married before. Maybe he’s even got kids from his previous marriage or relationship.

He’s loving, responsible, and you sense that he could be a great long-term partner.

You have a great connection and you have a lot in common.

Then suddenly, (and particularly AFTER you’ve had an amazing and intimate time together) he pulls back a little.

He tells you he wants to “go slow” and “not rush into anything serious”, which is fine and you agree.

But then a little while later he completely withdraws and acts like he wants NOTHING to do with a serious relationship after all.

Ouch!

He acts very “into you” one minute, and very loving, then doesn’t call you for days, or acts distracted and distant. You’re confused and hurt, and you don’t know what to do next.

Maybe he gives you a “been-there-done-that” speech, or makes you feel like you’re the “clingy” one who wants so much more than he’s willing to offer.

He leads you to believe that he’s not interested in anything more than being a “good friend” because he’s done the marriage thing, and he’s not into that anymore.

You feel like he’s getting ahead of himself, so you try to let him know that you don’t mind taking it slow, but nothing helps.

You want to date a man who’s close to your age, but a man your age doesn’t seem to want anything real.

It’s like you can’t win!

Which leads you to ask yourself-

Do men over 40 just have more “baggage” when it comes to love and relationships?

Is it virtually impossible to meet a single or divorced man over 40 who wants to settle down with one woman, raise a family, have kids, and have a happy, committed relationship?

A lot of women write me and tell me that it’s their experience that men over 40 just aren’t available for a relationship anymore.

Either the men have been married and don’t want to marry again, or have never been married and don’t intend to in the future, or they’re just looking to have fun.

They seem to be carrying around a bunch of “baggage” from the past, and they’re afraid to have a committed relationship. They want to keep their “freedom.” Maybe they only want to date women half their age.

This is a fascinating phenomenon to me.

Not that men over 40 are being seen as having “baggage,” but that so many women are having this experience with these 40-plus year-old men.

What’s going on here?

And what can you do if you want to have a committed, long-term, quality relationship with a man over 40, but you keep having this negative experience?

I recently sat down with a very bright and insightful woman who is a relationship life coach for women, and I asked her this exact question.

I wanted to know what she had to say because she’s writing a book specifically for women to help them UNDERSTAND men better, as well as helping them select the RIGHT man for them.

Her name is Eve Sharon Hart, and she has a very interesting method for women to use to figure out if the man they’re interested in, dating, or married to is actually a GOOD GUY who is healthy for them and capable of making them happy…

Or, a total DRAIN on their emotional and psychological well being.

But first, here’s what Eve had to say when I asked her if she thought that men over 40 had more baggage:

“We all as human beings look at others according to what they can give us, or what we need from them.

If we push aside our own needs and look at the man as being simply human, we’ll realize we’re identical. We want love, but we’re afraid to take risks because we’ve been wounded.

We have all have baggage from relationships that have broken our heart, on some level. The more wounded we are, the more defensive we can become if we don’t heal those wounds.

If a man acts defensive and cold, and seems to be afraid of love or commitment, that COULD mean that he has all kinds of baggage from a prior relationship. He got hurt. He’s afraid of risking it all and getting hurt again.

If you look at his defenses, they look really annoying and harsh to you. What you may not realize is that you have your OWN set of harsh defenses that may not be as apparent to you.

Hey, don’t get the wrong idea.

You don’t want to get involved with a guy if he doesn’t want to get close to you. But you can have compassion for where he’s coming from.

If you look out there and you see all these men who want to run around and don’t want to be in a committed relationship, usually those men are afraid of falling in love and needing a woman.

It’s ironic, but statistics will show that when a man and a woman are in a long marriage together, and the woman dies, the man will die shortly thereafter.

It’s not true so much for women.

Whereas if the old man dies first, the woman is more resilient and goes on living for years thereafter.

Which shows that men are actually more vulnerable and more afraid to take a risk and be vulnerable and attached to a woman, because he literally fears that he might DIE without her!

If a man isn’t “ready” because he’s still dealing with the baggage from his past, it doesn’t mean that you should wait around for him to “get ready.”

But definitely have some understanding about WHY he’s afraid or why he’s resisting being in a committed relationship.”

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I agree with what Eve had to say about men over 40.

In my experience, men over 40 -just like many women over 40 – have experienced a lot of disappointment and pain in their love lives. In trying to defend themselves against more of that pain, some men may appear to have a lot of “issues” and be callous and selfish.

As humans, we have different ways of dealing with things from our past.

But I also know, (as does Eve) that there are many, many men over 40 who would love nothing more than to find a great woman, commit to her, have kids or help raise a family, and experience true and lasting love in their life.

The key is to RECOGNIZE a great man when you meet one, so you don’t waste your time with a man who may not be “ready” or willing to have a real relationship with you.

Let me tell you something.

Sometimes when you’re feeling that initial attraction, connection and “chemistry,” it’s really difficult to make rational and objective observations about the guy you’re with.

I call this the “Danger of a Connection” and I talk about it in my eBook.

I also think it’s important to understand the stages of maturity men go through in their lives.

