Comments on: Are Older, Successful Men Scared Of Commitment? http://www.datingquestionsforwomen.com/are-older-successful-men-scared-of-commitment Dating Secret by Christian Carter and more. Wed, 08 Feb 2012 02:12:49 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: BrknHearted http://www.datingquestionsforwomen.com/are-older-successful-men-scared-of-commitment/comment-page-1#comment-2232 BrknHearted Tue, 19 Jul 2011 04:15:23 +0000 http://www.datingquestionsforwomen.com/?p=152#comment-2232 Not all women are the same men need to understand that just as not all men are the same! I wear my heart on my sleave and I love like I have never been loved before even after being hurt. Yes men are afraid to commit after being hurt and its those types of women that ruin it for women like me who want to be loved. Money doesnt make the world go round and personally its all materialistic. I fell in Love with an older man who suddenly became to close and decided to leave me because he was afraid I would leave him when he got older (he is 21 yrs older) he then bounced into bed with another woman not even a week later because he didnt want to be alone, hence once again I was hurt but not because of my own doing but because some women DO NOT know how to treat a man and it leaves them ruined for the one that comes along! ME! Not all women are the same men need to understand that just as not all men are the same! I wear my heart on my sleave and I love like I have never been loved before even after being hurt. Yes men are afraid to commit after being hurt and its those types of women that ruin it for women like me who want to be loved. Money doesnt make the world go round and personally its all materialistic. I fell in Love with an older man who suddenly became to close and decided to leave me because he was afraid I would leave him when he got older (he is 21 yrs older) he then bounced into bed with another woman not even a week later because he didnt want to be alone, hence once again I was hurt but not because of my own doing but because some women DO NOT know how to treat a man and it leaves them ruined for the one that comes along! ME!

]]> By: Tammy http://www.datingquestionsforwomen.com/are-older-successful-men-scared-of-commitment/comment-page-1#comment-2228 Tammy Wed, 13 Jul 2011 00:17:58 +0000 http://www.datingquestionsforwomen.com/?p=152#comment-2228 I don't know about this crowd. But many a women these days have great careers. They also accumulated alot during their 1st long marriage. Their children are grown. We are only looking for Honesty, Integrity, and Sincerity. Already have all the tangibles I need thank you. Warm body that stays all night only requirement. I don’t know about this crowd. But many a women these days have great careers. They also accumulated alot during their 1st long marriage. Their children are grown. We are only looking for Honesty, Integrity, and Sincerity. Already have all the tangibles I need thank you. Warm body that stays all night only requirement.

]]> By: yeah yeah http://www.datingquestionsforwomen.com/are-older-successful-men-scared-of-commitment/comment-page-1#comment-2198 yeah yeah Sat, 14 May 2011 03:03:51 +0000 http://www.datingquestionsforwomen.com/?p=152#comment-2198 I'm over 40 and male. I've noticed something...when I get into a conversation with a female that indicates I'm interested...I notice that one the first questions she asks me is about my income. Would you ladies like to explain why you do that? I’m over 40 and male. I’ve noticed something…when I get into a conversation with a female that indicates I’m interested…I notice that one the first questions she asks me is about my income. Would you ladies like to explain why you do that?

]]> By: Antoinette http://www.datingquestionsforwomen.com/are-older-successful-men-scared-of-commitment/comment-page-1#comment-2180 Antoinette Sat, 09 Apr 2011 14:10:27 +0000 http://www.datingquestionsforwomen.com/?p=152#comment-2180 Humm.... I think what I'm hearing from the male section is that women are gold diggers, users and takers... Being a wife to a man who loved his money more than his family and his drink more than his money, I've met more men who haven't made it to a maturity level in life and actually want to be good husbands. They seem to be more into their own egos and what makes them feel satisfied. At 54, I would love to find a great guy who wants the love and respect I want to give and receive... I hear an awful lot of men talk about how they have been victimized, but stats show that men who've been divorced usually remarry within a two year period and women within 5 years, due to trust issues from what I've read. The divorce rate is higher among second marriages than in first marriages and women my age have 13% chance of remarriage.... So after dating a lot of different men over a 9 year period, ( I waited a good 3 years to date after my divorce as I wanted to be emotionally ready) I'm still single. I've made good friends and one of my best friends is a really great older man who has been a strong mentor and father to me. From his perspective he's not impressed with the things I tell him about the men I meet. My personal opinion is that men who've gone through a divorce don't work on forgiving their ex spouse or themselves or they may justify their actions and have resentments about women. I know for a fact, when a person doesn't deal with or won't deal the pains from the past, they don't heal and they bring all that with them into the next relationship. So what a man may be most afraid of is not just finding the wrong woman, but looking inward to correct what might be causing him not to be the man he wants to be. I know I work at being the type of woman I want a man to love and respect and I want the same from the person I hope to end up with... It means that your willing to take a risk and put someone else first even if it hurts. Relationships are more important than gold. Investing in someone is hard, but if you have the maturity level to love then it's even easier to be loved in return. I'm sorry for most the men I meet. Their lives seem shallow and even lost at times. I really do want to find that someone, but so far I've met a lot of someones who aren't ready for anyone. Humm…. I think what I’m hearing from the male section is that women are gold diggers, users and takers… Being a wife to a man who loved his money more than his family and his drink more than his money, I’ve met more men who haven’t made it to a maturity level in life and actually want to be good husbands. They seem to be more into their own egos and what makes them feel satisfied. At 54, I would love to find a great guy who wants the love and respect I want to give and receive… I hear an awful lot of men talk about how they have been victimized, but stats show that men who’ve been divorced usually remarry within a two year period and women within 5 years, due to trust issues from what I’ve read. The divorce rate is higher among second marriages than in first marriages and women my age have 13% chance of remarriage…. So after dating a lot of different men over a 9 year period, ( I waited a good 3 years to date after my divorce as I wanted to be emotionally ready) I’m still single. I’ve made good friends and one of my best friends is a really great older man who has been a strong mentor and father to me. From his perspective he’s not impressed with the things I tell him about the men I meet. My personal opinion is that men who’ve gone through a divorce don’t work on forgiving their ex spouse or themselves or they may justify their actions and have resentments about women. I know for a fact, when a person doesn’t deal with or won’t deal the pains from the past, they don’t heal and they bring all that with them into the next relationship. So what a man may be most afraid of is not just finding the wrong woman, but looking inward to correct what might be causing him not to be the man he wants to be. I know I work at being the type of woman I want a man to love and respect and I want the same from the person I hope to end up with… It means that your willing to take a risk and put someone else first even if it hurts. Relationships are more important than gold. Investing in someone is hard, but if you have the maturity level to love then it’s even easier to be loved in return. I’m sorry for most the men I meet. Their lives seem shallow and even lost at times. I really do want to find that someone, but so far I’ve met a lot of someones who aren’t ready for anyone.

]]> By: Bruce http://www.datingquestionsforwomen.com/are-older-successful-men-scared-of-commitment/comment-page-1#comment-2162 Bruce Thu, 03 Mar 2011 04:00:58 +0000 http://www.datingquestionsforwomen.com/?p=152#comment-2162 The real clue is in the first few paragraphs... "He’s got a great career, is fairly successful, and has a lot going on in his life." He KNOWS your a potential gold digger who will try to wipe him out in divorce. Nothing more or less. The real clue is in the first few paragraphs…

“He’s got a great career, is fairly successful, and has a lot going on in his life.”

He KNOWS your a potential gold digger who will try to wipe him out in divorce.

Nothing more or less.

]]> By: Liz http://www.datingquestionsforwomen.com/are-older-successful-men-scared-of-commitment/comment-page-1#comment-2157 Liz Sat, 26 Feb 2011 17:50:40 +0000 http://www.datingquestionsforwomen.com/?p=152#comment-2157 Hmmm... seems like there's only comments from the men here. Speaking from a woman's point of view.. I'm not looking for a man to support me entirely but I do expect a man to work whether it's intellectual or physical work doesn't matter. I'm not looking for a man who can "keep me in the style I've been accustomed to" because I've always supported myself and don't have or require a fancy lifestyle. Do you also believe that all women have had many sex partners? I'd like you to know there are quite a few of us that have not and we do not trade sex for support either in or out of marriage. Personally I am one of those. I find it truly offensive for a man to also imply that they are the ones who are always hurt by the women. HONESTLY? I think it's just as evenly divided both ways and that in a majority if cases "it takes two to tango" both into and out of a relationship. I'm pretty morally, ethically, mentally, spiritually and sexually stable. Do I have my faults? SURE plenty but no more so then anyone else. It is my opinion that if we reinstituted emotional maturity and ethics in relationships (both men and women) we'd all have an easier time. I'm currently single and yes, I'm looking for marriage but that is because of my spiritual convictions. I do not find either sex to be a utopia and blameless in the singles game. I do NOT believe men have more difficulties then women or vice versa. They're just different. What I do believe is that if you look to blame the opposite sex for their differences you will remain single, which is fine, if that's what you wish. Just be upfront about it. Honesty still is ALWAYS the best policy and that's not confined to one sex. Hmmm… seems like there’s only comments from the men here. Speaking from a woman’s point of view.. I’m not looking for a man to support me entirely but I do expect a man to work whether it’s intellectual or physical work doesn’t matter. I’m not looking for a man who can “keep me in the style I’ve been accustomed to” because I’ve always supported myself and don’t have or require a fancy lifestyle. Do you also believe that all women have had many sex partners? I’d like you to know there are quite a few of us that have not and we do not trade sex for support either in or out of marriage. Personally I am one of those. I find it truly offensive for a man to also imply that they are the ones who are always hurt by the women. HONESTLY? I think it’s just as evenly divided both ways and that in a majority if cases “it takes two to tango” both into and out of a relationship. I’m pretty morally, ethically, mentally, spiritually and sexually stable. Do I have my faults? SURE plenty but no more so then anyone else. It is my opinion that if we reinstituted emotional maturity and ethics in relationships (both men and women) we’d all have an easier time. I’m currently single and yes, I’m looking for marriage but that is because of my spiritual convictions. I do not find either sex to be a utopia and blameless in the singles game. I do NOT believe men have more difficulties then women or vice versa. They’re just different. What I do believe is that if you look to blame the opposite sex for their differences you will remain single, which is fine, if that’s what you wish. Just be upfront about it. Honesty still is ALWAYS the best policy and that’s not confined to one sex.