It’s not chronological.

You can meet a man who’s 25 years old and already very mature and ready for a loving, committed relationship where BOTH his needs and his partners are important to him.

Or, you can meet a man who’s 45 and still just a “boy” in a lot of ways that affect how he is in a relationship.

If you know what stage of maturity your man is in, you can understand better where he’s coming from and what you can – OR CAN’T DO – to change the way he is in a relationship.

If you’ve ever experienced these with a man:

> He comes on strong at first, but then disappears

> He changes his mind about you in a moment, for apparently no reason

> He talks about wanting to travel and “explore” the world and live an adventurous life (often without you in it)

> He’s controlling and inflexible at times

Then you’ve been experiencing certain symptoms of a man’s maturity level, from a “boy” all the way to a mature and self-possessed “King.” In my program, “Inside The Mind Of A Man”, I explain in detail everything you need to look for when you meet a man to know whether he’s still a self-involved “boy” or whether he’s a purposeful and focused “king.”

I also help you easily and quickly recognize his maturity level by listening to how he talks about sex, what he thinks of his job, and what he does in his spare time.

Why is all this important?

So that you can tell whether or not a man is potentially RIGHT for you early on. This way, you won’t waste many months or years trying to “change” him into something he’s not.

There are 3 profound truths about relationships:

1. The man you CHOOSE is the one you GET.

2. YOU are ultimately responsible for your own love life and selecting the right man

3. You can’t change a man, “make” a man become mature or help him work on his issues. He has to do that in his own way, based on his own internal motivations.

This is why I am going to make an important suggestion and help you by giving you powerful tools for choosing and understanding a man.

If you’re ready to learn what makes a GOOD MAN and what qualities and personality traits signal a mature, “together” man so that you don’t have to wonder if he’s going to be right for you for the long-term.

Then I recommend you let me send you a copy of my Inside The Mind Of A Man program.

You can try this program for yourself for a full month before I ask you to pay anything.

If you’re ready to stop meeting “boys,” jerks and players, and you want to finally be able to say “YES!” to the right man for a change, then you need to get Inside The Mind Of A Man CD or DVD program.

I’ll talk to you again soon, and best of luck in Life and Love.

Your Friend,

Christian Carter

P.S. You may not want to hear this, but I’m going to say it anyway.

If you truly understand men – and that includes how they think and feel in relationships, what their “issues” are, what they love about women and what they can’t run away from fast enough…

Then you wouldn’t be feeling frustrated or sitting around wondering “why did he say that?” or “why is he acting that way?”

It’s time for you to change your life and change the way you see and experience men and relationships.

Once you get “Inside The Mind Of A Man”, you’ll be amazed at how knowing the TRUTH about men and why they do what they do can be the difference between a lifetime of happiness and fulfillment, and a lifetime of disappointments.

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What do men want?

What’s wrong with men when it comes to long-term committed relationships? Do they not want them? Or are they afraid?

How can I talk to my boyfriend about problems, or about our relationship?

Why do men cheat?

What does he really mean when he says “I love you but I’m not ‘IN LOVE’ with you”?

And all the other big questions.

My Inside The Mind Of A Man” program will give you the answers you need about guys, why it can be so hard to make a relationship work but doesn’t have to be… and what men really and truly want with a woman.

What you’re about to discover about men from this post might be the most important two or three minutes you ever spend on your love life.

Let’s get right to it…

Imagine knowing why your man does the things he does with you that hurt or confuse you.

Imagine knowing what your boyfriend REALLY means when he says he loves you, but he’s not feeling “IN LOVE” with you.

Imagine knowing what great, mature men really look and act like, and attracting only them.

Imagine knowing how to talk to a man so he opens up and embraces your feelings, instead of shutting down and subtly punishing you for having them.

And finally…

Imagine never having to go through all the uncertainty and the stress of trying to make your relationship work and last, and not knowing if it will work out.

I want to share something special about men with you right now that I’ve never shared before.

Something that could start making it EASY for you to have the kind of relationship you really want with your boyfriend.

It’s on the topic I’ve had literally thousands of women writing in to ask about-

What are men thinking in relationships?

I answer this question in my unique and comprehensive CD/DVD program,  ”Inside The Mind Of A Man.”

I’ve also answered the questions:

What do men want?

How can a woman have a great relationship without having to try and be the one to hold it all together?

Do all men cheat? And why do men cheat?

How can you talk to a man about your feelings and your relationships? And how do you get him to really listen?

And lots of the other big questions you have about men.

This is the program I worked on for years, pulling together all the big questions about men that women have, and finding the REAL ANSWERS.

I’m excited to say that I’ve honestly “cracked the code” about what men think and want when it comes to love and a relationship.

And I’m not just saying that because it sounds good.

I’m telling you that because what’s in this program about men and how they think and act in relationships (the good and the bad) has already changed the lives and relationships of hundreds and hundreds of women who own it.

And now I want you to have the same experience:

To stop worrying and wondering if you’ll ever have any clue what men or thinking, or what they’re going to do next…

And instead to start KNOWING what’s going on, and feeling confident and comfortable with your man… while he feels incredibly ATTRACTED and enchanted by you because you make him feel the way no other woman has ever made him feel.

I want you to know what this feels like.

I want you to have the confidence and love in your life that only comes from knowing what’s going on with the man in your life.

If you keep on guessing and finding out that you don’t really understand what’s going on with your guy before it’s too late… you’re going to keep having the same bad situations and fall-outs with men that you’ve been having.

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DO MEN HAVE TO MAKE SO MANY MISTAKES WITH YOU?

Oh, so I don’t forget-

There’s something else just as important about men and the mistakes they often make with women and relationships that I need to talk about with you…

Tell me if you’ve ever asked yourself any of the following questions:

-Why is it that men want a relationship one day, then fear for their “freedom” the next?

-Why does it seem so hard when I meet a man to tell a great mature guy, from just another flaky one?

-How come I attract all the wrong men?

-Based on how men act, do men even want or care about relationships?

-Do all men cheat?

-What do men really want or need to be loving and loyal and make a happy relationship with me?

-What are men thinking!?

If you’ve ever asked yourself any of these questions, then my program “Inside The Mind Of A Man” is for you.

It’s going to not only answer all of these questions, and show you the truth about men…

But it’s also going to show you the real steps for being the kind of woman, and having the kind of relationship, that a man will literally hold on to and cherish with all his heart and soul.

Too many women have found that men can often be careless and lazy in relationships.

WRONG.

This is absolutely NOT TRUE if you trigger the right feelings in your boyfriend in your relationship.

Some men feel so strongly that they’d do ANYTHING to protect her and their relationship.

And I mean ANYTHING.

He’d risk heartbreak.

He’d spend all his money if he had to.

He’d travel around the world just to be with you for a night.

He’d even risk physical harm or DEATH just to keep you safe and protected.

A man can and will become DEEPLY COMMITTED to his girlfriend and their relationship… if he is feeling the right things with her.

If he knows she’s worth it.

And therein lies the secret -

How do you make a man feel so in love and so deeply connected and committed to you that he’d do anything for you, and never think twice about leaving or giving up?

This is the exact question that my “Inside The Mind Of A Man” program answers.

I’ve created a program that is all about what men really want, what they think and feel in relationships… and what it is about a woman that can take even the most confirmed bachelor and turn him into a romantic “fool” for his woman for the rest of his life.

In this amazing program I show you:

-The 3 Greatest Fears men have about relationships. Once you know these it will put ALL his confusing behavior in a new perspective for you

-What you need to know about why men cheat, even when they’re in love with a woman

-The 6 Ways To AFFAIR-PROOF your relationship, some of which are easy-to-apply “no-brainers,” and a couple that are sure to surprise you

-How you might literally be “talking your relationship to death” – and better ways to communicate that will enable him to “step up” and want to connect and commit with you

-The 3 Archetypes of how mature men are in relationships, how to know which one your man is, and how to grow your relationship with him

-The 4 Areas Of Masculine Maturity to look for in any man that are easy to identify once you know how to look for them

-The 2 Types of Male Commitment, and the 4 specific “qualifiers” for a man when he’s considering making a “Forever Commitment” to you

-The 8 Attraction Killers for a Man and why you should avoid these or else you risk your man wanting to leave for good

-What most women aren’t talking about with men and sexuality, and how this relates to cheating and infidelity

-The importance of keeping your “sexual polarity” alive in order to keep the attraction and sexual tension alive throughout your relationship… and simple ways to do this that will re-ignite the passion in your relationship

-The 7 Things Men REALLY Want From A Woman … if you’re fulfilling these needs from a man he will never think to leave you – period

-And lots more…

Now you have a decision to make.

You can go on struggling with men and relationships not knowing what’s really going on, and repeat a lot of the same patterns.

Or…

You can get to the truth of what a guy wants, why he does the things he does… and you’ll start experiencing how easy it can be to have the kind of relationship you really want, once you know what it takes.

It’s your decision.

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I’ll talk to you again soon, and best of luck in Life and Love.

Your Friend,

Christian Carter

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Imagine your man constantly looking and feeling INSPIRED by you and your relationship, instead of showing you that he’s drained, doubting, or losing interest in things with you?

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Maybe this is something you’ve been curious about, too.

You’ve met a man who’s over 40.

Let’s say he’s never been married.

He’s got a great career, is fairly successful, and has a lot going on in his life.

You find him very fascinating and attractive, and you think about how much you’d love to have a man like this in your life.

You date him a few times, and he seems like a great guy, but something feels a little “off” in the things he does and says (even though you tried to ignore it or deny it).

He seems a little defensive, a little reserved – specifically when it comes to letting you know how he feels or what he wants from a “relationship.”

He almost seems SCARED or turned off by the idea of anything long-term or “serious.”

He gives you the impression that he’s just into having fun, seeing you once in a while, but he’s not into anything more than that. He doesn’t say it directly, but you have a feeling this guy is just into playing the field.

There are the little clues.

He has dates with other “friends” and always seems to be busy every night of the week.