]]> By: reality sux aye aye aye http://www.datingquestionsforwomen.com/are-older-successful-men-scared-of-commitment/comment-page-1#comment-2137 reality sux aye aye aye Fri, 21 Jan 2011 08:04:25 +0000 http://www.datingquestionsforwomen.com/?p=152#comment-2137 when will woman wake the fuck up and realize that if a guy has been hurt a few times he will be scared and its woman fault if they cant find a nice guy coz you woman chose your modern way of living based on seeing men as a comfort zone for comfortable living and just some thing to sleep with until something better comes along. Men have an instinct that tells them if a woman has had too many partners they are unfit mothers and partners and are scared of that pattern why ?? duhhh coz his x partners where like that coz thanks to american media and bullshit woman do what the media tell them and feel unless a guy can give them unrealistic materials and comforts that he isnt good enough,so what the fuck was woman freedom about or equality seems its one sided rather than its true value.what do monkeys do when they are hungry ? they exchange sex for food um shit doesnt sound far of what so called female values are based on ,so much for equality aye.so keep it simple stupid (kiss) base your likes on the person not the gains from the person when will woman wake the fuck up and realize that if a guy has been hurt a few times he will be scared and its woman fault if they cant find a nice guy coz you woman chose your modern way of living based on seeing men as a comfort zone for comfortable living and just some thing to sleep with until something better comes along. Men have an instinct that tells them if a woman has had too many partners they are unfit mothers and partners and are scared of that pattern why ?? duhhh coz his x partners where like that coz thanks to american media and bullshit woman do what the media tell them and feel unless a guy can give them unrealistic materials and comforts that he isnt good enough,so what the fuck was woman freedom about or equality seems its one sided rather than its true value.what do monkeys do when they are hungry ? they exchange sex for food um shit doesnt sound far of what so called female values are based on ,so much for equality aye.so keep it simple stupid (kiss) base your likes on the person not the gains from the person

]]> By: David http://www.datingquestionsforwomen.com/are-older-successful-men-scared-of-commitment/comment-page-1#comment-2067 David Thu, 09 Sep 2010 19:25:28 +0000 http://www.datingquestionsforwomen.com/?p=152#comment-2067 Throughout all of this text, there is the constant mixture of 'loving'...'dating'..and 'marriage'. why? The fact is, by the age of 40 or later - us men have often figured out the intentions of most women. This is not hard to do, and we are not stupid. The ultimate goal seems to be 'marriage'..which is simply a legal aspect of bringing the state into relationships. At this age we have seen many of our friends decimated financially and emotionally by divorce and saddled with huge fiancial problems after the divorce. Do we REALLY want to go through the same? So how is it, that once a woman discovers you are not 'into' marriage feels this means you are not open for a committed relationship? Like it or not, many of the courts and laws of the country favour the woman in divorce. Usually too at this age many women come with significant 'baggage' such as children, fiancial debt, drink problems whilst as men we have become significantly wealthy that a large part of our time is spent actually managing our own money for investment whilst women have spent everything they have and much more. Sex is good, but it doesn't control our brains like when we were 18. Throughout all of this text, there is the constant mixture of ‘loving’…’dating’..and ‘marriage’. why? The fact is, by the age of 40 or later – us men have often figured out the intentions of most women. This is not hard to do, and we are not stupid. The ultimate goal seems to be ‘marriage’..which is simply a legal aspect of bringing the state into relationships. At this age we have seen many of our friends decimated financially and emotionally by divorce and saddled with huge fiancial problems after the divorce. Do we REALLY want to go through the same? So how is it, that once a woman discovers you are not ‘into’ marriage feels this means you are not open for a committed relationship? Like it or not, many of the courts and laws of the country favour the woman in divorce. Usually too at this age many women come with significant ‘baggage’ such as children, fiancial debt, drink problems whilst as men we have become significantly wealthy that a large part of our time is spent actually managing our own money for investment whilst women have spent everything they have and much more. Sex is good, but it doesn’t control our brains like when we were 18.

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