He never introduces you to his close friends or family, and when he does, you’re just “a friend.”

He likes to do things and hang out in places with a much younger crowd.

You really like this guy, but you know it’s probably hopeless. He is only interested in women to have fun with, and maybe even women much, much younger than you are.

And then there’s the man who WAS married before. Maybe he’s even got kids from his previous marriage or relationship.

He’s loving, responsible, and you sense that he could be a great long-term partner.

You have a great connection and you have a lot in common.

Then suddenly, (and particularly AFTER you’ve had an amazing and intimate time together) he pulls back a little.

He tells you he wants to “go slow” and “not rush into anything serious”, which is fine and you agree.

But then a little while later he completely withdraws and acts like he wants NOTHING to do with a serious relationship after all.

Ouch!

He acts very “into you” one minute, and very loving, then doesn’t call you for days, or acts distracted and distant. You’re confused and hurt, and you don’t know what to do next.

Maybe he gives you a “been-there-done-that” speech, or makes you feel like you’re the “clingy” one who wants so much more than he’s willing to offer.

He leads you to believe that he’s not interested in anything more than being a “good friend” because he’s done the marriage thing, and he’s not into that anymore.

Or he’s never been married, and isn’t really interested in getting married at this point in his life.

You feel like he’s getting ahead of himself, so you try to let him know that you don’t mind taking it slow, but nothing helps.

You want to date a man who’s close to your age, but a man your age doesn’t seem to want anything real.

It’s like you can’t win!

Which leads you to ask yourself:

Do older, successful men just have more “baggage” when it comes to love and relationships?

Or are they commitment-phobes?

Is it virtually impossible to meet a single or divorced man over 40 who wants to settle down with one woman, raise a family, have kids, and have a happy, committed relationship?

A lot of women write and tell me that it’s their experience that men over 40 just aren’t available for a relationship anymore.

Either the men have been married and don’t want to marry again, or have never been married and don’t intend to in the future, or they’re just looking to have fun.

They seem to be carrying around a bunch of “baggage” from the past, and they’re afraid to have a committed relationship. They want to keep their “freedom.” Maybe they only want to date women half their age.

This is a fascinating phenomenon to me.

Not that men over 40 are being seen as having “baggage,” but that so many women are having this experience with these men who are 40-plus years old.

What’s going on here?

And what can you do if you want to have a committed, long-term, quality relationship with a man over 40, but you keep having this negative experience?

To answer, I want to point out that first and foremost, we all as human beings look at others according to what they can give us, or what we need from them.

If you push aside your own needs and look at the man as being simply HUMAN, you’ll realize you’re identical.

You want love, but you’re afraid to take risks because you’ve been wounded.

He may feel the same way.

And hey – we all have baggage from relationships that have broken our hearts, on some level.

The more wounded we are, the more defensive we can become if we don’t heal those wounds.

If a man acts defensive and cold, and seems to be afraid of love or commitment, that COULD mean that he has all kinds of baggage from a prior relationship. He got hurt. He’s afraid of risking it all and getting hurt again.

If you look at his defenses, they look really annoying and harsh to you. What you may not realize is that you have your OWN set of harsh defenses that may not be as apparent to you.

Hey, don’t get the wrong idea.

You don’t want to get involved with a guy if he doesn’t want to get close to you. But you can have a bit of COMPASSION for where he’s coming from.

If you look out there and you see all these men who want to run around and don’t want to be in a committed relationship, usually those men are afraid of falling in love and needing a woman.

It’s ironic, but statistics will show that when a man and a woman are in a long marriage together, and the woman dies, the man will die shortly thereafter.

It’s not true so much for women.

If the old man dies first, the woman is more resilient and goes on living for years afterward.

Which shows that men are actually more vulnerable and more afraid to take a risk and be vulnerable and attached to a woman, because he literally fears that he might DIE without her!

If a man isn’t “ready” because he’s still dealing with the baggage from his past, it doesn’t mean that you should wait around for him to “get ready.”

But definitely have some understanding about WHY he’s afraid or why he’s resisting being in a committed relationship.”

In my experience, men over 40 – just like many women over 40 – have experienced a lot of disappointment and pain in their love lives. In trying to defend themselves against more of that pain, some men may appear to have a lot of “issues” and be callous and selfish.

As humans, we have different ways of dealing with things from our past.

But I also know that there are many, many men over 40 who would love nothing more than to find a great woman, commit to her, have kids or help raise a family, and experience true and lasting love in their life.

The key is to RECOGNIZE a great man when you meet one, so you don’t waste your time with a man who may not be “ready” or willing to have a real relationship with you.

For example, I think it’s important to understand the stages of MATURITY men go through in their lives.

It’s not chronological.

You can meet a man who’s 25 years old and already very mature and ready for a loving, committed relationship where BOTH his needs and his partner’s needs are important to him.

Or, you can meet a man who’s 45 and still just a “boy” in a lot of ways that affect how he is in a relationship.

If you know what stage of maturity your man is in, you can better understand where he’s coming from and what you can – OR CAN’T DO – to change the way he is in a relationship.

If you’ve ever experienced these with a man:

> He comes on strong at first, but then disappears

> He changes his mind about you in a moment, for apparently no reason

> He talks about wanting to travel and “explore” the world and live an adventurous life (often without you in it)

> He’s controlling and inflexible at times

Then you’ve been experiencing certain symptoms of a man’s maturity level, from a “boy” all the way to a mature and self-possessed “King.”

In my program, Inside The Mind Of A Man, I explain in detail everything you need to look for when you meet a man to know whether he’s still a self-involved “boy” or whether he’s a purposeful and focused “king.”

I also help you easily and quickly recognize his maturity level by listening to how he talks about sex, what he thinks of his job, and what he does in his spare time.

Why is all this important?

So that you can tell whether or not a man is potentially RIGHT for you early on. This way, you won’t waste many months or years trying to “change” him into something he’s not.

There are 3 profound truths about relationships:

1. The man you CHOOSE is the one you GET.

2. YOU are ultimately responsible for your own love life and selecting the right man.

3. You can’t change a man, “make” a man become mature or help him work on his issues. He has to do that in his own way, based on his own internal motivations.

This is why I am going to make an important suggestion and help you by giving you powerful tools for choosing and understanding a man.

If you’re ready to learn what makes a GOOD MAN and what qualities and personality traits signal a mature, “together” man so that you don’t have to wonder if he’s going to be right for you for the long-term…

Then I recommend you let me send you a copy of my “Inside The Mind Of A Man” program.

You can try this program for yourself for a full month before I ask you to pay anything.

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If you’re ready to stop meeting “boys,” jerks and players, and you want to finally be able to say “YES!” to the right man for a change, then you need to get “Inside The Mind Of A Man” CD or DVD program.

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I’d love to hear how my “Inside The Mind Of A Man” program changes the way you understand and relate to ANY man.

I’ll talk to you again soon, and best of luck in Life and Love.

Your Friend,

Christian Carter

P.S. You may not want to hear this, but I’m going to say it anyway.

If you truly understand men – and that includes how they think and feel in relationships, what their “issues” are, what they love about women and what they can’t run away from fast enough…

Then you wouldn’t be feeling frustrated or sitting around wondering “why did he say that?” or “why is he acting that way?”

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Maybe you were dating for a while and you thought things were pretty amazing, but he wasn’t so sure.

Or maybe YOU were the one who decided it was better to end things. But now you find yourself wondering if that was really the right move, because you’re having trouble moving on.

Are you’re still trying to figure out how to get him back, or show him that you’re really “the one” for him?

You text him, or call him, and maybe agreed to “still be friends” and hang out once in a while.

But nothing seems to make you feel better. In fact, the more you talk to him or see him, the WORSE you feel.

Still, you can’t imagine not talking to him at all because you still have some very intense feelings that just aren’t going away anytime soon.

In any case, you’re feeling pretty “stuck” right now, and you don’t know what to do about it.

If that’s true, then stick around and keep reading, because in this email I’m going to give you 3 powerful remedies for getting past a break-up and getting your love life BACK ON TRACK.

These remedies will fast-track you through feeling better and getting past all the confusion of your break-up.

Take a few minutes to read and really THINK about each step, and then commit to follow through on each one.

You’ll be amazed at how much better you’ll feel.

Here they are:

STEP #1: RECOGNIZE WHAT WASN’T WORKING FOR YOU

So let me ask you.

Are you spending a lot of time thinking about all the ways you screwed up in your relationship with your boyfriend, but all the ways he was great?

Do you keep rehashing an argument, wondering if things would have been better if you said or did something different from the beginning with him, feeling guilty or bad that things moved “too fast” between you (and it scared him away)?

Do you daydream about all the ways he was special, and how you’ll never find anyone who understands you quite the same way he did?

Romanticizing or re-hashing the past is a pretty common thing many women do when they break up with a man.

Big mistake.

Don’t do this to yourself.

This is 100% sure to only make you feel MORE AWFUL, not to mention that it keeps you from focusing on what’s most important to you right now.

And that is learning how to get what you want and how to have the kind of relationship you deserve in the FUTURE.

When you focus on your ex too much, and you spend your time “pining away” for a relationship, you miss out on a very important lesson.

You stop seeing all the ways that the relationship made life a ROLLER COASTER for you.

You don’t realize all the ways he wasn’t right for you or made you feel less than your true self.

You don’t learn what it is your really want and need from a relationship in order to be fulfilled.

Let’s face it, you were led down some very negative emotional paths by this guy, weren’t you?

So, instead of thinking only of the “good times” and how much you miss him, consider all the things he did and said that made you feel insecure, anxious or frustrated – feelings that one way or another probably contributed to the end of the relationship.

What can you learn about yourself, love and men from the things that drove you two apart, so that you’re sure to have a more intimate, loving and evolved relationship next time around.

Don’t repeat those same mistakes in your next relationship.

If you’re starting to realize now that even if you love a man, you don’t really UNDERSTAND what it is that makes a relationship actually WORK and last with one…

Or you don’t understand what you’re doing in the relationship that’s causing him to withdraw or lose interest in you, you’ll just keep bringing those same issues into future relationships.

Then I want to show you:

– What defines a “good”, MATURE guy to begin with, so you don’t keep picking men who just aren’t ready for a real relationship in the first place

– What makes a man feel inspired to be completely devoted to you from day 1, both emotionally and
sexually

– What a man needs in order to feel that he’s in love with you and that a relationship is “working” in his mind

Go here to know what a truly honest and mature looks and sounds like, what inspires him to see you as the only woman for him. and how to make it effortless to want to be with you FOREVER:

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STEP #2: STOP “LOSING YOURSELF” IN YOUR RELATIONSHIPS

You probably gave up a lot to be with your guy.

You gave up time with your friends and family.

You gave up doing things you USED to love doing – things like reading, exercising, going on hikes, visiting art shows,whatever.

You gave it up in order to spend time with him.

You gave it up to make him feel comfortable.

You gave things up because the RELATIONSHIP seemed important, and you wanted it to work.

Sure, I get it. Many women feel like they need to give things up to keep a man happy and attracted.

But if you’re using that excuse to:

-Stay emotionally attached to him, because you feel that you can’t “get over him” easily since you gave up so much

-Feel too depressed to go out with your friends or get back to the things that used to make you feel alive and happy

-Refuse to “get back out there” and date someone new.

Then guess what you’re doing?

Yep, that’s right.

You’re STILL giving up more of you and your happiness for his sake. Even though he’s out of your life.

Have weeks, months or years have gone by, and you’re still in the same “sacrificing” place, putting your life on hold instead of realizing your own needs?

Snap out of it!

You are actually continuing the very thing that helped break your relationship apart, and made you feel unhappy and unfulfilled.

Stop the cycle of only finding that your relationships are about you and your partner turning on each other and breaking each other down.

It’s time you learned how to RECEIVE and to get the true love and devotion you deserve from a man.

And YES, by you changing the way YOU go about your relationship you can make this change happen in the man you’re with, or in the kind of man you attract.

Don’t wait for the right relationship to “happen to you”, when you have the power to make it happen for yourself and feel 100% confident about where your love and relationship is headed.

Let what you do from here forward in relationships start giving back and feeding you inside and out.

STEP #3: BE READY FOR LOVE WHEN IT FINDS YOU

When you end a relationship that felt like it had a lot of “promise” and connection, it’s hard to believe you’ll ever find love again, at least in quite the same way.

You might even vow not to date again for a LONG TIME, because you just don’t want to get hurt again.

It can feel pretty safe to live inside the little “bubble” you make for yourself, just working on your career, spending time with friends, doing things that make you happy.

What do you need a man for anyway? (You think.)

You put yourself and your love life in a “holding pattern” because you don’t want to let another man in or get close.

You don’t want to be vulnerable. What’s the point, if all that’s going to happen is that you’ll end up feeling more of the same, bad feelings you’re trying to get over now – right?

Actually, no.

I don’t agree.

Because if you’re honest with yourself, you’ll realize that you don’t want to shut yourself off from what can be the opportunity for an amazing, life-long experience.

That one great guy you’re meant to be with could be out there right now. Unless you create the “space” for him in your life, you won’t be ready for love when it finds you.

Ok, you may feel pretty in-control and safe right now, but are you LIVING? If you’re not taking a risk, are you risking never feeling the LOVE and connection that could transform your life someday?

Nod your head right now if you feel even a GLIMMER of truth in what I’m saying.

And here’s another common thing I hear from women who aren’t ready to date again.

“There’s no good men out there for me anyway. The ones I’m attracted to aren’t attracted to me. Or they’re taken.”

I can see how you may feel that way if you’re not sure how you’re going to attract the RIGHT guy, or the type of guy you’re into.

Plus, your recent experience with men has been, well, less than great.

Like when a guy comes on strong at first, then suddenly tells you he’s “not ready” for anything serious, or isn’t “into” monogamy or commitment.

No wonder you’d rather stick a twig in your eye than date again anytime soon.

Yeah, I get it.

Alright, but what if I told you that you that I can help you learn exactly how to identify and ATTRACT the right guy, and give you an “edge” that you’ve never had before in dating?

Would it change the way you think and feel about men if you knew exactly how to get a man close and connected to you and KEEP him wanting you and ONLY you, without games, manipulation or “tricks” of any kind whatsoever?

You CAN experience the kind of LOVE you’ve always wanted in your life, regardless of what kinds of bad experiences you’ve had before.

In my Natural and Lasting Attraction program, I’ll show you how to make a man realize you’re a “catch” within the first few MINUTES of a conversation.

You’ll attract quality men because they will “sense” that you are the type of woman they’re looking to have something special with.

You’ll learn exactly what kinds of words and behavior magnetically draw a man to you, and what repels a man from EVER wanting anything past the “physical” with you, so you can avoid making those mistakes and losing a guy after getting intimate with him.

Here’s the truth about attraction: It’s not about being a great beauty, or about seducing a man into having feelings for you.

Actually, it’s about something deeper and morelong-lasting. And the best part is, that once a man feels THIS level of attraction for you, almost nothing can keep him away from wanting to be with you.

Read more about it right here:

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I hope you take these steps and find the love you really deserve.

And let me know how it goes.

Meanwhile, best of luck in Life and Love.

Your Friend,

Christian Carter

Do you feel discouraged by dating because the men you meet actually LIE about what they want from dating, what their background is, what they do for a living and sometimes even lie about whether or not they’re AVAILABLE?

To where sometimes you end up involved with a man who is already seriously dating another woman, or
worse – is married?

Not good.

If these are situations that you run into a little more than you’d like, then keep reading because in this e-mail I’m about to reveal the “MAGIC ATTITUDE” that actually inspires a man to be completely up front and honest with you about such things as:

• If he’s looking for something serious or casual
• If he’s seeing other people
• If you’re the kind of woman he’s drawn to
• If he’s ready to “settle down” or not

As a matter of fact, with this magic attitude, you may be able to get a man to reveal a lot more than he would ever reveal on his own, without prompting, and the ADDED BENEFIT of this is that he will feel more “connected” with you because he’ll feel he can tell you just about ANYTHING.

He’ll feel more attracted to you because he’ll feel more understood and appreciated by you.

This is why I call this attitude “magic.” It not only inspires honesty from a man, it makes him feel more connected to you at the same time.

Nice.

If you’re single and dating right now, this mindset or attitude can actually help you qualify the right man and avoid Mr. Wrong as early in the dating process as possible, perhaps even before you meet in person for the first time (if you’re online dating).

And if you’re in a relationship, it can help you get to the bottom of what he’s thinking and feeling, so you can know why he’s withdrawing, if he’s open to taking things to the “next level,” or what’s holding him back from fully committing to you.

But first, there’s a fundamental question that seems to bother a lot of women.

Why does this even have to be an issue, anyway?

Why can’t a guy just be up-front and honest with you?

Why, for example, is it so hard for a man to tell you why he’s not calling as often or why he stopped asking you out, especially when he seemed so “into you” in the beginning?

You go out on a few dates with a guy, and you think everything is going great.then he stops calling. He doesn’t respond to your emails or texts. It’s like he’s dropped off the face of the earth and YOU DON’T KNOW WHY.

It’s not that you are so particularly “heartbroken” about this. Maybe you even realized that he was a nice enough guy, but you didn’t know him well enough yet to fall in love or anything.

But still.you wish you could at least hear WHY he stopped calling, stopped asking you out, stopped responding to your messages.

You just wish he could be HONEST with you.

It’s no big deal – you can handle it. Right?

Hmmm.perhaps, but that’s not how HE may be seeing things.

WHY MEN WILL LIE TO YOU

Imagine this scenario:

You’re on a first or second date with a man and it’s going really well.

You’re laughing, you’re having a great conversation and you seem to have a lot in common, it’s almost scary how similar your attitudes are about certain things.

You feel an intense “chemistry” between you. He’s staring at you with that “look” that tells you he
is very attracted to you.

He even talks about places he’d like to take you to someday.

You are almost positive that this is the beginning of something meaningful with this guy.

But a day or two goes by after the date and you don’t hear from him. Then a week, then two weeks.

You send him a message, “Haven’t heard from you in a while. How are you?”

But he doesn’t respond. You never hear from him again. You beat yourself up, analyzing everything you did and said on the dates to see if maybe you accidentally put him off.

Months later, you find out the truth from someone else. During the time he was dating you, he was also dating another woman, and was now getting more “serious” with her.

You feel confused and disappointed, and a bit annoyed that he didn’t just tell you the TRUTH about what was going on.

Why didn’t he tell you the truth – either before, during or after he went on a date with you?

The truth would have been a whole lot better than days or weeks WONDERING and beating yourself up over nothing. Right? Of course it would.

So why does a man lie to you? Why does he avoid telling you the truth about a situation?

The answer is simple.

A man will lie to you because he hates confrontation.

He FEARS your emotional response. He fears your rejection of him. He fears that HE won’t be able to “handle” your response.

He’s imagining that you’re going to cry, scream, be disappointed, argue, or complain. He fears being put on the spot or “attacked.”

Understand – I’m not saying you would do any of those things.

I’m just telling you what that guy – who maybe doesn’t know you all that well yet – is thinking.

You may be a cool cucumber. Totally able to maturely handle whatever he tells you.

It doesn’t matter – somewhere in his past, there was a woman or two who did in fact overwhelm him with her emotional response, and it FREAKED him out.

He could have just said, “Hey, I am dating another woman right now, and I’ve decided that I want to get to know her better. I think you’re great, but I also feel that I want to give this other situation a chance.”

Instead, he tells you NOTHING–he avoids you, stops calling, and hopes that he won’t ever have to face your criticism and judgment.

It’s not a particularly mature and considerate thing to do, but that’s the reality of how it is with a lot of men. Not all, but definitely a lot.

They don’t even realize in the moment how YOU’RE feeling.all they know is that they have to do what they must do to avoid that confrontation they fear.

Despite this, there’s reason to be hopeful that you can create the space for a man to be honest with you with really no effort.

And here’s something else you need to know.there’s a “window of opportunity” for getting the most honesty right away, so you can screen out the men who are Mr. Wrong from the start.

Be sure to know when that window is open for you, and take advantage of it.

WHY FIRST AND SECOND DATES ARE CRITICAL TIMES FOR HONESTY

This is an interesting fact: a man will be MOST HONEST with you when he is NOT YET emotionally engaged or invested in your relationship yet.

In other words, you can probably learn a LOT about a man on a first or second date, when you’re just getting to know each other.

This is a time when he’s not so afraid to share, because he’s not afraid of disappointing you (since you don’t know each other well enough yet).

This is when you should be listening VERY closely to what   man tells you.

This is when he’ll tell you things like, “I’m just looking for something casual and fun right now. I just got out of a long-term relationship and not into getting into the same situation anytime soon.”

Or he might laugh and say, “I’m a lifetime bachelor. Settling down doesn’t interest me in the least.”

Or, he might reveal some other dark secret, “My ex was an unhappy woman. Always complaining about one
thing or another about me.”

And that’s when you need to HEAR what he’s saying.

And take him seriously. Know what you’re in for.

The man you choose is the man you get.

THE ATTITUDE & THE THREE MAGIC WORDS THAT INSPIRE HONESTY

When you want to inspire honesty in a man, so that you let him know that he is “safe” when he shares with you, you have to have what I call the “Anything is OK” attitude.

Now, this doesn’t mean that anything is OK for a man to do, and that you’re supposed to accept anything he does and have no boundaries or limitations.

The attitude is more like you thinking, “Anything is OK for you to share with me, but I know what I will and will not tolerate in my life, and what I want. But you can TELL ME anything. I can handle it.”

How do you communicate this attitude?

Easy.

With the three little words: “I’m just curious.”

It can go like this.

“Are you seeing anyone right now? I’m just curious?”

“What kind of relationship are you looking for? I’m just curious.”

“What kind of woman do you most admire? I’m just curious.”

“Where do you see yourself in the next five years? I’m just curious.”

Using these three words not only lets a man know that you’ll be OK with whatever he tells you, but that you’re not needy or too aggressive, and he can feel safe telling you just about anything.

Just don’t stare at him, holding your breath, waiting for his answer. That defeats the purpose – BIG TIME.

Here’s the deal.It’s not that a man is afraid of certain questions. It’s just that the WAY a woman asks those questions makes him feel strange.

If a woman warns, “You’re not seeing anyone else right now, are you?” It almost automatically invites DISHONESTY in a man.

If you want to inspire sincerity in a man, you must have the “Anything is OK” attitude and use those 3 magic words to get the most honest response possible.

That way, you won’t waste a lot of time going on dates with “unavailable” men, men who have skeletons in their closet, aren’t over their ex, or are actually interested in a different kind of relationship than you are.

Wouldn’t you benefit from knowing exactly how to use the “anything is OK” attitude to screen out the right man from all the wrong ones? How to know if the man you’re with now is really being honest with you about where the relationship is headed? Or if he’s lying?

If you have a handle on dating and flirting, but you are often confused by what men do and say, then there’s something I want to ask you.

Wouldn’t you love to have more insight into why men do the things they do, so that you could feel like you UNDERSTAND men better (and therefore have better relationships)?

Over the years, women have asked me the same kind of questions over and over about men, dating and relationships:

– What makes a man “fall” for a woman? What’s the secret?

– How can I get him to really listen to me and get me?

– Why do men cheat? Do all men want to cheat?

– How can I affair-proof my relationship?

– What do men look for in a woman before they decide she’s “The One”?

– Do men go through stages of maturity, and if so, what stage is my man in?

I couldn’t let these questions go unanswered.

So I actually put together an entire and unique program that answers ALL of these questions, including more in-depth insights into why men lie, why men SEEM to be more “cold” and “in control” emotionally, and how knowing your man inside and out can bring you closer than you ever thought possible.

In my Inside the Mind of a Man program, I help you understand what a man’s words and actions really mean, and I bust the common “man myths” that are keeping you from truly and completely connecting with a man.

To learn instantly what the 3 most common and destructive myths are about men that are holding you back from love, and can tear apart an otherwise great relationships, click here and read this:

Inside the Mind of a Man

I know that the easiest way to help you find and connect with a GOOD man is to teach you the skills to get the most honesty possible from a man, and then know what it takes for a man to feel deeply in love with you.

I’ll talk to you again soon, and best of luck in Life and Love,

Your Friend,

Christian Carter

P.S. Do you ever wonder why a man will spend time “zoning” out in front of the TV or totally absorbed in sports, or tinkering in the garage or browsing the Internet? Or why he hates to “talk” about the relationship?

Men have different needs when it comes to relaxing and unwinding. They also have different needs when it comes to intimacy and getting physical.

You probably know what those are. Or do you? Find out by reading about the 3 Man Myths and the truth behind what men REALLY need and want:

Inside the Mind of a Man